"Finding Fulfillment" with Blake Lelyk

[00:00:00] Yeah, bottling up, I probably did for a long time and just realized how unhealthy that was.

[00:00:04] It's so bad, I know.

[00:00:05] And I was like, I need to talk to people. I think what also helps in my life is because I spent so long in restaurants, I have so many close female friends, I can easily talk to them and get their perspective versus the guys, what they might think is that, okay, I'm like, am I thinking this is crazy here? Like, how would you be acting if this was you and the other side? And it gives a nice perspective having them to be able to talk to and them to call when I need and like...

[00:00:26] I think access to an unbiased female brain is probably a gift.

[00:00:31] Yeah, it's a pretty great thing to have.

[00:00:33] Because I think in general men and women think differently as a group.

[00:00:36] I would say yeah. I think that's accurate, yeah.

[00:00:39] Yeah, I would think so.

[00:00:40] Yeah.

[00:00:40] And I don't understand how they think.

[00:00:43] No.

[00:00:44] We will never understand.

[00:00:45] I don't want to.

[00:01:10] Back?

[00:01:10] Yeah.

[00:01:12] Yeah, you do at this time.

[00:01:13] No, no, no, no, you're good. I had to do it last week because you weren't here.

[00:01:16] Oh yeah, you did.

[00:01:17] Or two weeks ago, yeah.

[00:01:18] This is the new setup.

[00:01:20] Yeah, well this is the second show with the new setup.

[00:01:22] Oh yeah, welcome everyone.

[00:01:23] We're back on the Quiet Ride Show or whatever.

[00:01:25] Who fucking cares?

[00:01:28] Yeah, we're back.

[00:01:29] This is my first episode in the new setup.

[00:01:32] Yeah.

[00:01:33] We haven't...

[00:01:33] You did it last week?

[00:01:35] Yeah, yeah.

[00:01:36] Two weeks ago.

[00:01:37] Or two weeks ago with the Intergalactic Hot Sauce boys?

[00:01:40] Yeah, yeah, that was a hot show.

[00:01:43] I didn't listen to that episode as I wouldn't, but...

[00:01:46] I know.

[00:01:47] Did you talk shit about me?

[00:01:48] Is that...

[00:01:48] Maybe.

[00:01:49] I don't know.

[00:01:50] I totally did.

[00:01:51] I don't know.

[00:01:52] So you might have to listen to it.

[00:01:54] Fine.

[00:01:55] And you know, there might be a reward for it if you listen.

[00:01:58] If you don't...

[00:01:58] A reward?

[00:01:59] Like a whiskey?

[00:02:00] Did I get to do that?

[00:02:01] Yeah, maybe.

[00:02:02] I don't know.

[00:02:02] You have to listen, I guess.

[00:02:03] I guess we're gonna talk about that a little bit probably.

[00:02:06] Why don't we?

[00:02:07] Yeah, we probably should.

[00:02:08] Yeah.

[00:02:09] Our guest doesn't have that same problem.

[00:02:11] No, he's sipping on the whiskey right now.

[00:02:12] I see him sipping on like one of my favorite drinks right now.

[00:02:15] That's the combo you like.

[00:02:16] Yeah, that's...

[00:02:17] And the shade looks good.

[00:02:18] You mixed it nicely.

[00:02:19] Right.

[00:02:20] I can tell.

[00:02:21] Yeah.

[00:02:21] Fuck.

[00:02:22] Yeah.

[00:02:23] So...

[00:02:24] Blake's here.

[00:02:25] Yeah.

[00:02:25] Welcome.

[00:02:26] Thanks for having me guys.

[00:02:27] Yeah.

[00:02:28] I've met you a handful of times, a couple times or so in person, but I've seen you around

[00:02:33] on the previous podcast that Tim was on and I was always jealous because you were

[00:02:39] making fancy drinks and I was hoping that when you show up here you're gonna be making

[00:02:42] some fancy drinks for us, but we're not drinking, so...

[00:02:45] Yeah, that's a bit of a problem.

[00:02:46] Yeah.

[00:02:47] It's a huge problem.

[00:02:48] I mean, I guess I could have cooked again.

[00:02:50] We didn't really plan it out.

[00:02:51] Yeah, I don't know.

[00:02:52] We didn't really plan it out.

[00:02:53] But this was way easier for me this time.

[00:02:54] Yeah, that's fine.

[00:02:55] We don't need to...

[00:02:56] Well, for the first show we'll take it easy on you, but next, if you come on the show

[00:03:00] again, then you have to cook or prepare for it.

[00:03:02] We'll wait till we're drinking again.

[00:03:04] That's a way better idea.

[00:03:05] Yeah.

[00:03:05] I don't even want to hang out with people.

[00:03:08] I've had a hard time wanting to hang out with anybody.

[00:03:11] Yeah.

[00:03:11] It's been two weeks, by the way.

[00:03:13] Yeah, two weeks.

[00:03:14] 15 days.

[00:03:15] Today's day 15.

[00:03:17] Yeah, literally.

[00:03:17] That's gross.

[00:03:18] I know.

[00:03:18] Oh, dude, it's shit.

[00:03:20] Yeah, it is 15, yeah.

[00:03:21] Do you want to talk about your two weeks?

[00:03:23] Should we do that?

[00:03:23] Yeah, I...

[00:03:25] Then we can find out how much better Blake's life is.

[00:03:27] I guess we're going to do the check-in right now and then we'll...

[00:03:30] Sure.

[00:03:31] Yeah, we'll do that.

[00:03:31] I guess that's part of the check-in.

[00:03:32] Or do we want to do like a separate, a booze check-in?

[00:03:35] I think the no drinking...

[00:03:37] Oh, I can hear the ice rattling.

[00:03:38] It's just like...

[00:03:39] I did that on purpose.

[00:03:41] Good thing I'm covering my...

[00:03:43] Cross my legs here.

[00:03:44] We're having a problem.

[00:03:45] I think that how we feel is affected by the no drinking.

[00:03:52] So it's part of the check-in.

[00:03:54] So why don't we do that?

[00:03:54] All right.

[00:04:02] Why don't you start?

[00:04:03] Check-in?

[00:04:04] Yeah.

[00:04:04] Okay, well, Blake doesn't know what the check-in is, so...

[00:04:08] I guess he listened to one episode, so we've...

[00:04:11] I was listening and heard about the check-in.

[00:04:12] Okay.

[00:04:13] It's a one to ten.

[00:04:14] Pick your timeline.

[00:04:16] One shit, ten awesome.

[00:04:18] I don't know.

[00:04:19] I'll let you go take it from there.

[00:04:21] So...

[00:04:22] What am I?

[00:04:23] I'm a...

[00:04:24] I don't know.

[00:04:25] I'm five.

[00:04:26] Okay.

[00:04:27] This no booze thing is very problematic.

[00:04:31] Is that what Brian did?

[00:04:31] Yeah, it sucks.

[00:04:33] So we started, I guess, 14 days ago.

[00:04:36] It was November 2nd.

[00:04:38] When I started or whatever.

[00:04:40] Yeah.

[00:04:41] Um, I also happened to get really sick right at the beginning of that.

[00:04:45] Yeah.

[00:04:45] Now, my theory is that I wouldn't have gotten sick...

[00:04:50] If you were drinking.

[00:04:51] If I was still drinking.

[00:04:52] You'd be disinfecting your insides.

[00:04:54] Right?

[00:04:54] Yeah.

[00:04:55] I'm a bad...

[00:04:56] Well, I'm normally a bad host for viruses.

[00:04:59] Well, alcohol is a solution.

[00:05:01] To everything.

[00:05:04] So, I got sick, and so I didn't really know what was like maybe withdrawal.

[00:05:11] Yeah.

[00:05:11] I mean, I think the flu that I had was a bit of both probably.

[00:05:15] Mm-hmm.

[00:05:15] Um, it's fucking sucked.

[00:05:17] The first week was like, why am I doing this?

[00:05:20] Yeah.

[00:05:21] Waking up...

[00:05:21] Like, I...

[00:05:22] I should establish I'm...

[00:05:24] And I think I probably have on this show before, but like, I'm a fairly frequent drinker.

[00:05:29] Like, every day frequent.

[00:05:30] Yeah.

[00:05:31] To some amount.

[00:05:32] Like, some amount of alcohol every day.

[00:05:33] Yeah.

[00:05:33] I think, Blake, you would probably be similar.

[00:05:36] You're not getting blackout drunk every day, but yeah.

[00:05:38] No, I'm not getting blackout every day, but like, I'm drinking every day.

[00:05:42] Yeah.

[00:05:42] Yeah.

[00:05:42] Just like a glass of wine or two.

[00:05:43] Normal part, or like, more, whatever.

[00:05:46] Yeah.

[00:05:46] Couple bottles.

[00:05:47] So anyways, I think I'm through that part, because I had some like, night sweats.

[00:05:52] Like, I was waking up soaking in sweat a couple times a night, like...

[00:05:57] It's called withdrawal.

[00:05:58] For about the first seven days.

[00:06:00] And so like, yeah, there was some stuff to work through there.

[00:06:04] Wasn't very fun.

[00:06:05] But, uh, now it's weird.

[00:06:08] I'm like, sleeping?

[00:06:09] I don't like that.

[00:06:11] That's, uh, that's odd.

[00:06:13] Yeah.

[00:06:13] Like, I'm used to waking up like four times throughout the night and like, my brain's racing

[00:06:17] and all this shit.

[00:06:18] And now I like, I'm sleeping.

[00:06:20] Yeah.

[00:06:21] I don't know what to do with that.

[00:06:22] I'm in uncharted waters here.

[00:06:24] I don't know.

[00:06:25] So, do you feel...

[00:06:26] Okay.

[00:06:27] So you, I think, mentally, you are more down because you, you miss that habit of having

[00:06:36] the drink and the flavors and everything.

[00:06:38] Yeah.

[00:06:38] And my mind doesn't feel sharp.

[00:06:40] But, okay.

[00:06:41] I feel cloudy.

[00:06:43] I don't like...

[00:06:43] So, but do you feel, so you don't feel more rested now that you get that?

[00:06:47] No.

[00:06:47] No way?

[00:06:48] No.

[00:06:48] Okay.

[00:06:49] Hmm.

[00:06:49] No.

[00:06:50] So less sharp without booze.

[00:06:52] Yeah.

[00:06:53] I'm out of my element.

[00:06:55] Seems backwards.

[00:06:56] I've spent years, it does, but...

[00:06:57] And that's only two weeks too.

[00:06:58] Maybe in four weeks we'll have a different situation.

[00:07:02] Yeah.

[00:07:02] But like, I don't feel as sharp.

[00:07:03] I don't feel as like on it and ready and like, yeah, I just don't.

[00:07:09] I feel like, I don't know, I just don't, I feel like more tired.

[00:07:12] I've, I've, maybe I'm just fucking bored.

[00:07:14] I don't know.

[00:07:15] Maybe.

[00:07:16] I think I'm bored for sure.

[00:07:17] Yeah.

[00:07:18] I'm struggling with boredom.

[00:07:20] Okay.

[00:07:20] Yeah.

[00:07:21] Yeah.

[00:07:21] It wouldn't be fun going out anymore.

[00:07:22] No, I don't want to go out.

[00:07:24] Yeah.

[00:07:24] And like, then if people are drunk around me, I'm just like jealous.

[00:07:27] And so then I just get angry about it.

[00:07:29] Okay.

[00:07:30] So it's like, I don't want to go out.

[00:07:31] I don't want to hang out with people.

[00:07:32] You know, I, I never cared about, like if I wasn't drinking and I was around drunk people,

[00:07:37] I was okay.

[00:07:38] I just, I get annoyed by the stupid drunks where like, when you're drunk, you're like,

[00:07:43] ah yeah, it's funny.

[00:07:44] You actually understand what they're saying.

[00:07:47] But when you're sober, like, okay, you just sound stupid.

[00:07:50] Well.

[00:07:50] And that's the element I can deal with.

[00:07:52] I can hang out with drunk people.

[00:07:53] No problem.

[00:07:53] Cause I've done that where I show up to the body.

[00:07:55] I know.

[00:07:55] I just want to be one of them.

[00:07:57] That's the problem.

[00:07:58] It's an envy thing.

[00:07:59] Yeah.

[00:07:59] It's not an annoyance thing.

[00:08:00] It's just like, fuck, you're having way more fun than I am.

[00:08:03] Well, yeah, I think.

[00:08:04] Yeah.

[00:08:05] Yeah.

[00:08:05] The way I look at it is I just, I can tolerate more stupidity when I'm drunk.

[00:08:10] Yeah.

[00:08:11] I would think so.

[00:08:12] Yeah.

[00:08:12] Way more.

[00:08:12] Yeah.

[00:08:13] So anyways, it's not fun.

[00:08:15] And we got a long way to go and that's really pissing me off.

[00:08:18] Well.

