We Show Up, Even when We Run on Empty | Ep.72

[00:00:28] Man, this is actually very comfortable, the soft padding behind my back. I'm ready for a nap. This is the nap show. This is the nap show. You guys get to watch us nap for an hour. For all those men out there who feel like they could just use a fucking nap, join us. Tell your wife you're listening to a mental health show. Find somewhere comfy. Curl up. And just listen to us breathe. And just listen to me calmly talk you through five whiskeys and then a nap.

[00:00:58] Matt, actually this would be pretty good. Yeah, right? Just listening to that. That's better than ocean sounds. So speaking of listening... I sleep with a fan on. Do you sleep with a fan on? No. In fact, now I can't sleep without a fan on. I've done it before when I worked midnights because that was like the only way I could sleep during the day. Because, of course, neighbors don't give a shit that you work in nights and like... Well, no, I wouldn't. ...cut the grass and, you know, hear cars, whatever. Do everything normal humans do, yes, correct?

[00:01:27] Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's a new problem. Exactly. And that's why I slept with a fan, I suppose. I love it. What I've been falling asleep to lately is listening to theta waves. Oh, you said that earlier today. Yeah, so I've listened to Dr. Joe Dispanza and he's got this whole... Frequency...

[00:01:53] Well, like, he talks and like it's so hard to explain because like he talks about many things. The first episode I heard about him was about him being in a crazy accident where the doctor said you're never gonna walk and then... Oh, is he the one who healed himself? Yes. Or whatever. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's a very... That's a really retarded way to put it, but yes. It's like the truth is somewhere out there, you know? Yeah, yeah, that's what I meant. I just... Here we are. But, yeah, like... Hey, we're doing a show.

[00:02:22] He talks about like a lot... It's like if you're gonna be constantly feeling in doubt, you're never gonna achieve your goals that you wanna do, you know? Yeah. So it's just kinda changing your mentality. Talks about lots about the reprogramming of your subconsciousness. Yeah, that's a thing. So he talks about like we don't think about like I have to inhale, now I have to exhale, now I have to inhale. It's just automatic. Like that's programmed in our body, in our mind, we're doing it, that's the subconscious that's doing it.

[00:02:51] A lot of the consciousness that we've programmed over the years is like we're worried about like, ooh, what if this doesn't work out? What's gonna happen? And now that's in our mind. So you're not boring, we are listening. And that's what we need to get rid of, right? Yeah. And so part of it was, is you condition your mind while you're asleep.

[00:03:14] You can listen to different frequencies, different theta waves that help you, you know, fall asleep, get into the deep sleep right away. So there was this, he has this program, but they offered like, hey, you can buy this package of audio files. I was like, you know what, it was 39 US dollars. So $55, $60 call it. I spent $60 on worse shit. Yeah. Okay.

[00:03:42] And so, you know, so I was like, I went to bed and then my wife was like, what are you doing? I'm like, I want to try something. I just bought this thing. You didn't give her a heads up. You just told her at bedtime. Yeah. And I was just like, I was just like, listen, like, well, and I told her, I'm like, cause she likes to read sometimes still while we're in bed. So like, I'm like, instead of me having the TV on, cause he talked about that too. Like lots of that. Well, in blue light, you can get into exactly. You can go down the rabbit hole as far as you want to go.

[00:04:12] And so I was just like, you know what? I just want to try this. Like if you're going to be reading, if you don't mind, I'll put this audio and she's like, Oh, I'm going to try it with you. Right. So she put her, she put her ebook down. She's such a nice lady. She is. Lady. That sounds so old. No, she's a nice lady. She's a nice lady. That's what I say about everybody. I mean, yeah. You say that about me too. No, not you. No, I would never say that about you. But so she agreed. So it's a 12 minute, 12 and a half minute long audio.

[00:04:42] Okay. And it starts off like, okay, like find it. There's like these. They're talking. Yeah. Oh, I don't like that. But so there's like this audio, like, you know, like your meditation, typical meditation sounds, you know? Yeah. And then it's a very calm man talking like, okay, find your position, comfortable position. Now take a deep breath, exhale, take another one more time. Okay. And then now picture that you're in this place. It's a guided meditation.

[00:05:11] It is. Yeah. And then you're walking on the field and you, you approach to the, the, you get to this cottage and then there's a dog whacking his tail. And then you see a bench, you sit down on the bench, the cat jumps up on your lap and purrs. And, and, and I don't know what the fuck happened there for the rest of the day. You fell asleep. I fell asleep. That was it. Like before I passed out, my wife was already snoring. Like it, it fucking works, man. I have not, I have yet to get to the end of the story. Really?