[00:08:19] Thinking about it.

[00:08:20] For me, the last two weeks went by so fast that I was.

[00:08:22] Oh, good.

[00:08:23] I'm glad.

[00:08:23] Yeah.

[00:08:24] I don't even.

[00:08:24] Yeah.

[00:08:28] I'm still probably a six.

[00:08:30] Okay.

[00:08:30] Yeah.

[00:08:30] Well, why don't we get to yours?

[00:08:32] But yeah, no, it's just, I've been like, just insanely busy.

[00:08:36] And we did the Santa parade yesterday and that was a huge part of it.

[00:08:41] Like just prepping for it and emailing back and forth with getting volunteers, getting work

[00:08:48] done, making sure that we adhere to all the regulations.

[00:08:52] It was just stupid.

[00:08:53] I'm stupid, but yeah, like that's why I didn't even have time to drink.

[00:08:57] Like if, even if I wanted to.

[00:08:58] No, you do because you can drink during all those activities.

[00:09:02] I forgot to eat and drink even water.

[00:09:04] Like just to like, well, water, I get, but like booze, you don't forget.

[00:09:08] I don't drink water.

[00:09:09] No, I see.

[00:09:09] I would.

[00:09:10] I haven't had a glass of water in a year.

[00:09:12] You had ice.

[00:09:14] Ice.

[00:09:14] So that's water.

[00:09:15] Do you drink water?

[00:09:16] I drink quite a bit of water.

[00:09:17] I don't ever drink water.

[00:09:18] I prefer soda water.

[00:09:20] I want bubbles.

[00:09:21] Yes.

[00:09:21] Oh, I, we buy bubblies by the cases.

[00:09:24] Like we don't just buy one case.

[00:09:26] We buy three, four or five.

[00:09:28] I'm big into a soda stream.

[00:09:30] A lot of soda stream.

[00:09:31] And the bubbly drops for it.

[00:09:32] Okay.

[00:09:33] You do the drops.

[00:09:34] Oh, that's a thing.

[00:09:35] Yeah.

[00:09:35] Yeah.

[00:09:35] You can, I don't know.

[00:09:36] Yeah.

[00:09:37] Yeah.

[00:09:37] I like the soda streams.

[00:09:38] Like it's, and I, what I like about the soda stream that you can make it as bubbly

[00:09:42] as you want, or like you, you just want light bubbles and you don't have to press it

[00:09:47] so hard.

[00:09:48] And I like it like super bubbly.

[00:09:51] Yeah.

[00:09:51] With a lot of bubbles.

[00:09:52] I want to tickle.

[00:09:53] Yeah.

[00:09:53] You should try it.

[00:09:54] You should try it.

[00:09:56] We're having, we're having a conversation about fucking soda water.

[00:10:00] Would you like a glass of, uh, just soda stream water?

[00:10:04] No.

[00:10:04] It's like super bubbly.

[00:10:05] No, I don't want to drink water and yeah, I'm going to add water to this mixture where

[00:10:10] my body's like, what the fuck are we doing?

[00:10:12] Like, no, we're completely shocking.

[00:10:14] It's just too much.

[00:10:15] It's bad.

[00:10:16] But yeah, no.

[00:10:16] So, so yeah, it's, it's, it's, it's just been clearly you're having a better time

[00:10:22] with the booze.

[00:10:23] Yes.

[00:10:23] But again, I wasn't a daily drinker either.

[00:10:26] Fair.

[00:10:27] I was like, I would drink with you when you showed up or if me and a wife would like

[00:10:31] have one or two drinks, like go to the hot tub or sit down together.

[00:10:35] But that's about it.

[00:10:36] Yeah.

[00:10:36] It wasn't like I come home and right away have a drink or have wine with dinner.

[00:10:40] We wouldn't do that.

[00:10:42] So, so for me, the booze part is not that hard.

[00:10:45] Okay.

[00:10:46] Though hockey time, like it's, yeah, like we, you know, finish playing hockey and I'm

[00:10:51] like, okay, I bring myself like a non-alcoholic beer so I can have a beer with the guys.

[00:10:57] And if we go upstairs for wings, it's like, oh, have a dark cold, please.

[00:11:03] And it's just, yeah, it's just not the same.

[00:11:06] Like, so those occasions is, it's kind of like, I know, but I knew going into this

[00:11:11] that that's going to be hard for me, but yeah.

[00:11:16] And then, you know, like a couple stressful days I had and it's like, oh, I just need

[00:11:21] a drink today.

[00:11:23] And that was, that was, that was the hard part.

[00:11:26] Yeah.

[00:11:26] Those two days I had.

[00:11:27] So, um, other than that, yeah, it's, uh, you know, life as usual, busy and all the same

[00:11:33] bullshit, but, um, six.

[00:11:36] Yeah.

[00:11:36] Okay.

[00:11:37] Blake.

[00:11:38] I'd say about a, about a seven lately.

[00:11:40] Nice.

[00:11:40] It's definitely come up.

[00:11:42] It was a pretty low for a while there and, uh, we've had a good, uh, a good rebound.

[00:11:46] Nice.

[00:11:46] Good.

[00:11:47] Yeah.

[00:11:49] Anything change?

[00:11:50] What changed?

[00:11:51] Um, I have to, I have to try and talk to you.

[00:11:54] Like, I don't know what's been going on in your life for the past long time.

[00:11:58] Cause like, yeah.

[00:11:59] So those who don't know, I've known Blake for a very long time.

[00:12:02] And, uh, Tim knows pretty much everything about me.

[00:12:04] I was, I was talking to someone earlier and I said, uh, through hard times, we were like

[00:12:08] the, uh, kind of the buddy system.

[00:12:10] Yeah.

[00:12:10] That we were in everyday check-in.

[00:12:12] Yeah.

[00:12:12] How are you doing today?

[00:12:13] Yeah.

[00:12:13] What's going on?

[00:12:15] Um, and we've done that multiple times over the years.

[00:12:18] Yeah, for sure.

[00:12:18] Yeah.

[00:12:18] Uh, so yeah, I had, uh, you know, I guess there was some, some negative stuff in my life,

[00:12:23] went through a pretty bad breakup and then, um, other things were quite positive, uh, otherwise.

[00:12:29] So like it was really helping to level things out and just lately, um, work's been awesome.

[00:12:34] And, uh, just in the final stages of acquiring a new business.

[00:12:38] So that's been, um, extremely exciting.

[00:12:40] Yeah.

[00:12:40] That's super exciting.

[00:12:41] That's been a ton of work, um, a lot of stress, a lot of emotions and, uh, just a lot of excitement

[00:12:49] though, with it all coming to fruition now.

[00:12:51] So it's definitely brought that number up and just honestly trying to stay busier in my personal

[00:12:56] life as well.

[00:12:57] Um, you know, going out more, but probably in better ways, um, meeting new people, uh,

[00:13:05] uh, just having, I don't know, good people always around me has been very good, which

[00:13:11] I always try to surround myself with good people, but a lot more to talk to lately and just kind

[00:13:15] of keep my mind occupied.

[00:13:17] Yeah, that's good.

[00:13:17] Yeah.

[00:13:18] Well, and like making that shift into like you and we'll get into this more when we get

[00:13:27] into the kind of the depths of the show, but like making that shift from someone else

[00:13:33] signing your paycheck to taking that risk where like now it's just your, like you're

[00:13:37] in it, you're fucking on it.

[00:13:39] And so like you're, I, I, I sense you'll be great at that.

[00:13:43] And like, we'll, we'll dig into that some more yet, but like, that's a huge shift mentally,

[00:13:49] emotionally, physically, like what's it, what is, what it's going to take to do what you

[00:13:54] were doing and like the effort that needs to go into that.

[00:13:58] Not that you don't put effort into your, your jobs previous or your current job or whatever,

[00:14:02] but like it just is different.

[00:14:04] Yeah.

[00:14:05] It's going to be a, it's going to be a really big swing.

[00:14:08] I'm having a team of staff under me.

[00:14:10] Yeah.

[00:14:10] Which I've, I've managed multiple people over the years, but never to this extent, never

[00:14:16] to where I'm the one that everyone's reporting up to in the entire time.

[00:14:20] So it's going to be very different as a managing partner and actually running a business.

[00:14:25] Um, and then also, you know, just understanding those numbers and where's everything going

[00:14:30] and how is everyone getting paid?

[00:14:32] Yeah.

[00:14:33] Have you ever, so you've never owned a business before?

[00:14:36] I've done a lot of like entrepreneurial things over the years.

[00:14:39] I've, uh, had my first company doing snowboard glove guards when I was 15 years old.

[00:14:43] Okay.

[00:14:43] And then I had a promotions company with, uh, doing nightclubs and I used to do, um, we

[00:14:50] used to promote a party in Vegas as well for every May long weekend.

[00:14:52] So that was a lot of fun and, um, other consulting and I cook on the side as a private chef in

[00:14:59] people's homes.

[00:15:00] So always want to do that entrepreneurial thing, but it was just, what is the real thing

[00:15:03] that I can get into and how can I own an actual business that's really going to grow?

[00:15:08] Yeah.

[00:15:08] You've had the spirit of it for sure.

[00:15:10] And like, you've done a lot of those things and like they've just, you're making that shift

[00:15:14] from like the side hustle into the, this is life.

[00:15:17] Like this isn't my side hustle.

[00:15:19] This is like what I do.

[00:15:20] Yeah.

[00:15:21] It's going to be a huge switch and a lot more hours.

[00:15:24] Yeah.

[00:15:24] You ready to work like 18 hours a day?

[00:15:26] Yeah.

[00:15:27] I'm ready for it.

[00:15:27] And then have me texting you like, how come you never want to hang out?

[00:15:30] How come we don't hang out?

[00:15:31] Like I'm fucking working.

[00:15:33] No, I'm not going to be like you though.

[00:15:35] Oh, fuck you.

[00:15:37] Nice answer.

[00:15:39] I'll still be like swing by for drinks.

[00:15:41] Yeah.

[00:15:41] Okay.

[00:15:42] Fair enough.

[00:15:42] At least you came by the office that one day.

[00:15:44] I did.

[00:15:44] It was fun.

[00:15:45] You got to see the booze can.

[00:15:46] Oh man.

[00:15:47] His office where he works right now is the fucking best.

[00:15:51] Can I talk about it?

[00:15:52] Yeah, go ahead.

[00:15:53] They have, first of all, there's like a couch area.

[00:15:56] There's like five TVs.

[00:15:59] I think you've told me about it, but.

[00:16:00] It's crazy.

[00:16:00] There's like five TVs and like, it's just a communal work area.

[00:16:04] Like the owners sit there.

[00:16:06] Everybody sits at one table kind of chats.

[00:16:08] Nice.

[00:16:09] They have a bar.

[00:16:10] They have a fucking bar.

[00:16:12] Like gin and tonics on tap.

[00:16:15] Oh.

[00:16:16] Dude, the best.

[00:16:18] Like the fucking best.

[00:16:19] It comes out as gin and tonic.

[00:16:20] Yeah.

[00:16:21] And I did also a spice drum and coke.

[00:16:23] Blake's job was to make sure that the mix was right.

[00:16:25] The ratio was perfect.

[00:16:26] Yeah.

[00:16:26] Like that was his.

[00:16:26] That was part of my job.

[00:16:27] Wow.

[00:16:28] Spice drum and coke on tap and Aperol spritz on tap.

[00:16:31] We thought it was a good summer option before.

[00:16:32] You guys take applications there?

[00:16:35] So that side's a bit different to the opposite.

[00:16:37] There's only a few of us on that side.

[00:16:38] That isn't the main part of that.

[00:16:39] The rest of the company is on.

[00:16:41] Oh, okay.

[00:16:41] A very normal section of work.

[00:16:43] Yeah.

[00:16:44] It's so, yeah.

[00:16:45] So I had the pleasure of hanging out there one afternoon.

[00:16:48] It was pretty awesome.

[00:16:50] Beautiful.

[00:16:50] Yeah.

[00:16:51] I mean, yeah, that's what you call a proper staff room.

[00:16:55] Yeah.

[00:16:55] I was telling, after that I was telling my business partner about that and he's like,

[00:17:00] I don't want to do that here.

[00:17:02] Yeah.

[00:17:03] And I'm like, well, but you don't say no.

[00:17:06] He didn't say no.

[00:17:07] Yeah.

[00:17:07] Yeah.

[00:17:08] But he was like, oh shit, you're going to.

[00:17:10] Well, actually, I think his response was, oh shit, you're going to do that here now,

[00:17:13] aren't you?

[00:17:13] I was like, oh, it doesn't sound bad.

[00:17:16] Well, on the bright side, you'll always be there.

[00:17:18] Right.

[00:17:18] That's the thing.

[00:17:19] You'll never leave.

[00:17:20] It's like, it's like how Google does it.

[00:17:22] We'll have to move the studio there.