[00:05:42] Yeah. I don't know how the story ends. 12 minutes. Yeah. And that's that. I want to say that's probably about five to seven minutes mark where I fall asleep. Interesting. And then the end of the story is really fucked up. Maybe. Like I said, I haven't heard it, but so then, you know, I started doing takes a shit on your lap and your wife comes up screaming at you cause she caught you cheating.

[00:06:07] But so I, I, I did a little more digging into like, sorry, I'm not taking it serious. No, no, that's okay. But there's a, there's a little more to like listening to like certain, um, frequencies. Yeah. There's, there's frequencies for abundance. There's frequencies for energy, frequencies for REM sleeves. So like, you know, different numbers. So I, I, I, I, once in a while I put on just those for the night and then there's ones too

[00:06:36] that are, you're supposed to be programming your subconsciousness for whatever it is that you're trying to achieve. And you listen to these talks. Like some, there's some with the vocal and audio speaking. Yeah. So I've done some off and on, I don't know if I'd call it research looking into this. Yeah.

[00:07:01] The risk is that, and I mean, okay, if we're talking about sleep, well, if it makes you fall asleep and stay asleep, it's probably good. That's fair. But like when you get into that, like second level of it, like, are you, is it actually the right frequencies? Are you receiving it under the, like, what kind of speakers are you hearing it from? What kind of, like all those things actually, if we're talking about the actual frequency,

[00:07:29] my hesitation with all of that has always been like, I come from an audio for sure. Uh, whatever, history, production, audio production, making albums, stuff like that. Well, and like, to me, when you say frequency, like that's a very measurable thing. It is. So what am I listening to? Is it actually that frequency? Am I hearing it? If you're in front of the speaker, like, Am I hearing it in a clean way? Like, what am I, what are we doing here?

[00:07:58] Cause the cell phone, cell phone speaker. And so then my head gets going and I can't fall asleep because I've got a million questions Exactly. That I need to answer for myself. No, but that's the thing. And you're absolutely right because the cell phone speaker will not have the waves because waves are not visible, but they are out there. Yeah. So those cell phone waves are a lot smaller than if you had like one of those speakers. Sure. You know, beside your head, right? So maybe it would be received differently. And I don't know. Like, I, I haven't really done.

[00:08:28] I don't have the energy to put the work into this, but I'm curious. Yeah. But yeah, exactly. But also if it made you fall asleep in seven minutes. And that's just it. Like it's, it's just a 12 minute thing. So I'm like, ah, well, I'll fucking try it, you know? And, uh, and yeah, so it's, it's really neat. And it's just maybe, uh, I'm trying to look at things from a different perspective and trying new things. I'd love to get into like the actual meditation and, um, I've heard from people, from friends

[00:08:57] that have done it and it's incredible. I've been avoiding my own thoughts for 20 years and I don't plan to start now. But that's the thing. Sometimes meditation is not about listening to your thoughts. No, we got to go through that. Yeah. Yeah. You got to shut those off sometimes. Nope. They're just too strong. That's what this is for. Yeah. Um, anyways, um, when we had, no, no, no, no. Yeah. I mean, yes, but, uh, I don't get a say in this episode. What are we just doing your thing?

[00:09:26] Yeah, exactly. Fine. Carry on. Some people might say that that is numbing what you need to tackle too. Right. It, that's the point. That's the, that's exactly the point. And so, and I think until you're ready to actually death. Yeah. Do that. Got you. Yeah. Follow. Carry on. Then, then, you know, you'll, you'll do what's necessary to do. I'm not saying you specifically, but like, if you're not willing to do the work to meditate, then you're never going to achieve that.

[00:09:56] Right. So that's what I'm trying to, I'm trying to get. Cause like it's too, the meditation. Some people look at it as like, well, yeah, 15 minutes, you can shut things off and just meditate. No, it's not that easy. Like, um, you actually have to try crying. I'm not doing that. Yeah. So you have to, you have to really train your mind and your body to, to do that. Right. And that's, that takes a lot of work. So, um, but yeah, like any, we didn't plan to talk about this. Not at all.

[00:10:26] Well, I mean, I kind of did, but I didn't tell you. Oh, well, yeah, yeah. I'm not telling you shit. Cause you're going to shut it down before we begin. What do you mean? No. When have I ever done that? Well, let me go back. Let me go back to the recordings. Name one. When have I ever done that? I don't do that. I don't know. I can't come up with anything. Yeah, I know. Cause there is nothing. My brain's not working. You're thinking about the cat on the porch or whatever the fuck you're doing. Yeah, sitting in my lap. Half asleep. Get to minute eight. It's where I show up.