[00:17:24] Make the workplace so good that people don't leave.

[00:17:27] Yeah.

[00:17:27] Yeah.

[00:17:28] Yeah, that's true.

[00:17:29] So that's my, that's my mission.

[00:17:31] Well, and you know, from somebody that like works for a giant corporation and I'm trying

[00:17:36] to, you know, I have that side hustle now.

[00:17:40] Um, you know, corporations don't give a shit about the workers.

[00:17:45] They say they do, but they don't, you know, um, most of at least while we were unionized

[00:17:51] too.

[00:17:51] So there's, there's that break, right?

[00:17:52] They can only do so much.

[00:17:54] I've talked to Glenn, our previous guest, you know, he is very anti union because he's

[00:18:01] one of those bosses that takes care of all his workers, you know?

[00:18:06] And at the end of the day, if you take care of your workers, your workers will do a good

[00:18:09] job and we'll be happy to come to work for you.

[00:18:12] Right.

[00:18:12] For the most part.

[00:18:13] Yeah.

[00:18:13] For the most part.

[00:18:14] Yeah.

[00:18:14] And, uh, and you know, they're unfortunately some of these big corporations really don't

[00:18:20] care and, and just do as much as they can.

[00:18:23] I don't know if it's that they don't care.

[00:18:24] Well, they can't.

[00:18:25] And they can't like, I shouldn't say they can't care either because you can care about

[00:18:29] the people that you put directly below you and you can inspire those people to care

[00:18:34] about the people below them.

[00:18:36] Yeah.

[00:18:36] Like it, it should trickle down.

[00:18:38] Mind you, I don't understand the structure of like a huge corporation.

[00:18:42] Like I've never been, I was a part of it for one year after we sold our business before

[00:18:48] and I had to work a year for the transition and like, it was a fucking nightmare for me.

[00:18:53] Like that was awful.

[00:18:54] I don't, I can't function in that type of atmosphere.

[00:18:58] Like I need to make all my own decisions.

[00:19:00] Period.

[00:19:02] Yeah.

[00:19:02] It's tough.

[00:19:03] I'm not good at being a boss.

[00:19:05] I've done.

[00:19:06] I'm not a boss.

[00:19:06] I'm not good at having a boss.

[00:19:08] People appreciate the fact that you're genuine and authentic.

[00:19:11] Just be yourself.

[00:19:12] Like I complimented, uh, Justin Lamuda from rainy day forge.

[00:19:16] He put his YouTube video out and I've seen every other video he's done, but this one was

[00:19:22] different.

[00:19:22] And I reached out to him.

[00:19:24] And then when he answered, he said that, um, he was just being himself.

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[00:19:49] It's captivating.

[00:19:50] Why?

[00:19:51] Because he's being himself.

[00:19:53] There we go.

[00:19:56] I've done those like very large corporations over the years, the multi-billion dollar companies.

[00:20:01] And like, it's very different.

[00:20:04] Um, it's different when you have tens of thousands of employees versus right now we have 23.

[00:20:10] Yeah.

[00:20:11] That you're at your new place?

[00:20:12] At my current place.

[00:20:13] Can I ask how many?

[00:20:15] Um, now that might shift and change or whatever, but.

[00:20:17] Yeah.

[00:20:17] We're starting with a 12 full time.

[00:20:20] Okay.

[00:20:20] And a two part time.

[00:20:21] Okay.

[00:20:21] So that's no joke.

[00:20:22] That's about what I have too.

[00:20:23] Actually right now.

[00:20:24] I think I have 12.

[00:20:26] Yeah.

[00:20:26] Okay.

[00:20:27] So yeah, it's a, it's going to be a good amount of staff to have.

[00:20:29] It is.

[00:20:30] It's, it's a really manageable number.

[00:20:32] Mm hmm.

[00:20:33] Yeah.

[00:20:34] And there is management already in place that has been doing this for years.

[00:20:38] So.

[00:20:38] Oh, and your intentions to keep all of that.

[00:20:42] Yes.

[00:20:42] Everything.

[00:20:43] Maybe you don't want to talk about that, but.

[00:20:44] You know, the, the dream is that everything stays par for the course that everyone stays

[00:20:47] on and that, uh, we like everyone and in turn, everyone likes us.

[00:20:51] Yeah.

[00:20:51] Um, you know, we don't want to see people leaving cause there's a change in ownership.

[00:20:55] Yeah.

[00:20:55] And are you, are you going to be the sort of operating?

[00:21:01] Like, are you in, I know you have partners in it.

[00:21:04] Uh, are you going to be the, the guy on the, what boots on the ground?

[00:21:09] Yes.

[00:21:09] That'll be like you're in the store or whatever it is.

[00:21:12] Yeah.

[00:21:12] I'll be there every day and actually, uh, yeah.

[00:21:17] I'm making sure that everything's running smoothly.

[00:21:18] You will literally be there every day, all the time.

[00:21:21] I will be there seven days a week.

[00:21:23] Yeah.

[00:21:24] Yeah.

[00:21:24] I'm ready for it.

[00:21:25] Yeah.

[00:21:25] That's good.

[00:21:26] That's exciting.

[00:21:27] I know you're ready for it.

[00:21:29] Like again, going back, I've known you a long time.

[00:21:31] We've talked to each other about everything all the time.

[00:21:33] And like, this is definitely something you've wanted for a very long time.

[00:21:38] Yeah, it has been.

[00:21:39] It's just been, what is the opportunity?

[00:21:41] Yeah.

[00:21:41] What's going to find the thing.

[00:21:43] Yeah.

[00:21:43] And I finally found the thing.

[00:21:45] Yeah.

[00:21:45] I think you did too.

[00:21:46] And we, we won't talk about what that thing is, but on the show, unfortunately not

[00:21:49] yet, but we'll definitely make everyone well aware when it happens.

[00:21:53] But, um, it's just for you.

[00:21:57] I'm so excited for you.

[00:21:58] Like, I think that's great.

[00:21:59] I appreciate that.

[00:22:00] Now.

[00:22:01] And just, I just want to say, I am from what Tim told me that, yeah, like you've, you've

[00:22:05] had jobs, you know, different jobs and to be able to find something that you love doing

[00:22:12] like, uh, there's, I think even though it comes with like, oh, like, yeah, you're going

[00:22:17] to be working all the time, you know, seven days a week, you know, 15 to 20 hours, maybe

[00:22:22] a day, but it's just that, that relief of finding that, that one thing that you, that is really

[00:22:29] make, that makes you tick.

[00:22:31] Um, it's gotta be so much easier than working for a company where you're like, I know I have

[00:22:36] more potential.

[00:22:37] I know I can do more.

[00:22:38] And maybe, maybe it was the company that didn't allow you or the actual job that you

[00:22:43] couldn't really express your thing.

[00:22:45] So yeah, just congrats, man.

[00:22:46] Like this is, it's, it's gotta be great.

[00:22:48] Greatest feeling.

[00:22:49] Scary probably, but.

[00:22:50] Yes.

[00:22:51] Thank you.

[00:22:51] Like it definitely scary.

[00:22:52] Uh, but like you said, it's one of those things where I want to be so immersed in this.

[00:22:56] I, I'm not worried about having to be there every day because I'm excited to do this and

[00:23:00] to, for it to be a part of me and to be proud of something.

[00:23:03] Yeah.

[00:23:04] And then also what comes with that is that kind of, uh, you know, limitless potential for

[00:23:08] earning and for freedom is what it really comes down to.

[00:23:11] That's the freedom.

[00:23:12] To me, that's always the actual most important part of it.

[00:23:16] And like, I don't have much of that right now, but like, although you get to choose,

[00:23:20] like you do actually have total freedom and you, with that freedom, I choose to work most

[00:23:27] waking hours of every day.

[00:23:29] Yeah.

[00:23:29] And I know I'll be the same aside from, you know, golf season, I'm going to fit a fit

[00:23:33] around it.

[00:23:34] Yeah.

[00:23:34] But then go back.

[00:23:35] Like, yeah.

[00:23:36] And that's the thing is having the freedom where it's not a nine to five where you have

[00:23:39] to be there.

[00:23:39] Yeah.

[00:23:40] Okay.

[00:23:40] I'm going to play a morning round and then I'll come in and I'll work for whatever else

[00:23:43] I need to work.

[00:23:44] Yeah.

[00:23:44] You'll make up that time for your schedule next year is actually going to work better

[00:23:47] with my golf schedule.

[00:23:49] Yeah.

[00:23:49] Well, uh, maybe have some more rounds and just having our once a season.

[00:23:52] Thank God.

[00:23:52] That was ridiculous.

[00:23:54] So dumb.

[00:23:55] Yeah.

[00:23:55] Speaking of golf, uh, have you got like, I know there's still apparently some golf courses

[00:24:00] open.

[00:24:00] Is there really?

[00:24:01] Yeah.

[00:24:02] Cause we were just talking with a buddy of mine who was a golfer.

[00:24:05] He's like, yeah, like last year they still golfed.

[00:24:09] I forget now which golf course was because there was a late, uh, like we didn't have

[00:24:13] any.

[00:24:13] I mean, there's a couple that'll stay open until the snow flies.

[00:24:16] I think it was Southside.

[00:24:17] I think.

[00:24:18] Oh really?

[00:24:18] That they were open like almost every month last year or something.

[00:24:22] I wonder if they're still open.

[00:24:23] They could be.

[00:24:24] I'm surprised you guys.

[00:24:25] You could sneak another one in.

[00:24:26] You guys haven't done it.

[00:24:28] At this point in the year when it's just cool out.

[00:24:30] Like.

[00:24:30] I'm good.

[00:24:30] I'm ready for a, I think we start our sim late sim league this week.

[00:24:34] Okay.

[00:24:35] So we'll have a.

[00:24:35] Oh yeah.

[00:24:36] You guys do that.

[00:24:37] Yeah.

[00:24:37] So we'll have once a week league play.

[00:24:39] We don't have that in my golf course.

[00:24:42] Hmm.

[00:24:43] Hmm.

[00:24:44] Make better choices.

[00:24:45] Yeah.

[00:24:47] I'm just gonna.

[00:24:50] So, um, what do I want to ask?

[00:24:56] I want to ask about your new business without asking too much about your new business.

[00:24:59] So how long has this process been going into it?

[00:25:06] So I had originally reached out to the owner.

[00:25:08] I want to say 18 months ago.

[00:25:11] Okay.

[00:25:12] And.

[00:25:14] Talked quite a bit, had some in-person meetings, had some virtual meetings.

[00:25:19] And what it came down to at that point was I don't think the owner was really ready to

[00:25:23] sell.

[00:25:23] Uh, the price was far too high.

[00:25:25] The EBITDA didn't make sense.

[00:25:27] And though it would eventually get paid off and things could work, it was, there wasn't

[00:25:32] enough money for me to actually get paid and live by taking it over at that point.

[00:25:38] Yeah.

[00:25:38] There just wasn't a way to make it work.

[00:25:40] Uh, so then August 7th, I got an email and I remember that date because I looked back

[00:25:47] so many times and, uh, it was stating that, um, he was looking to sell and he was

[00:25:53] sending out to people that had an NDA.

[00:25:55] Okay.

[00:25:55] And if you're interested, please let me know by the end of the month.

[00:25:58] So I sat in it for a few days and really kind of hemmed and hawed and like, is this the

[00:26:03] right thing?

[00:26:04] Like, is this, uh, this going to be the right play now?

[00:26:07] And the numbers made a lot more sense.

[00:26:08] Uh, there was a huge drop in the price, um, which, uh, really made it a lot more palatable.

[00:26:15] Yeah.

[00:26:16] And at that point I went and, uh, I talked to my current boss and I said, look, I'm a,

[00:26:21] I love where I am.

[00:26:22] I love this role.

[00:26:23] I love this company.

[00:26:24] I'm not going to apply to work anywhere else.

[00:26:26] I want to be here as long as I can, but I have an opportunity for my dream and I want

[00:26:30] you to invest.

[00:26:31] Hmm.

[00:26:32] And right away he said, yep, I'm in.

[00:26:34] Yeah.

[00:26:35] Nice.

[00:26:35] Pretty easy.

[00:26:36] Uh, went to another, uh, couple that, uh, have been very good friends of mine for years.

[00:26:41] And they've always said to me for like well over a decade, uh, if you ever have a plan,

[00:26:45] they've always been willing.

[00:26:47] Like we've talked about that a bunch of times and they've always just been waiting.

[00:26:50] They've been waiting for you to find your thing.

[00:26:52] Yeah.

[00:26:53] So they've always said, if yes, then we're going to invest in you.

[00:26:55] And I went over to their house and right away again, they were in for the same amount.

[00:26:59] And, uh, the hardest ask though, was going to my parents and asking for some help there.

[00:27:03] Yeah.

[00:27:03] And, uh, I showed them all the numbers.

[00:27:05] It's a humbling moment.

[00:27:06] Yeah.

[00:27:07] That was the toughest one.

[00:27:08] Yeah.

[00:27:08] And I ran the numbers with them and, uh, they were like, yeah, this has always been what

[00:27:12] you wanted.

[00:27:12] So we're going to help out.

[00:27:14] Awesome.

[00:27:15] That's so nice.

[00:27:15] So, yeah, it was crazy.

[00:27:17] So that's not very like, no, August 7th is not that long ago.

[00:27:21] No.

[00:27:21] So that happened.

[00:27:22] And then after I got the partners on board, I started meeting with banks as I was going

[00:27:30] into one of the meetings.

[00:27:30] I ran into a buddy on the street, uh, that was leaving one of the buildings down there.

[00:27:34] And we started chatting and I knew he was a lawyer, but didn't know what he did for sure.

[00:27:37] Um, and turns out he's in mergers and acquisitions.

[00:27:40] Oh, lovely.

[00:27:42] Perfect.

[00:27:43] So then, uh, him and I met the following week.

[00:27:45] Yeah.

[00:27:46] And, uh, we started talking more and, uh, just got deeper into things and kind of learned

[00:27:50] how everything works in the process of producing a business.

[00:27:52] It's a big deal.

[00:27:53] Yeah, it really is.

[00:27:55] And, uh, at that point, um, his advice was show them that you're really interested,

[00:28:01] uh, drop off a hundred thousand dollar deposit and sign a letter of intent.

[00:28:05] Yep.

[00:28:06] So, uh, we got the deposit ready and, uh, wrote the letter and, uh, there was a few changes

[00:28:11] from his lawyer and, uh, yeah, it was signed off and that would have been, I want to say

[00:28:17] end of September.

[00:28:18] Yeah.

[00:28:18] Yeah.

[00:28:19] We locked it in.

[00:28:20] Yeah.

[00:28:21] End of September, we locked everything in and that's when you delivered the LOI and

[00:28:25] the, yeah, the LOI and the deposit.

[00:28:26] Yeah.

[00:28:27] And then just this, uh, past Friday, which would have been, uh, what was that?

[00:28:35] It doesn't matter.

[00:28:36] It, uh, 10th, 15th.

[00:28:40] Oh, sorry.

[00:28:41] That Friday before.

[00:28:42] So, um, eight, eight, eight, eight, eight, eight, eight.

[00:28:45] Yeah.

[00:28:45] It doesn't matter.

[00:28:47] Uh, we got the, uh, the approval from the bank for financing.

[00:28:50] Okay.

[00:28:50] Um, which was what we needed to have by this past Friday.

[00:28:53] That makes it fucking real.

[00:28:54] Um, and that's what really did lock everything in.

[00:28:56] So now we're in the stages of, uh, final due diligence and, um, you know, making sure

[00:29:03] things are right with the building and everything that's in it, uh, along with any contracts that

[00:29:08] are currently existing and all these different steps.

[00:29:10] All the final details.

[00:29:11] Yeah.

[00:29:12] There's so much in that.

[00:29:13] Before we sign over the shares.

[00:29:14] So, yeah.

[00:29:15] Well, and there's so much in that, that like can shift the price by X amount and X amount.

[00:29:22] Like I'm assuming there's still a hold back and some of that stuff involved and you don't

[00:29:26] have to, that's maybe too much detail for the show, but, um, I'll want to pick your brain

[00:29:30] on that just cause I'm curious, but yeah, we talked about that after.

[00:29:33] And, um, so going through this process, let's, let's focus on the process and how you,

[00:29:39] so this might like, that's such a huge win for your life.

[00:29:42] And it kind of came, if you don't mind me saying like, it kind of came at a time when

[00:29:47] like you needed a win.

[00:29:49] Yeah, I really did.

[00:29:50] Like you had a bit of a tough go this summer and, uh, with a relationship that ended and

[00:29:54] that wasn't at all a positive thing or even a mutual thing.

[00:29:59] No.

[00:30:00] Like it wasn't your choice.

[00:30:01] No, not at all.

[00:30:02] And so like you, you had a tough summer and a tough sort of beginning of fall and then

[00:30:08] like to have such a great thing happen at the same time as like this shitty things happening.

[00:30:14] Like what was that like for you?

[00:30:15] It was very emotional.

[00:30:16] Yeah.

[00:30:17] Last Friday was very emotional.

[00:30:19] Um, that was one that I really kicked in.

[00:30:21] Other stages have been, um, like dropping off the LOI, but last Friday I really sunk in.

[00:30:29] That's when it finally started feeling real.

[00:30:32] That it was real.

[00:30:32] Yeah.

[00:30:33] Cause it's been a, yeah, it's been a crazy go with it.

[00:30:35] And like you do all these steps and you're racking up massive legal bills and you're just

[00:30:40] hoping that this goes through cause otherwise like I don't even know what the legal bill's at.

[00:30:44] Oh, they're gross, man.

[00:30:46] I've paid a few of those lately.

[00:30:47] Oh, yeah.

[00:30:48] I have an idea where it's going to end up and it's like, Hey, if this doesn't go through,

[00:30:54] we owe a ton of money.

[00:30:55] Yeah.

[00:30:56] It's just part of the process.

[00:30:57] So, um, it was very, uh, very exciting to have it come through.

[00:31:00] Yeah.

[00:31:01] And it was the wind that I definitely needed.

[00:31:03] Yeah.

[00:31:03] Um, so it was nice that everyone actually was in town last Friday and we all were able

[00:31:06] to get together.

[00:31:07] Uh, we were literally, uh, pulling into lunch at Ray and Jerry's, my boss, uh, one of the

[00:31:13] other partners as well, actually that I report to and myself and the email came in and they're

[00:31:18] like, okay, it's time to celebrate.

[00:31:20] It's about to change.

[00:31:21] Called the other partner and he's like, okay, I'm, uh, just getting the dentist right now.

[00:31:26] We'll see you in an hour.

[00:31:28] That's awesome.

[00:31:29] No, that has to be such a relief.

[00:31:31] Cause I mean, I, I don't know what it's like to go through buying a business, but, um,

[00:31:40] even just probably dropping off the deposit must've felt like what you're one step closer

[00:31:44] to your dream.

[00:31:45] Right.

[00:31:45] It also just didn't feel real having that much of like that large of a check in my pocket.

[00:31:49] Yeah.

[00:31:50] Yeah.

[00:31:50] Yeah.

[00:31:50] And, uh, yeah, no, it's just, yeah, it's, it's, uh, I can't, I can't even imagine.

[00:31:55] Well, and you just like, I've, I've handed over checks like that before.

[00:32:00] And like it, it just feels different.

[00:32:04] There's just something about it that you just, you like buying a house is one thing you sign

[00:32:08] off and whatever, but like, yeah, it just, if it feels so like it's, it matters so much.

[00:32:16] Yeah, it really does.

[00:32:17] It doesn't feel heavy.

[00:32:18] Like it's not, it's not negative.

[00:32:19] It's so exciting, but it matters so fucking much.

[00:32:23] Yeah.

[00:32:23] It's, uh, it's, it's a crazy bank paperwork.

[00:32:27] Yeah.

[00:32:29] Well, so we signed a lot already just to kind of get accounts up and online access and signing

[00:32:35] authorities and all that.

[00:32:37] But there's going to be a lot more coming up and then, and then that legal side of things

[00:32:40] with, with everything from the banks.

[00:32:42] Yeah.

[00:32:42] But that's, but it's all necessary steps and like, it's all making it real.

[00:32:46] Mm-hmm.

[00:32:46] Like it is making it real.

[00:32:48] And so like, how are you, how are you processing all that?

[00:32:52] Like, are you sleeping good?

[00:32:54] Are you stressed?

[00:32:55] Are you like, it's probably a little bit of everything, but like talk about that a little

[00:32:59] bit.

[00:32:59] Yeah.

[00:33:00] Like it's, um, and for those who haven't like bought a business, just take something in

[00:33:05] life that feels getting something you've always wanted, chasing after something, finding that

[00:33:12] opportunity.

[00:33:12] It doesn't have to be owning a business.

[00:33:14] It could be getting a promotion that makes a life changing difference or like taking a

[00:33:19] risk somewhere.

[00:33:20] Cause like risk is such a huge part of doing what you are doing right now.

[00:33:24] Like there is just so much risk.

[00:33:27] Yeah.

[00:33:27] And I actually think I've been sleeping better lately.

[00:33:30] Um, I don't know why I'm not, I'm also like not, not drinking.

[00:33:35] So, uh, so my life has stayed the same on that.

[00:33:39] I don't want to have sober people on the show for the next two and a half months.

[00:33:42] You don't know.

[00:33:43] Okay.

[00:33:44] No.

[00:33:44] Just, uh, make you sad again.

[00:33:46] It just makes me happy to see you enjoying a beverage.

[00:33:49] Well, I do enjoy it.

[00:33:51] It's a very good, uh, it's a very good beverage.

[00:33:53] Fuck.

[00:33:55] This is bullshit.

[00:33:57] So, um, yeah, like everything else lately has been, you know, feeling pretty good.

[00:34:01] I feel like I'm in just a general better mood, um, going into work in a, in a good mood and

[00:34:07] excited about things.

[00:34:08] And, um, it also helps that, you know, one, one of the partners is my current boss.

[00:34:13] Yeah.

[00:34:13] It is nice that every day we can talk about things and have check-ins.

[00:34:18] Yeah.

[00:34:18] Like how, how much time are you actually spending on the business that he owns?

[00:34:23] I'm still putting in my time there.

[00:34:24] Yeah.

[00:34:24] Okay.

[00:34:25] It's just that occasionally it's okay.

[00:34:26] We have to take an hour for a call with a lawyer or an hour for the call with a bank

[00:34:29] or go be with the accountants.

[00:34:31] Yeah.

[00:34:31] Like there's those things here and there, but nothing has changed for, for my normal day

[00:34:35] to day.

[00:34:35] Yeah.

[00:34:36] And I don't sense that the job you currently have, like, is that structured.

[00:34:40] Like it gives you freedom anyways.

[00:34:41] You've had a decent amount of freedom in that role.

[00:34:44] Oh yeah.

[00:34:44] There's a ton of freedom with them there.

[00:34:46] They're amazing to work for.

[00:34:47] So I've been, I've been extremely happy with them.

[00:34:50] Uh, they treat me better than probably anyone I've worked for before.

[00:34:53] So it really is a good spot.

[00:34:55] Yeah.

[00:34:55] That's good.

[00:34:56] You know, ideally, um, if all, if it all can work out, like they would like me to still

[00:35:00] consult after.

[00:35:01] Hmm.

[00:35:01] Okay.

[00:35:01] That's okay.

[00:35:02] I was just going to ask like, yeah, like, are you, your plans just completely then once

[00:35:06] you, the business is open, you're just done with that or you're going to be.

[00:35:10] I'd like to still consult.

[00:35:11] I think that I'll have the time.

[00:35:13] Cause like with that freedom, it's, you're not like people that sit in the desk from nine

[00:35:18] to five every day generally are not busy in all those hours.

[00:35:22] There's like time that there's two of them actually.

[00:35:24] And that's usually what I say.

[00:35:25] It's like two to four hours is actually working the rest.

[00:35:28] You're kind of sitting there and trying to figure stuff out.

[00:35:30] Yeah.

[00:35:31] And with this, that's what I'm saying.

[00:35:32] Like, Hey, if I'm consulting there and there's a call that, okay, we have a call one o'clock

[00:35:36] and the call at four.

[00:35:37] Great.

[00:35:38] I have these two hours that I have stuff to do.

[00:35:39] Yeah.

[00:35:40] And I'll work around that.

[00:35:41] Yeah.

[00:35:41] There's always ways to make things work.

[00:35:43] And I don't think I'll pull away from anything.

[00:35:45] No.

[00:35:45] And like if it is, the thing is you're in charge of managing it yourself.

[00:35:49] And so it's like, Oh no, I can't do that.

[00:35:51] I need to do this.

[00:35:52] I need to be here.

[00:35:53] Yeah.

[00:35:54] It's just such a, and there's like the nice thing about what you're about to do is you're

[00:35:58] about to own a business in Winnipeg, which is like, yes, we're a city of 650,000 people

[00:36:07] or 700,000, whatever it is.

[00:36:08] But like, it's a small community and like the independent small business community is

[00:36:15] even smaller yet.

[00:36:16] Mm-hmm.

[00:36:17] And like, you're great at networking and drawing people in and like, you're really good at all

[00:36:21] those things.

[00:36:22] And like, you know, a lot of people and all of those things make a huge difference when

[00:36:26] you like make that shift into like, Oh, now I own a business.

[00:36:29] I think this is my company.

[00:36:31] I think this is my company.

[00:36:31] Like you're, you're going to gain so much from that immediately.

[00:36:35] And then like part of your job, if you want to call it a job is like networking and doing

[00:36:42] that and like being out there.