[00:10:54] And also, it wasn't purring. It was just me farting. It's relaxing, I guess. Adrian was like, I heard the purring. That was me. It's a release. It's a relaxing thing. Release, yeah. It was a release. Yeah. Last time we had Jeff on here, we didn't actually do the check-in. So why don't we check in? I know we can't.

[00:11:23] Sure, how about two? That was fast. Yeah. Pick me, pick me. Yeah, I don't know. We skipped it last time, it was kinda nice. I don't wanna do it anymore. Yeah. No, we're doing it. I know we're doing it. I just told you I'm a two. Yeah, okay. Elaborate on it. It doesn't mean I wanna do it, it just means I'm doing it. Elaborate on it. I'm a two, I feel like shit. Kinda sick. Yeah. Which you can probably hear. Yeah. Well, you sound a lot better than you sounded like a few years ago. Oh man, last weekend was bad.

[00:11:52] Yeah, you were out of town a little bit. Yeah. I know you wanted to talk about that a little bit because you have spent, you went for a volleyball tournament with your daughter, right? Yes. And that's kind of the reason why we skipped a week because we weren't here. To clarify, she was in the volleyball tournament. Yes. Not media. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I just wanna clarify. Just to get some people- In case there's confusion. Well, I mean when people look at your- You dragged your daughter to your volleyball tournament. She was the one playing volleyball. And you were just there to support her.

[00:12:22] I was just a witness. Yeah. And a driver. There's no parents versus kids. In a bank account. Yeah. No parents versus kids. Not at the tournament. Yeah, that's true. We did that. They should do that. I know you talked about it. It was super fun. They should do it at the tournament too. That would be fun. Oh man. I don't think we could survive too many of those in a year. We make it to the tournament, but we die there. I bruised my knee so bad last time. Like fuck. I would have loved to see it. Next time let me know because I'll come- You wanna come film it? Yeah, that's fine.

[00:12:51] I'll bring the popcorn and I'm just gonna watch it and enjoy myself. Yeah, that's fine. I'll let you know. We might do another one for the windup. Do it, yeah. Let's go Tim! You can do it! Yeah. I'm a two. Yeah, so you did spend some time with your daughter. Yeah, that was lovely. And you said that that was kind of needed a little bit, right? It was great. Yeah. Uh, she's the fucking- She's just the best. Mm-hmm. She's just the best. Yeah, she's amazing. I love her so much. She's such a sweet girl and like- She's 15? Almost. Almost 15.

[00:13:21] Yeah. So, can you please talk about a little bit about the story how like she surprised you that she didn't want to- What 15 year old girl does not want to go shop around in the mall? Oh, fuck. So we were in Edmonton and obviously going to West Edmonton Mall is like a thing. Yeah, you gotta do it. You're there. Yeah, you're doing it. I mean, I would go to the Costco liquor store first, but- Yeah, fair. If we weren't flying home, I wouldn't- Sorry, I did go. Correct. Yeah.

[00:13:51] Uh, we went to the mall and like, I should've known this would happen cause my daughter's just like, I don't know. She's just the best. Yeah, yeah. Uh, she's very like, in some aspects very emotionally mature for her age. Very. I think some of that is like being an only child where she's just always around adults. Yep. Uh, I think that's some of it.

[00:14:21] Also like, we've never treated her like a kid. So like- Yeah. She doesn't behave like that. Yeah. Not that that's an insult. That's not a bad thing or an insult, but just like, she's just, if you've met her and a few people on here have met her, but like, she's just a different kind of girl. 100%, yeah. And me and her mom are different kind of people. Yeah. So, yeah, I'm not surprised. Anyways, so we go to the mall, we're walking around West Edmonton Mall. It kind of just looks, I haven't been there in forever. Well, it's a fucking mall.

[00:14:50] It just looks like a big fucking mall. Yeah. Like, it's just a mall. Like, there's nothing. Yeah, there's a water park. Yeah, but still. There's the pirate ship thing or whatever. Yeah, yeah. Like, there's these little areas, but like, for the most part, it's just like- It's a mall. It's a fucking mall. Yeah, there's escalators. There's escalators. There's weird flooring. Yeah. And like, you just kind of walk around and like, it's whatever. So she kind of grabbed onto that. Yeah. Cause I was like, oh, she's gonna wanna do some shopping. Like, we'll be here for a few hours. No problem. Like, I'll just wander around and whatever.