[00:36:44] And I'm sure you've got a zillion ideas about how to like market.

[00:36:47] Like you, you have a really, really strong marketing brain.

[00:36:50] And so like, I'm sure that that part of you is racing, just waiting for opportunities

[00:36:54] to like put things in place.

[00:36:57] Yeah.

[00:36:57] And it's like the networking side first, it's definitely the joke when we go out that everyone

[00:37:02] calls me the mayor.

[00:37:05] Maybe one day.

[00:37:06] And then it's no, I'm not getting into politics.

[00:37:08] That's for sure.

[00:37:09] But yeah, we go out for lunch with work like most days a week.

[00:37:12] And it's like probably no multiple people every day at lunch, wherever we are.

[00:37:17] Yeah.

[00:37:17] Always going around shaking hands.

[00:37:19] And when you've been a part of the service industry, you've been service industry adjacent

[00:37:24] for many years.

[00:37:25] Yeah.

[00:37:25] Like I got into the industry in 2006 and never really fully left it.

[00:37:32] Yeah.

[00:37:32] There's always been some part of me still in it.

[00:37:34] So really got to know a lot of people.

[00:37:36] And that was the best thing for networking for me was being in that.

[00:37:39] And the advice from my bar manager when I was 18 that really stuck with me was, you

[00:37:44] know, when you go out, make sure right away tip the bartenders big off the hob, make sure

[00:37:49] they know who you are, shake every guy's hand, give every girl a hug, a kiss on the cheek.

[00:37:54] And no matter who anyone is, make sure they feel special.

[00:37:57] Yeah.

[00:37:57] And that really stuck with me is that going out and making sure they feel special after

[00:38:01] and had stuff come back before where it's gone to someone else and it's like, oh, you made

[00:38:05] their day by going over to say hi.

[00:38:06] Yeah.

[00:38:07] And like, what did it take for me to go walk across the room and say hi?

[00:38:10] Yeah.

[00:38:10] And like it changed, like it made them so happy.

[00:38:13] Absolutely.

[00:38:13] Yeah.

[00:38:14] Um, and like from the networking, when you're saying the marketing side, like that's where

[00:38:17] my brain is racing.

[00:38:18] Yes.

[00:38:18] I've been sleeping pretty good lately, but I'm constantly taking notes of everything.

[00:38:22] It's like, oh, right, this idea.

[00:38:24] Oh, right.

[00:38:24] This idea.

[00:38:25] And it's like, I can't stop thinking of new plans.

[00:38:28] Yeah.

[00:38:29] To the point where it's like, maybe I don't need to write everything down today cause there's

[00:38:32] too much going on.

[00:38:33] Yeah.

[00:38:33] Yeah.

[00:38:34] Um, so it's going to be a real process that's going to have to get written out on how we're

[00:38:39] going to implement everything that I would like to do at the right time for it.

[00:38:42] Yeah.

[00:38:42] You're definitely going to have to like focus on your own because you're going to be the

[00:38:46] brainchild of all that stuff and often the executor of all that stuff.

[00:38:49] And I know this cause of my own business.

[00:38:51] Like you have to wear a lot of hats and be a lot of different things all at the same

[00:38:55] time.

[00:38:56] And it's like, you're probably going to be the brainchild of the marketing ideas and the

[00:39:00] person who has to, who's going to do the work to see it through.

[00:39:04] Mm hmm.

[00:39:04] And so you're going to have to be like very organized and strategic.

[00:39:07] And like, if I could say, give you a piece of advice, like it'll feel like you're going

[00:39:13] slow, but failing an execution is such a big disaster.

[00:39:17] Like it hurts so much more.

[00:39:19] I know we're going to have to take a lot of time with, with everything we are going to

[00:39:23] implement.

[00:39:24] Uh, what I find super cool is, uh, our third partner is actually an ex NHL player.

[00:39:30] And, um, so it made a lot of money over the years and he just wants to work and like work

[00:39:36] under me and like learn everything.

[00:39:38] And yeah, basically he's bored.

[00:39:39] He wants to have purpose again.

[00:39:40] Yeah.

[00:39:41] And he said like, he's like, I'll do anything you need.

[00:39:43] Um, so it's going to be awesome.

[00:39:44] And I really do want to teach him a lot of the marketing stuff that I know where I'm

[00:39:49] I do want to develop the plans and how we're going to do that.

[00:39:51] But I'd like him to understand social media marketing and how to run campaigns.

[00:39:55] Yeah.

[00:39:56] I'd like him to understand email marketing and, and how to send that out.

[00:39:59] And I still want to be involved in it, but if I can have him doing some of the legwork

[00:40:02] on that, and then I can be doing an edit, that'd be an amazing help and be great for him

[00:40:06] to learn that skill.

[00:40:07] Yeah.

[00:40:08] So that's, that's awesome to have like a partner that wants to take an active involvement

[00:40:13] in the business.

[00:40:14] Yeah.

[00:40:15] Like he, he really wants to be involved and, and our other partner, I mean, can't cause he's

[00:40:18] running a massive company right now.

[00:40:20] Uh, but the reason he's on board is that it's a mentor as a partner that has started something

[00:40:24] from nothing and grown it to a pretty massive company.

[00:40:28] So we're going to be able to have all the advice we need when something, uh, you have a

[00:40:32] huge with base of wisdom from him and how to, in the overview of like how to turn this

[00:40:39] into something and he's done it before.

[00:40:41] So it's, and he started about, uh, he started doing that about the same age, uh, that I

[00:40:45] currently am.

[00:40:46] Okay.

[00:40:47] Nice.

[00:40:47] So yeah, that's awesome.

[00:40:49] 20 years ago for him.

[00:40:50] Nice.

[00:40:51] Okay.

[00:40:52] That's exciting.

[00:40:53] Yeah.

[00:40:53] So he's got 20 years of experience in that and that's so, that's so valuable.

[00:40:58] Yeah.

[00:40:59] Like not just his checkbook, but actually him.

[00:41:01] That's such a huge value.

[00:41:03] Well, that's what I said.

[00:41:03] Like it's, it's really, I mean, for me, cause I made a good network, it's not that hard to

[00:41:07] find money, it's not that hard to find investors.

[00:41:09] Yeah.

[00:41:10] Uh, but it's very hard to find one that has value and also one you want to be partnered

[00:41:15] with.

[00:41:15] There's a lot of people that will just write you a check.

[00:41:17] Like if you do enough, if you make enough phone calls or you know enough people like,

[00:41:21] and you put it out there enough, anyone can find a check for whatever, but to find

[00:41:26] a check that's comes with something better, that's going to improve you and make your business

[00:41:30] better and make you better.

[00:41:31] Like that's hard.

[00:41:32] That really is.

[00:41:34] Yeah.

[00:41:34] And that's why I think we built a really good team, uh, with the three of us involved.

[00:41:38] Yeah.

[00:41:38] There's a, a lot more value than what we could have or what I could have done if I, if I

[00:41:42] changed things around in some different way.

[00:41:44] Yeah.

[00:41:45] No, I believe that.

[00:41:46] So what's your guys' plans?

[00:41:47] Do you guys already have a timeline when this will be announced and opened officially

[00:41:52] and?

[00:41:53] Uh, should be mid January.

[00:41:54] Okay.

[00:41:55] So we've got about two months.

[00:41:57] Just right in time for us to, uh.

[00:41:59] Oh fuck, I'm just counting the days down.

[00:42:00] We'll be ready in February.

[00:42:03] We're going to have a party when you guys can drink.

[00:42:05] Yeah.

[00:42:05] February 1st, I'm with you.

[00:42:07] Yeah.

[00:42:07] Just push, push the grand opening until February 1st.

[00:42:12] Hey Tommy, among all the episodes we've recorded, you know, there's one common theme and that's

[00:42:18] getting therapy.

[00:42:20] We've talked about it lots.

[00:42:22] Many, many times.

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[00:42:26] I had a tough time making that first phone call.

[00:42:28] I didn't even know if the person I was going to see was the right person, but you got to

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[00:42:55] I've gotten assigned mine already and I can't wait to use it.

[00:42:58] Same here.

[00:42:58] Like by the time you hear this, I will have had my first session and I'm super pumped to

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[00:44:00] Me too, man.

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[00:44:05] Before we, or whatever, I want to talk about this.

[00:44:10] Okay.

[00:44:11] We're opening stupid non-alcoholic beer, which really to me is stupid.

[00:44:18] Yeah.

[00:44:19] I don't even actually like beer very much.

[00:44:21] I'm not a big beer guy.

[00:44:22] But you don't like the soul brews, so.

[00:44:25] Well, yeah, I don't know.

[00:44:26] This is what they wrote on the can.

[00:44:29] For the record, this show is not brought to you by Partake Brewing.

[00:44:35] Awful.

[00:44:36] This fresh, full-bodied brew brings out the best in all of us with its toasty golden hue.

[00:44:44] They rhyming?

[00:44:44] Yeah.

[00:44:45] The perfect pairing while diving into your biggest DIY yet.

[00:44:50] It should be a DUI.

[00:44:51] DUI.

[00:44:52] Yeah, that's what it would be nice.

[00:44:53] It should say that.

[00:44:55] Or perfecting your backhand frisbee throw.

[00:44:58] Oh, gross.

[00:44:59] Right?

[00:45:00] I throw frisbees way better when I'm drunk.

[00:45:02] Do you want to talk about how stupid that is?

[00:45:04] That was not an ultimate description.

[00:45:07] I read that and then I traded them for a Budweiser zero at least.

[00:45:11] Oh, better.

[00:45:12] Yeah, I guess.

[00:45:12] Have you seen me throw a frisbee when I'm drunk?

[00:45:14] It's awesome.

[00:45:17] I can't do it sober.

[00:45:19] I don't ever want to throw a frisbee at all.

[00:45:21] No, you guys are just hydrated.

[00:45:23] Yeah.

[00:45:23] The more you drink, you just get more hydrated now.

[00:45:26] It's just going to make me piss a bunch.

[00:45:27] Yeah, exactly.

[00:45:28] I know.

[00:45:28] That's the worst.

[00:45:30] Yeah.

[00:45:30] It's what I can hold it, but once I break the seal, then that's it.

[00:45:34] This at least tastes like beer.

[00:45:36] Yeah, the Budweiser zeros are actually somewhat decent.

[00:45:40] I wouldn't go that far.

[00:45:42] Eh.

[00:45:42] For non-alcoholic beers.

[00:45:44] It's stupid.

[00:45:45] It's so fucking stupid.

[00:45:47] How's your whiskey?

[00:45:49] Oh, it's delightful.

[00:45:50] God damn it.

[00:45:51] Nothing like a Sunday afternoon whiskey while you guys are drinking partake and Budweiser zero.

[00:45:57] Oh, fuck.

[00:45:58] That just, I'm such a fucking loser.

[00:46:00] That's the hardest thing I'm having with this.

[00:46:02] Just like, I like to punish myself.

[00:46:06] I think we all in the room know that.

[00:46:08] We all know me well enough.

[00:46:09] Oh, we know this.

[00:46:09] I do regret agreeing to it that fast.

[00:46:12] I should have just rethink everything.

[00:46:13] I think I regret the timeline.

[00:46:15] Yeah.

[00:46:16] Three months is too long.

[00:46:17] It is.

[00:46:18] I don't know why you did that.

[00:46:19] Because I hate myself.

[00:46:21] Oh, right.

[00:46:22] I did know that.

[00:46:22] Apparently you hate me too.

[00:46:26] I will continue to drink for three months for you.

[00:46:28] Thank God.

[00:46:29] Thank you, Blake.

[00:46:30] Can you do it for me?

[00:46:31] So, triples.

[00:46:33] Oh.

[00:46:34] Yeah.

[00:46:34] I might not make it to mid-January.

[00:46:38] Just dies the day before.

[00:46:41] Grand opening tomorrow.

[00:46:43] Oh, fuck.

[00:46:44] No, that's not gonna happen.

[00:46:45] Cause it'll be, it'll be, and it'll be February 1st.

[00:46:49] Yeah.

[00:46:49] The grand opening.

[00:46:50] Awful.

[00:46:52] Well, we'll do some kind of party when you guys can drink.

[00:46:54] For sure.

[00:46:54] Can we please?

[00:46:55] Or at least just the two of us can get together.

[00:46:57] I don't know about him, but.

[00:46:59] Yeah.

[00:46:59] Oh, and we have a concert potentially at the end of February.

[00:47:01] I don't know if you're coming or not, but.

[00:47:02] Which one?

[00:47:03] Our Lady Peace.

[00:47:04] Oh, yeah.

[00:47:05] Yeah, I'll go with you.

[00:47:06] So then we can have a bunch of drinks there.

[00:47:07] Yeah.

[00:47:07] It's a day after my birthday.

[00:47:09] Nice.

[00:47:09] Alright.

[00:47:10] Man, you got a big couple months coming up.