[00:15:22] And we're there for like half an hour. We go into some stores. What? No, I'm laughing at the story. Cause I already heard it, but yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We're there for like half an hour or whatever. I don't even- You lose track of time when you go into a mall. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But we're walking around, we go into some stores. Then I'm like, oh, you like that place. Do you wanna go in there? She's like, not really. And I'm like, well, what do you mean not really? She's like, well, like- Your wallet's like, thank God. Yeah, no, I'm gonna have to spend it eventually.

[00:15:51] But she's just like, I don't know, it's just, this seems like a lot. Okay. And I'm like, right? Like, it's a lot of options. She's like, yeah. That's awesome. So we went into this one store that we don't have here. Okay. So I was like, okay. We went into a store. She wanted to go in. What is it? It's like A-L-A-L-O? A-L-O? Fucking beats me. I don't know. It's the same shit as everywhere else, but- My daughter probably knows. Three times as much money. So no problem.

[00:16:22] It's fine. But it's all the same shit. Yeah. So we go in. Like, she's like, oh, I'd love an Aloe hoodie. I'm like, all right, let's find you one. Oh man. Hold on. I got a bow. Yeah, go. No edits though. No edits. Pause. Pause. Nah. Nah. You ready? Okay. No edits.

[00:16:51] No edits. I'm back. Okay. So we go into Aloe or however- I'm so gonna edit it. Aloe, Aloe. I don't know. No, don't edit it. Just leave it. Let it go. Continue the joke. No, it's not a joke. It's a story. And we go in there like she- Okay, there's a hoodie she likes. I'm like, okay, we'll try it on. She's like, well, I'm not trying it on out here. And I'm like, okay, like, what do you mean? I know, because people will have an opinion about her.

[00:17:21] Because God forbid- Yeah. It's a hoodie. I'm like, you're putting it over a shirt. Yeah. Who wears a hoodie without a shirt on her? Nobody. Yeah, I don't know. Like gross people, yeah. I don't know. So she just doesn't want to try it on in front of people. She's a teenager. I understand. Yeah, yeah. I don't understand, but like- Yeah, whatever. It's a thing. Yeah, it's clearly a thing. So she's like, we'll go to the change room. And I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa. You're not shopping with mom. I can't go to the change room with you. Yeah, yeah. Like, she's like, oh, right.

[00:17:51] Like, yeah. Yeah. You're not with mom or Oma. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, I can't just go to the change room with you. So I'm like, I'm going to hang here- Yeah, you go. And you go do whatever you do. And then you can come out. And she's like, oh, it fit really nice. I'm like, okay, but what about like, did it fit nice after you wash it? What do you think? Did she not come out to show you? No. Okay. No. She would never. I don't know. It's fine. Yeah, yeah. You have a daughter. Yeah, I mean- Maybe you never did. I don't know.

[00:18:20] I don't go shopping with her. She just- Yeah, that's fine. So I'm like, okay, well, how'd it fit? She's like, nice. It fits nice. Looks good. I'm like, okay, great. And then I look at the price tag, which is fine. It's $170. So no problem. I'm good. Yeah. But I said, okay, I'm just like, I'm not- And this is what I said to her. I said, I'm not trying to talk you out of it, but it's $170.

[00:18:50] So do you love it? $170. And she stops and she's like, it's $170. I'm like, yeah. I'm like, do you love it that much? She's like, well, it fit pretty nice. Yeah, that's a no. So it's fine. Well, yeah. But I'm not trying to talk her out, because I'll pay the hundred- Like, that's fine. I'm not worried about the cost. So she's like, well, it fit pretty nice. I'm like, okay. Then she pauses.

[00:19:19] I just leave some space for her to think. Process it, yeah. And she goes, I could buy so much other stuff with that. For $170, I can probably get- Yeah, she's like, I could get so many other things with that. For a full outfit or whatever. And I'm like, yeah, you could. But if you love this, that's okay. And she's like, I don't know. And I'm like, also, just life lesson. If you're going to spend $170 on a hoodie, you're not putting it in the dryer. Yeah, no.

[00:19:46] You're washing it, you're hanging it to dry, and you're taking care of it. Yeah. Because it's a $170 hoodie. Yeah. She's like, oh, you're right. She's like, I don't want to do that. I'm like, so you don't want it? She's like, no. Nice. So we left. And so we kept walking, and she stops at that point, and she's like, I don't think I want to be here anymore. Yeah. I'm like, okay, well, what's that about? She's like, it's just kind of all the same.

[00:20:15] There's too many options, and there's too much going on. And that aloe store was kind of a mess. Yeah. It was like a disappointment almost. She's like, you think if you went to a store that charges that much for their clothes, they'd clean it up? Yeah. I'm like, yeah, they didn't. It was a fucking mess. Oh, wow. Okay. So she's just like, can we just go and get some food and go back to the hotel? I'm like, absolutely. Yeah. So we got Chipotle, because she never had Chipotle, because we don't have one here. Oh, I love Chipotle. Yeah, yeah.

[00:20:44] We're supposed to get one right away, but we don't have one here. And so we got Chipotle, we went back to the hotel room, put on some garbage reality TV. Yeah, yeah. And we sat in our beds and made jokes and ate Chipotle, and it was fucking awesome. So even though you're a two, like... You have an ant on your... Oh, nice. Sorry. No edits. Yeah. Even though you're a two... See the conditions I have to record in here?

[00:21:10] That was probably a really nice time for you to... We had the best trip. Like, it was so great. I was sick. Fine. Whatever. But like... What else? Yeah. We had such a good time together. Like, I haven't spent that... I've never actually spent that much time just with her. Yeah. Was this like your first trip just with her? Ever. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah.

[00:21:32] Yeah, yeah. Was it like a nice fancy hotel? It was nice. Yeah? Yeah. It wasn't like... Well, because I know you like your luxury. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Not luxury, but I'm fussy. Yeah, yeah. A little bit. It's luxury. Well, okay. Fine. Whatever you want to call it. No, no, no. So, yeah. We just like...

[00:22:00] She got to experience traveling with me, and like, I had to be super patient traveling with somebody else. Yeah, yeah. It doesn't even matter that it was her. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It could be anybody. Yeah, for sure. I could go on a trip with you, and I'd be like, Jesus fucking Christ. He keeps farting the whole time. But when it's your kid, you can't do that? So you're just like, okay, I'm teaching you about travel. Yeah. Okay, well, you're going to learn how to travel. Oh, you can teach me. Like, how I have learned how to travel. Yeah. And so, like, little pointers and tips and stuff.

[00:22:28] I really fucked that up all the way home, but it's a separate story. I'll tell it on the next show. But yeah, just like teaching her about traveling and things like that. Yep. Jacob! Yeah! Oh shit, he's coming in. Okay. What does he got here? Snacks. Snacks. What's that? Chickpeas? Oh, these are air fried. Thanks, buddy. What's that joke about chickpeas? Oh. Jacob. You want to hear this? Okay.

[00:23:01] Alright. You're the best, buddy. Thanks for those snacks. I love it that you're still too young to understand this joke. That's great. I know what that means. Promise me you won't think about it when you get upstairs. And don't tell your mom. Certainly don't tell your mom or your sister. Oh, these are good. Anyways, so you're a two. Anyways, I'm a two. I might be like a three now. Well, I'm glad. I'm glad to hear that. Yeah. It's bad. Everything sucks. Because of Jacob. I love him. That's why you're right.

[00:23:31] I love your family. Yeah. I love them too. I have to. I know. I have no choice. I choose to love them and they're lovely people. We also hear a lot. Yeah. Well, actually lately, not so much. Well, not as much, but... Now I'm visiting your office. Yeah. Yeah. That's pretty good. That's nice. That is a good... Anyways. It's been really nice. Yeah. That's a long check-in. Jesus. Mm-hmm. This whole show is a check-in. Yeah. I mean, that's pretty much it.

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[00:24:59] Funny story. I was sick coming home, because I'm still kind of sick from it. And we're sitting on the plane and like she gets the window seat, which... I'm in the... I booked... I booked us seats next to each other, because it's like it's not like you're going to book seats not next to your child. But like I knew before we even flew, I knew like, ah, fuck, I have to give her the window seat. And that's your seat. So I'm in the middle. Yeah, there is nothing worse. Ever.

[00:25:28] So on the way to Edmonton, no problem, the plane was kind of empty. Yeah, yeah. The middle was empty. Yeah. That's the best case scenario. On the way home, not so much. So I'm in the middle seat, which is the worst. No question the worst seat on the plane. What? Who was the third person? So I'm getting to that. OK. So some guy. OK. So I'm sitting next to him. I'm sick. I'm like coughing.

[00:25:57] Fucking my eyes are watering and shit. Like I'm a nightmare to be next to at this point. My daughter's used to it. She's got... She thought she lost her headphones or could, ah, that's a whole... I'll tell that whole story next episode. No, no, no, no. I'm telling it next episode, but I'm saving it for next episode. It's a huge travel Tim fuck up and a travel dad fuck up. Oh, shit. OK. Oh, no, it's funny.