[00:47:13] I guess.

[00:47:14] I don't know.

[00:47:14] You'll have a lot of catching up to do.

[00:47:18] I'm gonna be wasted after one drink.

[00:47:20] I was wondering about my tolerance.

[00:47:22] I think, like, I've taken a month break before and really my alcohol tolerance didn't go down

[00:47:26] much.

[00:47:27] I feel like three months is gonna, like, something's gonna happen.

[00:47:31] But don't forget, we are taking a break from not drinking.

[00:47:35] I'm not sure I'm gonna do it.

[00:47:38] Oh, I'm doing it.

[00:47:38] Are you?

[00:47:39] Yeah.

[00:47:39] Oh, 100%.

[00:47:39] Like, part of this whole thing, Blake, is we get a seven day break.

[00:47:43] But it has to be.

[00:47:43] And so you can take a seven day break consecutively.

[00:47:46] Yeah.

[00:47:47] You can take a consecutive seven days and you can take it anytime you want.

[00:47:50] Okay.

[00:47:51] I should have taken it the first week is what I should have done.

[00:47:56] My plan is Christmas and New Year.

[00:47:58] Yeah, that's a good idea.

[00:47:59] I think that's what most people will do.

[00:48:00] I'm not convinced I wanna take it then.

[00:48:04] What's wrong with you?

[00:48:05] I feel like that's gonna be the hardest time to not drink.

[00:48:11] Yeah.

[00:48:11] So I think that's when I wanna not drink.

[00:48:14] No.

[00:48:14] Oh.

[00:48:15] Just more punishment.

[00:48:16] Just more punishment.

[00:48:17] Can I, I'll just punch you a few times and...

[00:48:19] Like, if I'm already being a stupid idiot, which I clearly am by doing this, then like,

[00:48:24] wouldn't I just lean into that and just really go for it?

[00:48:28] I guess.

[00:48:29] I don't know.

[00:48:30] Sure.

[00:48:30] Really steer into the skid.

[00:48:31] Yeah.

[00:48:32] Oh.

[00:48:32] Why not?

[00:48:33] I'm showing up at your house drunk every day if you're not drinking.

[00:48:35] That would make me so happy.

[00:48:37] Good.

[00:48:37] Okay.

[00:48:38] Then don't drink.

[00:48:38] I wish you would show up at my house drunk all the time.

[00:48:40] I will.

[00:48:40] I will.

[00:48:41] I don't have enough of an open door thing at my house.

[00:48:44] You're also too far.

[00:48:46] Too far from what?

[00:48:47] From me.

[00:48:48] Yeah, from you, yes.

[00:48:49] From civilization.

[00:48:50] Yeah, I mean...

[00:48:51] I'm around here all the time because my in-laws live literally down the street.

[00:48:55] Oh, nice.

[00:48:56] So...

[00:48:56] That's convenient.

[00:48:57] Yeah, it is actually quite convenient.

[00:48:59] But...

[00:49:00] But yeah, I'll come by for sure.

[00:49:02] I don't know.

[00:49:02] Everybody's too far.

[00:49:03] I'll be on holidays between Christmas and New Year, so I'm gonna be doing day drinking

[00:49:10] for sure.

[00:49:10] Oh man, maybe I should.

[00:49:12] Breakfast drinks.

[00:49:12] Maybe I should just do it.

[00:49:14] Oh, we have a brunch party?

[00:49:15] Or should I save it for when you take ownership of your business so we can celebrate?

[00:49:21] Oh shit.

[00:49:23] Yeah.

[00:49:24] Like it's only a couple weeks I guess from then.

[00:49:26] From that point it's not too much of a thing.

[00:49:28] And it's not like...

[00:49:29] Yeah, that's true.

[00:49:30] Over the holidays is more fun.

[00:49:32] Yeah.

[00:49:32] Especially for the days, like a good day party.

[00:49:35] Oh man, I love day drinking.

[00:49:37] Day drinking is the best.

[00:49:38] Oh.

[00:49:39] It truly is.

[00:49:40] Yeah.

[00:49:40] There's something about day drinking.

[00:49:42] Now if you are better at also being able to pull the plug and end things early, it's

[00:49:47] great because you wake up feeling fine.

[00:49:48] I'm not good at that.

[00:49:49] But I'm the worst at that is what I'm going to get to.

[00:49:51] Yeah.

[00:49:51] And then it ends up being that we start at 11am and then go till 3am.

[00:49:56] Yeah.

[00:49:56] Or 4am.

[00:49:57] Yeah.

[00:49:59] Yeah.

[00:50:04] It's not...

[00:50:05] I mean...

[00:50:05] You're not drinking all day unless you start in the morning.

[00:50:07] Well one day is 24 hours.

[00:50:07] Thank you.

[00:50:07] There's a song about that.

[00:50:09] Yeah.

[00:50:10] You can't drink all day unless you start in the morning.

[00:50:12] It's like a country song.

[00:50:13] That's right.

[00:50:14] It's awesome.

[00:50:15] I'll send it to you.

[00:50:16] And I don't know if...

[00:50:18] I'll post the link on the podcast.

[00:50:19] I don't know if I told this story.

[00:50:20] Can you post the link to that song on the podcast?

[00:50:22] Sure.

[00:50:22] Oh, nice.

[00:50:23] I don't know if I told this story but it was like an enlightenment for me when we realized

[00:50:30] that day drinking is fun is...

[00:50:33] You don't have any kids, do you?

[00:50:34] I do not.

[00:50:35] And you never experienced having a newborn.

[00:50:39] No.

[00:50:39] Thank God.

[00:50:40] And so me and two of my buddies were at our house and we were sitting in our family room

[00:50:45] and the dads were inside with the kids just crawling.

[00:50:48] We all had like one...

[00:50:49] Between one and two year old kids.

[00:50:51] So they're just like playing around us and the wives are outside and they're having some

[00:50:55] wine.

[00:50:56] We're like half way juiced already.

[00:50:59] The dads are just doing like doubles and you know like just okay like wives are outside.

[00:51:03] Let's drink.

[00:51:04] We took some shots and then so we're sitting in there and like you know just looking at

[00:51:07] the kids looking at the wives like my boys like isn't this awesome just being drunk at

[00:51:12] like four in the afternoon.

[00:51:13] I'm like this is great actually.

[00:51:15] Yeah.

[00:51:16] Then like eight nine o'clock kids go to bed and like I'll just pass out and I wake up

[00:51:21] totally fine.

[00:51:22] So yeah.

[00:51:23] If you go in the night it's gonna...

[00:51:26] That statement is not true but...

[00:51:28] That's the only thing that changes when you have kids.

[00:51:31] Yeah.

[00:51:31] You just drink at different times.

[00:51:33] Yeah.

[00:51:33] And I can still go...

[00:51:38] Mind you I drink in front of my kid.

[00:51:40] I don't actually...

[00:51:40] Well she's older now.

[00:51:42] I guess still...

[00:51:42] We have more of a European approach to alcohol at our house.

[00:51:45] I can keep going and like for my...

[00:51:47] Well that makes sense.

[00:51:48] Yeah.

[00:51:49] Yeah.

[00:51:49] For sure.

[00:51:50] For my birthday like I you know started drinking in the afternoon and we were up till six in

[00:51:56] the morning sitting by the fire and I literally slept like two hours and I had a super busy

[00:52:01] day and like...

[00:52:03] I don't...

[00:52:03] You do that all the time.

[00:52:04] Yeah.

[00:52:04] And then people are like how the fuck are you doing?

[00:52:06] I'm like well I guess all these years I only slept three four hours at night like I can

[00:52:11] do it.

[00:52:11] Just got used to it.

[00:52:12] Yeah.

[00:52:13] And then Sunday I did crash like it was hard but like I can manage the I can kind of push

[00:52:18] it and then make it happen.

[00:52:20] I love drinking all day and all night.

[00:52:22] I just love drinking period.

[00:52:24] Yeah.

[00:52:24] This is not...

[00:52:25] This conversation is not making this any easier.

[00:52:27] It's definitely not for you too.

[00:52:30] There's something also like day drinking in the summer.

[00:52:32] Oh.

[00:52:33] Whether like on the golf course.

[00:52:35] Golf drinking?

[00:52:36] Golf drinking is the best.

[00:52:37] I'm also like I love a good pool party.

[00:52:39] You do love a good pool party.

[00:52:41] Yeah.

[00:52:41] I want to be in my short shorts.

[00:52:43] Yeah.

[00:52:44] Just around the water.

[00:52:46] Having some great drinks and you're in the sun you're melting.

[00:52:50] It's like you get that big cooler make like a full drink and like porch climbers or whatever

[00:52:55] and then you just keep dispensing.

[00:52:56] What the fuck is a porch climber?

[00:52:58] Oh I never made you a porch climber did I?

[00:53:00] Do you know what that is?

[00:53:01] I haven't had it in a long time.

[00:53:03] So it's a bottle of vodka, 15 beers, three pink lemonades.

[00:53:07] Yeah.

[00:53:08] Yeah.

[00:53:08] And a bag of vice.

[00:53:09] Yeah.

[00:53:11] I mean that yeah.

[00:53:11] I've had it.

[00:53:12] I literally make it anything but yeah.

[00:53:13] It's one of those things that you keep drinking and you don't know what hits you.

[00:53:16] We used to make it when I was younger like 20.

[00:53:20] Mm-hmm.

[00:53:20] And my buddy who I used to drink with went through a phase where he was into like Red Bull and

[00:53:28] ephedrine.

[00:53:30] What keeps ephedrine?

[00:53:31] It's like a fucking energy.

[00:53:33] Oh okay.

[00:53:34] It's like a stimulant like.

[00:53:35] Oh.

[00:53:37] What?

[00:53:37] Oh I thought it was for allergies for some reason.

[00:53:39] No ephedrine.

[00:53:41] Oh.

[00:53:41] Look it up.

[00:53:42] Uh.

[00:53:44] And so we come we were 20 and stupid.

[00:53:46] And so we got into this thing where he would start he would make that whatever you call

[00:53:50] it.

[00:53:51] We called it hooch juice.

[00:53:52] Oh okay.

[00:53:53] Porch climber.

[00:53:53] Yeah.

[00:53:53] All the same.

[00:53:54] Oh.

[00:53:55] Nervous system stimulant.

[00:53:57] Yeah.

[00:53:57] Oh wow.

[00:53:57] And he would crush up ephedrine pills and pour Red Bulls into the hooch juice.

[00:54:04] I don't know why none of us died or ended up at the hospital.

[00:54:09] Cause there's no way that's safe.

[00:54:11] No.

[00:54:11] There cannot be.

[00:54:12] It's pretty fun though.

[00:54:17] We had a good time.

[00:54:18] Interesting yeah.

[00:54:19] Wow.

[00:54:19] I mean I tried.

[00:54:21] That's like when we were 20 and we would drink till like.

[00:54:23] Yeah.

[00:54:24] Noon the next day.

[00:54:26] Man I.

[00:54:26] Like just go.

[00:54:28] I remember those days where I like in.

[00:54:30] This is killing me.

[00:54:31] This conversation is fucking killing me.

[00:54:32] The bars are open till five in the morning.

[00:54:34] Jesus.

[00:54:34] And.

[00:54:35] The bar was right across from the gas station.

[00:54:38] So the bar closed.

[00:54:39] We would walk across the gas station and then buy ourselves a bunch of beers.

[00:54:43] And then just.

[00:54:43] You can drink publicly no problem.

[00:54:45] Yeah.

[00:54:45] Like as long as you're not in like a public park or a train station bus station you know.

[00:54:51] But anywhere else you can drink no problem.

[00:54:53] And it's like.

[00:54:54] So we would be drinking on the bench there.

[00:54:56] And then I see my parents like you know going to the cottage and my mom's like.

[00:54:59] You son of a bitch.

[00:55:00] You're still up.

[00:55:01] I'm like.

[00:55:03] I'm like.

[00:55:03] Turning around.

[00:55:05] So.

[00:55:05] Drinking a Slovak piss.

[00:55:06] Yeah.

[00:55:07] Oh.

[00:55:08] Fuck.

[00:55:08] Yeah that's right you've tried it.

[00:55:09] You've had piss haven't you.

[00:55:10] I have.

[00:55:10] Yeah.

[00:55:11] Oh man.

[00:55:11] I would have totally pulled it out right now.

[00:55:13] That was rough.

[00:55:14] It's something.

[00:55:15] Yeah.

[00:55:15] Yeah.

[00:55:16] Yeah.

[00:55:18] That's nasty.

[00:55:19] There's no hangover from that.

[00:55:21] If you only drink that.

[00:55:23] You'll.

[00:55:23] I don't know.

[00:55:24] You won't be able to walk but.

[00:55:26] You will be thirsty next day.

[00:55:27] That sounds like a good party.

[00:55:28] Yeah.

[00:55:29] That does actually sound pretty good.