[00:26:26] And I'm such a stupid idiot. I'll make sure. I'll try to remember and bring it up. So anyways, sitting next to this guy. I get a peek at this guy as we go to our seat because he's already seated. Yeah. And I'm like, oh, God, he's like a fucking dweeb. Like he's a dweeby, I don't know, like... He just looks like he's uptight about everything. Oh, OK. That's what I mean. Yeah. He just... Maybe dweeb's like an 80s term or whatever. Maybe, yeah.

[00:26:56] But like, he looks like he's just uptight about everything. Yeah, yeah, yeah. He looks tense. Yeah. Like he just looks tense. Like, oh, I have to get up to let these people in. Something about him, I don't know. I've flown lots. I've met a million of them. But, oh, fuck. Just, yeah. Get it out. Get it out, yeah. But now I got to sit next to him. Fuck. So no problem, fine. I don't give a shit.

[00:27:25] Like I'm... I'm sitting there. And I'm like coughing because I'm like, I'm still like fucking sick. Yeah. I definitely have to edit this shit out. You're gonna be... No, no, no. No edits. So... You'll have to listen to find out. I will. And if you edit it, I'm gonna be pissed. Okay. That's fine. Sorry. Oh, Jesus. Okay. I need a sec.

[00:27:56] Insert elevator music. That's an acceptable edit. Have a chick pee on your face. So we're sitting there and not like, not unlike what just happened, I fucking start coughing. And I'm like blowing my nose. I'm leaking. I'm like coughing. Worst thing on an airplane. Oh, and dude's just so... Even if you're not uptight, like you don't want to sit beside a sick person. No.

[00:28:26] Nevermind an uptight guy. So he like goes to his bag. I see him like rifling in the over. We haven't even taken off yet. He pulls his bag out of the over. That's funny. That's funny. And he grabs this thing out of his bag and puts his bag back, whatever. And he opens it out. I'm like, what the fuck is he doing? Oh, it's a mask. He put it on? Oh, yeah. Nice.

[00:28:53] So I just, I look at him and I like, I'm like, at this point it's funny. So I give him the elbow nudge and I go like, sorry, bud. And I'm like coughing and blowing my nose. My eyes are watering. He's like, no problem. That's why I have these. And I'm like... But you know what? To be honest, like that's fair. I don't give a shit. It's a you do your thing. I don't give a fuck. It's fine. No, that is fair. If he wants to put it on, I mean, I probably would be happy to have it. Yeah, fine.

[00:29:22] To be fair, it wasn't an N95 mask. So like, it's actually not doing anything. Yeah. But that's a whole other conversation. Yeah. But like, it was so funny. I just like, I hack, I cough, I sneeze, I blow my nose. And he's like, fuck this shit. And he goes and just gets his mask. That's why I have these. I'm like, good for you, bud. Enjoy your flight. Yeah. See you in Winnipeg. Like... Oh, man. It was pretty funny. That's... I loved it because he was...

[00:29:52] If you've traveled any amount, like you know who I'm talking about. Yeah. Like the type. You know that guy on the plane? Go on. That was the guy. Yeah. You know, I love traveling, like flying. It's so comfortable for me. And I usually, I like the window seat. Me too. I gave it to my daughter. And the only reason... So if I travel with Jacob, he's sitting in the middle. Fuck it. Really? You're a little guy.

[00:30:22] You stick him in the middle, eh? Yeah. Cause I'm like, you're a little guy. And like, there's nothing to see out the window except at takeoff and landing. And so when that's happening, I have no... He can sit there, but like, especially when we're flying to Europe, like on the long flight, I can't be bothered by like people crawling across me, like... Sure. Cause I'm gonna... That's why I like the window seat. I lean against the window and the wall and I'm out. Yeah. And I fall asleep and then, you know, I don't go get out three, four times to piss, you

[00:30:51] know, on a short flight. So yeah, that's why I like to take the inside one. And then also I'm a bigger guy. So if I'm sitting by the aisle, my shoulder... The card bumps you. Oh, fuck people. Don't give a shit. No, fuck that. Yeah. I like the window seat. Yeah. Um, but yeah, no, I love traveling and like, there's nothing worse. Um, when you have, I think three types of people.

[00:31:20] One's when they get up and they grab onto your seat to pull themselves up. Yeah. Like, I understand that you need help, but that's why there's... No, fuck that. That's a, there's arm rest. There's arm rest. Yeah. Like don't grab onto my fucking headrest when I'm like relaxing or whatever. Yeah. Or possibly sleeping. Now I'm fucking awake. Two, when I see... Now this is kind of two parts.

[00:31:46] So two A, when I, when you take your fucking shoes off. Oh, don't ever. Ever. And two B, when I see your fucking toes poking through between my legs. No, come on. On their feet because like, don't fucking put your feet in my stone. No, just don't take your shoes off on an airplane. Yeah. Ever.