[00:55:31] Alright.

[00:55:31] Enough about drinking.

[00:55:32] Anyway.

[00:55:33] Let's get back.

[00:55:33] I'm so excited.

[00:55:35] Oh man.

[00:55:36] I can't wait.

[00:55:36] So.

[00:55:37] I guess if we're.

[00:55:39] Focused on your story here Blake.

[00:55:40] Like you.

[00:55:42] For a long time you've chased.

[00:55:44] This stream.

[00:55:45] Of like.

[00:55:45] Business ownership.

[00:55:47] Entrepreneurship.

[00:55:47] Like you've had.

[00:55:48] You talked about.

[00:55:48] You've had moments doing that.

[00:55:50] Like you've done the private chef thing.

[00:55:51] I guess you still kind of do.

[00:55:52] If people want you.

[00:55:54] For that.

[00:55:55] Now you have like the real deal.

[00:55:57] Like you've got a serious thing.

[00:55:58] With a bunch of staff.

[00:55:59] And a whole.

[00:56:00] Like it's a.

[00:56:00] It's a big.

[00:56:01] Small business.

[00:56:03] Large.

[00:56:04] So.

[00:56:05] I know you well enough to know that you like.

[00:56:08] You give everything you have.

[00:56:10] To everything you do.

[00:56:11] Like you always do that.

[00:56:13] I've known that about you for years and years.

[00:56:15] It's something I actually very much admire about you.

[00:56:18] So.

[00:56:18] You do the same with relationships with.

[00:56:21] Mm-hmm.

[00:56:22] Women.

[00:56:23] You do it with friendships too.

[00:56:24] Mm-hmm.

[00:56:24] But your.

[00:56:25] I want to touch a little bit on your like.

[00:56:27] Not all your relationship history.

[00:56:29] But we talked about just before this.

[00:56:31] Mm-hmm.

[00:56:31] You had a bad breakup.

[00:56:33] You had a bad breakup.

[00:56:33] I know you've had a few of those.

[00:56:34] In fact, you and I have had like.

[00:56:36] You said it earlier that you and I have had a lot of back and forth together.

[00:56:40] Kind of support.

[00:56:42] Through breakups.

[00:56:43] Mm-hmm.

[00:56:43] Because I think you and I have always kind of given all of what we had into our relationships.

[00:56:48] Mm-hmm.

[00:56:48] And so.

[00:56:49] That hasn't.

[00:56:50] It's currently worked out for me.

[00:56:52] Mm-hmm.

[00:56:53] Not that you've had failures, but that I found.

[00:56:55] Finally found mine that worked.

[00:56:57] Right.

[00:56:59] How do you.

[00:57:00] Like your life's taking a turn.

[00:57:02] So are you assessing sort of.

[00:57:04] What your life's going to look like.

[00:57:06] As a business owner living your dream.

[00:57:09] Does that change the way you're approaching like relationships.

[00:57:12] And your romantic life and how that's going to function.

[00:57:15] I don't think so.

[00:57:17] Okay.

[00:57:17] I think that shouldn't really change all that much.

[00:57:21] Because even if I'm putting in all these hours, I still know how to find that balance.

[00:57:25] I've always found that balance as needed.

[00:57:28] Mm-hmm.

[00:57:28] Or at least I try to.

[00:57:30] Yeah.

[00:57:30] I will always make time for someone else if that person deserves my time.

[00:57:36] And I've always said to friends like I hate when people say to me they're too busy for something.

[00:57:40] Mm-hmm.

[00:57:41] It's no one's too busy.

[00:57:43] Like it's priorities.

[00:57:44] You're just not choosing it.

[00:57:45] Yeah.

[00:57:45] Yeah.

[00:57:45] Yeah.

[00:57:46] Something else like because I've talked to people that oh I'm too busy.

[00:57:48] And it's like okay you literally work a nine to five and like maybe go to the gym a few

[00:57:52] times a week.

[00:57:53] Yeah.

[00:57:54] And like that's it.

[00:57:55] And they were telling me this when I was at that point working nine to five and still bartending

[00:57:58] clubs and still doing other stuff on the side.

[00:58:01] Yeah.

[00:58:01] And like seeing friends.

[00:58:02] And I was like yeah I had a lot going on in my life but I would never say I was too busy

[00:58:06] for something.

[00:58:07] Yeah.

[00:58:07] That's fair.

[00:58:08] So I think I will you know figure it out eventually.

[00:58:12] At this point it's more of a when the time is right I'll find that right person.

[00:58:17] Yep.

[00:58:17] Especially when I have so much that I have to focus on right now.

[00:58:21] It'd be tough to lose some of that focus in this moment.

[00:58:24] Now is when you're going to find it.

[00:58:26] Yeah.

[00:58:26] And that could be the case.

[00:58:27] And if that's the case though then you know I'm always and you know this about me I

[00:58:32] always try to be very open and honest about everything.

[00:58:34] Yeah.

[00:58:34] And it's like hey this is what my life is right now and you have to understand that.

[00:58:37] And if you want to be a part of it this is what's going to be going on.

[00:58:40] Yeah.

[00:58:41] Yeah.

[00:58:41] And you've always been very good at that.

[00:58:43] I think you established that very quickly with people.

[00:58:46] Mm hmm.

[00:58:46] Also I think like dating and romantic relationships in your mid to late 30s just are different.

[00:58:52] It's very different.

[00:58:54] I felt like people always say you'll find it when you're not looking for it and like maybe

[00:58:57] there's some truth to that.

[00:58:58] That's was the truth to my story.

[00:59:00] Like it's the last thing in the world I was fucking looking for when I met Rachel.

[00:59:05] Yeah.

[00:59:05] My last one was wasn't looking for anything and it just kind of happened.

[00:59:10] And that's usually when it's the best one when I mean clearly didn't work out.

[00:59:15] However like those are the best times when it does just work out and like I am that like

[00:59:19] hopeless romantic.

[00:59:20] Yes.

[00:59:21] Want things to work out.

[00:59:22] I want to do all those things the how I met your mother kind of thing.

[00:59:25] Yeah.

[00:59:27] I think it comes with that that mentality comes with so much passion, but also so much

[00:59:33] hurt when it doesn't work.

[00:59:35] And that's the real thing is and that's a thing definitely with me and was a discussion

[00:59:40] of the relationship as well and like how people have different levels and like she probably

[00:59:45] like didn't fluctuate all that much.

[00:59:49] Her mood would change.

[00:59:51] However, like the actual there wasn't like extreme highs and extreme lows.

[00:59:56] I don't think and for me I can have those like outer sides.

[00:59:59] I don't really sit in the middle that often.

[01:00:01] No, you're you're kind of up and down up or down.

[01:00:04] Yeah.

[01:00:05] So I'll have times where I'm down and then otherwise like probably like a seven would

[01:00:09] be like my kind of pretty standard.

[01:00:11] Yeah.

[01:00:12] And if I'm not there that I'm either way up because I'm like having the best time and I'm

[01:00:16] like in the best mood or I'm at like a three.

[01:00:19] Yeah.

[01:00:20] Okay.

[01:00:20] I think you and me are definitely different that way.

[01:00:23] Like I'm I'm pretty steady.

[01:00:25] Yeah, you you go like five six or seven is kind of my like majority and then very rarely

[01:00:31] is there much outside of that.

[01:00:34] Mm hmm.

[01:00:34] Uh, my wife is more like you than I am in a sense that like she's she could be a 10

[01:00:41] and a two in the same hour.

[01:00:43] Rachel's always a 10.

[01:00:45] We think she's perfect.

[01:00:47] Yeah.

[01:00:51] She's getting brownie points on the show.

[01:00:54] She doesn't listen anyways, at least not that I'm aware of.

[01:00:57] Um, but I think like it's it's different.

[01:01:00] And so it drives her nuts that I'm so that I'm so steady and also she loves it.

[01:01:09] And in the same way, like I think it it drives me nuts that she's so up and down.

[01:01:13] But like also it's such a good thing sometimes.

[01:01:16] Do you like you're so you're very up and down not like unstably, but like you're you're just

[01:01:23] you feel a wide range of emotions and you feel them all.

[01:01:26] Yeah, like it'd be like having yeah, just the best time and I'm like happy and things are going

[01:01:31] well and I'm not thinking about much.

[01:01:32] Yeah, I mean, I'm always thinking about too much.

[01:01:35] Let's be real.

[01:01:35] Yeah, your brain.

[01:01:36] My brain doesn't shut off.

[01:01:37] It's a bit of a nightmare sometimes.

[01:01:40] But when I'm at those lows, it's like anxiety is like a through the roof like post

[01:01:45] breakup basically stopped eating.

[01:01:47] Yeah, didn't want to do much of anything like still into the golf course, but didn't want

[01:01:51] to stay around for say like a dinner after or I just wanted to be home by myself not talking

[01:01:56] to anyone this last one didn't really tell many people anything for quite some time.

[01:02:01] I really kept to myself.

[01:02:02] Did you find that that was good for you or not?

[01:02:07] I don't know on that one.

[01:02:08] Actually, I'm kind of I'm kind of torn on on what it really was if that was good or bad.

[01:02:13] It gave me time though to not have any outside opinions, which is good and really take everything

[01:02:20] in and try and figure out what was right, what was wrong.

[01:02:24] So I had a lot of time to think.

[01:02:26] But yeah, the anxiety with those lows is tough because like I did drop north of 15 pounds in a few weeks.

[01:02:33] Yeah.

[01:02:34] Are you normally a guy that shares your feelings?

[01:02:36] Do you share your feelings with your friends?

[01:02:38] I'm pretty open generally.

[01:02:40] Like I don't like keeping stuff on my chest.

[01:02:42] Okay.

[01:02:42] I learned a long time ago that if I do that, then I have explosions.

[01:02:48] Yeah.

[01:02:48] And that's where I kind of can go off the handle.

[01:02:51] Yeah.

[01:02:52] And I didn't like that about myself when that happened.

[01:02:54] So I just learned like if something's bothering me, like let's talk about it and let's get it done with.

[01:02:59] Yeah.

[01:02:59] And let's get things sorted.

[01:03:00] And also, if I am upset, I'm going to talk to someone, I'll text him or another friend.

[01:03:05] Yeah.

[01:03:05] Just make sure that I can say what's on my mind to get it out of my head and maybe have that other view on what it is.

[01:03:11] Get a different perspective.

[01:03:11] I think I have an easier time doing that with like, like I don't have an easy time with that very often, but like it's so much easier to do it.

[01:03:21] Like let's say I have an issue with my wife.

[01:03:24] My wife.

[01:03:25] Like there's something.

[01:03:27] Yes.

[01:03:28] Like there's something off.

[01:03:29] There's something that I'm not happy about.

[01:03:31] I have the hardest time.

[01:03:32] I have a way harder time talking to her about it than I do like you or you.

[01:03:38] Mm hmm.

[01:03:38] Like it's way easier.

[01:03:40] And like, I, I don't know what that is for me.

[01:03:42] And like, I should actually just talk to her about it, but I tend to not.

[01:03:48] Yeah.

[01:03:49] There are certain things that I just don't want to talk to my wife about.

[01:03:53] It's and it's just, yeah.

[01:03:54] Like I feel more comfortable talking to maybe it's a male male thing to like, you know, certain things I, I like this.

[01:04:01] I'm not discussing just with my male friends.

[01:04:03] Maybe it's a check and balance thing.

[01:04:04] Like just, am I crazy to think this or am I not?

[01:04:07] Yeah.

[01:04:07] Like maybe it's one of those.

[01:04:08] And also like you don't want to necessarily.

[01:04:11] Uh, cause now might be, this might be very generalized, but like, you know, sometimes women tend to overreact and, and.

[01:04:21] Like how you preface that very carefully.

[01:04:24] I know.

[01:04:24] I don't want to.

[01:04:25] Uh, it's not about bashing women, but like, you know, like sometimes it, it, they do overreact.

[01:04:31] Now with my wife too, like she's always trying to find a solution.

[01:04:35] And like, if I had, if I have something on my mind that just bothering me or somebody pissed me off, you know, I just want to get it out.

[01:04:42] And then she's like, well, did you try this?

[01:04:44] Or I'm like, no, I don't want to fix it.

[01:04:46] Exactly.

[01:04:46] Like I don't, it already happened and it's out there.

[01:04:49] Like, fuck it.

[01:04:49] But like, I just wanted to let you know how I feel, you know?

[01:04:52] And, and, uh, and sometimes like I have to actually tell her, like, I just need you to listen.

[01:04:57] I don't want to give, I don't want you to give me an answer or a solution.

[01:05:02] I don't want advice.

[01:05:03] Yeah.

[01:05:03] I think I don't do that.

[01:05:05] Well, Rach wants to fix everything.

[01:05:08] Yeah.

[01:05:08] Like probably like Adriana, like it's like, okay, well we got this thing, let's fix it.