[00:32:16] And three, what I absolutely hate is... If you're a kid, fine. Sure. No, to a point. Sure, but yeah. My daughter's already passed that age. Oh, even Jacob. If she took her shoes off on the plane, fuck you. Like, if you take your shoes off and you want to like sit on your legs or something like that, I'm okay with that. I don't love it. But because he's little enough. I don't love it. I don't love it. I don't love it. I don't love it. I don't love it. Just don't. No. And so three is... Have you ever encountered bear feet? Oh yeah.

[00:32:47] Oh yeah. Really? Yeah, fucking gross. I think I only have a couple times. Maybe once. I've only done it once. You've done it once? I've done it once. You've done it? Because I flew in the winter to Cuba and I said I'm never doing that again. I absolutely hated it. Hated what? Like being in flip flops on an airplane. Did you take your flip flops off? Oh no. No, no, no. No, no. I was... Sorry, I meant like I didn't have socks on and I had flip flops on.

[00:33:16] I would never take them off and yeah. When I... I don't know if I can be your friend. I know. I know. That's tough. I was actually quite ashamed. That's pretty tough. I'm glad you're ashamed. That's the only thing that's keeping us friends right now. Ugh. And the third... Keep your fucking shoes on on an airplane. And the third thing I absolutely hate... It's not your living room. Is people that complain about things that you cannot control. Or anything. Well... Shut up. Like...

[00:33:45] Yeah, oh, the baby's crying. It sucks. Yeah. I get it. There's nothing like what... You wanted to kill the baby right now? Well, and also like... Like what do you do? Of course the baby's crying. Yeah. I don't like pressure changes flying on a fucking airplane. Imagine a kid that has no idea what the fuck's going on. I get fucking sinus shit. My ears don't pop for two days. Like, I don't like it either. Yeah. But like, it's fine. Like, this being doesn't understand what's happening. Yeah.

[00:34:12] If you see a baby crying on a plane, buy the mom and dad a drink. Yeah. Do that. How about do something nice? If everything goes well, do you have a routine? Like... Like, certain things that you always do automatically. From the moment I leave my house for the airport. Yeah, yeah, okay. Yeah, yeah. No, sorry. The day before. Oh, okay. Like, I... I don't... That's why I hate traveling with other people. Yeah.

[00:34:38] If I travel with you and you're not my wife or my child, I'll see you after security. Yep. Don't talk to me. Okay. Don't coordinate when we show up at the airport. Fuck off. Yeah. Like, fuck yourself. I'll see you there. I'll show up when I want to show up. Don't even text me in the morning. Like, just shut up. Oh, man. I can't wait to travel with you. I can't wait to travel with you. For you? Hey, Tim! I'll see you on the plane. Hey, Tim! I don't need to talk to you. I don't need to coordinate when I get there.

[00:35:09] Can we go through security together? Oh, my... That's my worst fucking nightmare. That's my absolute worst nightmare is someone in line with me traveling with me at security. Until we're through security... Yeah. Don't fucking talk to me. No. Even if you know me and I'm right next to you, don't fucking talk to me. Don't look at me. I can't wait to travel with you. I got my headphones in. I'm not paying attention to anything you're doing or saying. Sir? Sir? No. Sir? No. It's a nightmare. No.

[00:35:38] I'm a nice person. Not when I'm traveling. Fuck you. Unless we're at the bar... Oh, God. This last trip. Sorry. This is gonna be a long episode. Yeah, yeah, yeah. On the way home from Edmonton, we're waiting to board and this fucking lady who... It's five o'clock in the morning. 530. Yep. And...

[00:36:07] She starts talking to me and my daughter. And she's all chipper and... Where are you guys headed? I just fucking woke up. Shut the fuck up. Somewhere. We're at an airport. I don't care where you're going. Don't tell me your story. You don't actually give a shit where I'm going. I don't fucking... I don't care. I really don't care. Leave me alone. And my daughter's gonna look on her face like, why is this fucking crazy lady talking to me right now? And I'm just like, welcome to traveling. Yeah.

[00:36:36] Like, should remember to charge your headphones. Like... Like, just cause you're within 10 feet of me does not mean I'm interested in talking to you. Yeah, do you see a sign like, hey, talk to me? Like, shut the fuck up. I hate it. It was so awful. Well, Tim... We got on the plane and my daughter looks at me, she's like, what was that? And I'm like, yeah, I know. I'm very happy you had a great time with your daughter. I did. I really did.

[00:37:04] I did actually, we had a lovely time. I loved it. I loved her and spending time with her. You spoke very positively about your time being there, even though it was busy. No, no, no. It was. I was sick and it was busy, but like we had such an amazing time together. Yeah. Other than other people at the airport. And you know what? And that's the thing. Like, sometimes we just need those times, right?

[00:37:28] Like, my trip with Jacob to Yorkton, which it's fucking Yorkton, Saskatchewan. Like... Nobody cares. Yeah, no. But, it was just really nice to like spend, have that time together. Because yeah, we were just like, he was on his phone, I was on my phone. We had, yeah, we had like reruns of Big Bang Theory on the team. Doesn't matter. And it was so awesome to do that, you know? So like, yeah, sometimes these little trips that we take our kids are freaking amazing.

[00:37:57] Well then I get to teach my daughter how to travel properly. Which is the best. Yeah. Like she learned so many lessons about air travel on this trip. What Jacob learned from Yorkton is like, before we leave Yorkton, we gotta hit up every liquor store to find the deals. Uncle Tim, Uncle Derek, everybody needs something and we gotta get a wallet.

[00:38:23] He was just like, how many more stores, how many more, though he called it what, the alcohol stores we're gonna stop by at. I was like, I want more buddy, and there we go. And then we'll go home, I promise. So, yeah, it was pretty funny. No, it was really fun and like, we were there for like five days. Yeah, yeah. So it was like a lot of time. It took almost a full week. Oh man, it was so much fun. And I love her to death. She's so sweet. And like just, yeah, just the best.

[00:38:52] I guess we'll end on this, but like, no matter what's going on in our lives, you know, at the end of the day, we push through shit because we need to take care of our families, right? Like we, you know, I drive the kids to, well, not anymore. My daughter now drives, which is fucking amazing. The best. But yeah, it's just like, you know, the other day we both needed vehicles.

[00:39:19] So like, okay, like, you know, Gabby was driven to her gymnastics. I had a meeting. So Jacob had Taekwondo and, and you know, on the way back, like Adrian was already on her way to pick up Jacob. And I'm like, Hey, my meeting ended so I can pick him up. She's like, well, I'm, I'm, I'm leaving. I'm already on my way. Just getting gas. I was like, get gas and go home. Like, yeah, I'll pick him up. So, you know, just like we, we do these things for them and I love go.

[00:39:47] I love the fact that I went in and watched him a little bit. And it's just, I was exhausted as fuck when I came home, but like, that's what it is. It doesn't matter. Like we, we do these things for our kids because that's what we're supposed to do, right? It's our job. Yeah. We show up, we show up for our families and when, when it's needed and just like the family shows up for us when we need them the most too. Yeah. So, um, it may not be as often as we need it, but like when, when it's needed, it's there,

[00:40:17] they're there. Right. So, um, yeah, like yesterday, actually I came home and I was exhausted. I was so fucking tired. Uh, I came to visit you. Yeah. Uh, after work and then I came home and I was just like, I sat down and I'm like, it hit me automatically. I'm like, Oh man, I'm going to fall asleep. And then, then we, you and I had to still work a little bit. Yeah. So it's like Jacob came, comes home and he's like, Oh dad, like this blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, Hey man, like give me 10 minutes. Right.

[00:40:44] So I finished the email and I was like, okay, now tell me. So he told, he was complaining about his pants being too big. They're falling off. But whatever. I was like, I'm like, dude, I'm gonna come here. I need to hug. And he just gave me the, I was like, I need your hug to give me energy. Yeah. And he did that. And I was like, okay, like, uh, before we get to our chores, we need to, I need more energy. So let's go play some ping pong. So we came down and played some ping pong. And I was like right away in a better mood. And like, he knew exactly what he needed to do to cheer me up.

[00:41:14] Right. Well, they don't even like, they do it naturally. They don't even like, yeah. Like he didn't look at it as like, Oh, I need to boost dad's energy. He was like, Oh, dad wants to have fun. All he's wanted all day was to do that. Yeah. Like that's exactly everything he ever wanted was that. So, and I'm sure your daughter really enjoyed her time as well. Yeah. We had fun.

[00:41:37] I can imagine after not wanting to be in a, in a, uh, in the mall shopping, like she probably went back and just did her own thing. And sometimes that's exactly what they need. Right. It was awesome. Yeah. Yeah. So fun. Without being nagged or do that, do your chores. Just do it anymore. It's fine. So it's kind of a vacation for her too. Oh yeah, for sure. So, well anyways, um, I know you're a two or three, but, uh, just, you know, keep, keep doing the thing. I know. I'm still here. All right.

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