[01:05:12] And it's like, well, I don't want to maybe fixing it for me is just saying something and then it goes away.

[01:05:17] Like I'm slower to react.

[01:05:19] I need time to react.

[01:05:20] Oh, okay.

[01:05:21] She'll like from time to time just like spill her guts into something.

[01:05:26] And then want me to immediately participate.

[01:05:30] Yeah, they want.

[01:05:30] And it's like, oh, I can't yet.

[01:05:32] Like, cool.

[01:05:33] I have the information now.

[01:05:35] Let's talk about it tomorrow.

[01:05:37] Like, and it's.

[01:05:39] Let me process it.

[01:05:40] It's definitely like a point of, not a point of contention, but like, it's a, it's a big difference between the two of us.

[01:05:45] Yeah.

[01:05:45] And it's like frustrating for me and her.

[01:05:49] And we figure it out and we work on like, it takes constant maintenance to get that.

[01:05:53] Yeah.

[01:05:54] To not be a problem.

[01:05:55] But like, it's just, I can't react to something right now.

[01:06:00] Like.

[01:06:00] Like, I think you could.

[01:06:02] Or I can.

[01:06:02] Depending what it is.

[01:06:03] Yeah.

[01:06:03] You're not getting the best of my, like, you're not getting the best out of me if that's what you want me to do.

[01:06:07] Mm-hmm.

[01:06:08] That makes sense.

[01:06:08] And I had the flip honestly in the last one where I wanted to talk things through if something was bothering me about whatever.

[01:06:14] Yeah.

[01:06:14] I'm like, let's just talk about it.

[01:06:15] Let's get it done with.

[01:06:17] And she wanted to just.

[01:06:18] She just wanted to never talk about it.

[01:06:19] To never talk.

[01:06:20] Which was maybe that was a, that was a bit of a swing too far the other way.

[01:06:23] Like it was the exact opposite.

[01:06:24] Like leave the room, close the door.

[01:06:27] Yeah.

[01:06:27] And then it's like, and that's a tough one because I'm like, okay, we need a, we needed a better system.

[01:06:32] And if you need that space and maybe it's, we take like a 20 minute break.

[01:06:36] Yeah.

[01:06:36] Collect your thoughts.

[01:06:37] Come back.

[01:06:38] Go over it.

[01:06:39] But there needed to be something that I was trying to like get to at one point of like, hey, if this happens, like say I need this right now.

[01:06:46] Yeah.

[01:06:46] I'll be back in 20.

[01:06:47] But just running away.

[01:06:49] And I was like, okay, well this is tough now because like, I can't fix that.

[01:06:53] I used to, I used to be like that where like, I would just shut, shut off and be like, okay, I'm done.

[01:06:59] I don't want it.

[01:07:00] It would, I would be still pissed and I just don't want to talk about it.

[01:07:03] No, like that's what I do.

[01:07:04] And like me and my wife went through marriage counseling and it was, I learned that communication is the biggest, biggest factor in a relationship.

[01:07:15] You need to communicate.

[01:07:16] And there are certain things that I had to tell her that this is what I need right now.

[01:07:20] And yeah, now we, if things may get heated or it's going that way, you know, like, we'll just know just, okay, walk away.

[01:07:28] And then recollect all your thoughts and everything and then come back.

[01:07:33] And okay, now we're calmed down.

[01:07:35] We can say it, say everything calmly and actually listen to the other person and we come to a solution.

[01:07:41] So it's been pretty good lately.

[01:07:42] Yeah.

[01:07:43] Like I can't complain about it.

[01:07:44] That's good to hear.

[01:07:45] I miss the days of just bottling everything up.

[01:07:48] I thought you were going to say bottling someone at the bar.

[01:07:52] No, you bottle it up until you do that.

[01:07:55] Yeah.

[01:07:56] Bottling up.

[01:07:57] I probably did for a long time and just realized how unhealthy that was.

[01:08:00] It's so bad.

[01:08:00] I know.

[01:08:01] And I was like, I need to talk to people.

[01:08:02] I think what also helps in my life is because I spent so long in restaurants, I have so many close female friends and I can easily talk to them and get their perspective versus the guys.

[01:08:13] So what they might think is that, okay, I'm like, am I thinking this is crazy here?

[01:08:17] Like, how would you be acting if this was you and the other side?

[01:08:21] And it gives a nice perspective, having them to be able to talk to, um, and them to call when I need and like.

[01:08:26] Yeah.

[01:08:27] Access to an unbiased female brain is probably a gift.

[01:08:32] Yeah.

[01:08:33] Yeah.

[01:08:33] It's a, it's a pretty great thing to have.

[01:08:36] Yeah.

[01:08:36] Cause I think in general we've men and women think differently as a group.

[01:08:42] I would say, yeah.

[01:08:43] Yeah.

[01:08:43] I think that's accurate.

[01:08:44] Yeah.

[01:08:45] Yeah.

[01:08:46] I would think so.

[01:08:47] And I don't understand how they think.

[01:08:50] No.

[01:08:51] We will never understand.

[01:08:52] I don't want to.

[01:08:55] Have you heard them talk though?

[01:08:56] It's wrong.

[01:08:56] I don't want to.

[01:08:58] It's wrong.

[01:08:58] They're wrong.

[01:08:59] Yeah.

[01:09:00] Well, they're just fucking wrong.

[01:09:03] How do you, it's hard to balance.

[01:09:06] Sorry.

[01:09:07] I gotta say something.

[01:09:08] So I don't know how, but you know, when you look, scroll through Facebook, Instagram feeds,

[01:09:14] what reels, whatever things pop up that you're talking about.

[01:09:17] And we were, I guess we were talking about it at work about, you know, how females are in certain ways.

[01:09:25] And then I'm getting, I'm getting these videos where guys were like talking and these were more like kind of like an eyeopening videos to some women maybe.

[01:09:33] But like the guys made really interesting references how like women, the way women think.

[01:09:41] And they would go around like, oh, is, do you look at like a shorter guy, you know, and does it, does the height matter?

[01:09:47] And they're like, oh yeah, it does.

[01:09:49] And the guy pulls out a tape and like, okay, let's measure your waist.

[01:09:53] I've seen that one.

[01:09:54] No, it's like, well, the guy can't do anything about his height and yet you still judge him.

[01:10:00] Yet you can do something about your waist.

[01:10:02] You know, like now it's, it's maybe, maybe an extreme, but like, sure.

[01:10:06] It was a very like straightforward.

[01:10:08] I was like, oh my God.

[01:10:09] But it's true.

[01:10:10] Right?

[01:10:10] Like there's some, some people are very judgmental things that we can't control.

[01:10:16] And the ones that we can, they seem to be kind of like, yeah, women can't control.

[01:10:20] So it was, it was just so funny.

[01:10:23] I'm like, I'm seeing these videos.

[01:10:24] Well, you can say that on this show.

[01:10:25] Yeah, I guess.

[01:10:25] Yeah.

[01:10:26] It's men's mental health.

[01:10:27] Yeah.

[01:10:28] Actually I want it.

[01:10:29] Like, so we were, when we were coming up to doing this show, we were going to have a different guest and then we got Blake.

[01:10:36] Thank you for being here.

[01:10:37] Thanks.

[01:10:37] I was the 10th pick.

[01:10:38] No, fuck that.

[01:10:39] It was 12th.

[01:10:40] Oh yeah.

[01:10:41] I just knew you'd be drinking on the show.

[01:10:43] I was like, fuck now.

[01:10:45] I'll bring you back when I'm drinking again.

[01:10:47] Yeah.

[01:10:47] For sure.

[01:10:48] But we're going to Uber for that one.

[01:10:49] Yeah.

[01:10:51] I'll Uber it too, even though I live here.

[01:10:56] I'll tell you.

[01:10:56] For some reason Tommy is in an Uber right now and we don't know where he's going.

[01:11:00] In my house maybe?

[01:11:01] I don't really know.

[01:11:04] So I want, I think it's, we want to do some episodes.

[01:11:08] So we've had this and let me, let me know what you think, but like we've had this, we've

[01:11:12] talked about it since the beginning of this show of like having our wives on.

[01:11:15] Okay.

[01:11:16] And like doing an episode with our wives.

[01:11:18] Interesting.

[01:11:19] And just like leaving it all out there.

[01:11:22] So I'm trying to think of like how we're going to do that, how we frame it up, like to be interesting

[01:11:28] and fun and not lead to us getting divorced.

[01:11:31] Me walking out of the show.

[01:11:33] Yeah.

[01:11:35] Mediator in the middle with a question list.

[01:11:37] Maybe a third party with a question list.

[01:11:38] Like a newlywed game kind of thing.

[01:11:40] That might be, yeah.

[01:11:41] Like a little more expansive.

[01:11:44] Sounds like.

[01:11:44] But like, that might be good.

[01:11:46] Sounds like Blake is volunteering.

[01:11:46] Are you volunteering?

[01:11:48] I could.

[01:11:49] You want to see me get divorced on a podcast?

[01:11:52] Well, at least I'll be close to you when it happens.

[01:11:55] Yeah, that's true.

[01:11:56] I'll be able to hold your hand.

[01:11:57] Yeah.

[01:11:59] I think that's a good idea.

[01:12:00] I think a third party.

[01:12:01] Cause I do think that like, we haven't really stressed enough that I actually believe that

[01:12:08] women should listen to the show as much as men should.

[01:12:12] I think so.

[01:12:13] Yeah.

[01:12:13] We've talked about it a little bit.

[01:12:14] We've touched on it.

[01:12:15] We bring it up from time to time, but I think I want to like get serious about that for

[01:12:18] a couple of episodes.

[01:12:19] I know we have some female listeners that, uh, message us directly on Instagram saying

[01:12:24] that, Hey, like, this is amazing.

[01:12:27] I'm going to show this episode to my husband because I think he's going through whatever

[01:12:32] the, whatever topic was that day.

[01:12:35] And, uh, and just, it's amazing to hear first of all, that somebody is seeing, seeing our

[01:12:41] show and saying like, Hey, this would be helpful to somebody.

[01:12:43] Um, and to, yeah, like females message that, Oh my God, it makes sense.

[01:12:51] That's why my partner is feeling that way.

[01:12:54] Mm hmm.

[01:12:55] You know?

[01:12:55] And, and that's cause a lot of men, I would say majority of the men keep things bottled

[01:13:00] up and don't share.

[01:13:02] And I think we're naturally, we're one of those guys.

[01:13:04] I'll, I'll say it once, say it twice.

[01:13:07] Oh, you're still not listening.

[01:13:08] Fuck it.

[01:13:08] I'm done talking about it.

[01:13:10] Right.

[01:13:10] That's yeah.

[01:13:11] And, and that happens quite often and then shit happens.

[01:13:15] Yeah.

[01:13:16] And, um, and I think at the end of the day, that's what this whole show is about is just,

[01:13:21] just, uh, open up, you know, talk to your buddy, talk to you.

[01:13:25] I actually tell lots of people like talk to someone that you don't know that well, and

[01:13:30] you might feel more comfortable because that was for me first, it was when I went through

[01:13:34] uh, like depression and anxiety and, uh, you know, I was curled up on the couch.

[01:13:40] I barely knew Tim.

[01:13:41] I just knew him through his other podcast.

[01:13:43] And, uh, there was something that I felt the need, like, or felt the comfort of reaching

[01:13:49] out to him and just unloading everything.

[01:13:53] Right.

[01:13:53] And, uh, and it was well received and it turned into a really good friendship, you know?

[01:13:58] And, um, I just can't, can't stress that enough.

[01:14:01] Like find some, I don't know how he found that in my podcast character.

[01:14:05] Cause we have, we have sick minds together.

[01:14:09] Well, I don't know who the fuck would want to confide in that guy, but sure.

[01:14:13] So going back to that show was the first show I did.

[01:14:16] It was the girl I was dating at the time.

[01:14:18] Yeah.

[01:14:19] At Wheeler's place.

[01:14:20] Yeah.

[01:14:21] You had a night.

[01:14:23] Yeah.

[01:14:23] I showed up.

[01:14:29] We did a big tasting.

[01:14:30] We recorded.

[01:14:31] Is that the one where you were behind the bar?

[01:14:33] No, different one.

[01:14:34] No, that was the pills and booze night for me.

[01:14:36] Yeah.

[01:14:36] So we, so we lost them at intermission.

[01:14:38] Yeah.

[01:14:39] We were on the mics for, I think we're on the mics for three and a half hours and we're

[01:14:43] like blackout by the end.

[01:14:45] Yeah.

[01:14:46] Uh, because we were recording everything for the holidays for when they weren't going to

[01:14:50] be on air.

[01:14:51] Oh, that's it.

[01:14:51] Like we were making extra while you guys were, I, I tapped out halfway through.

[01:14:56] Yeah.

[01:14:56] We're like, where'd it go?

[01:14:57] Oh, and we had, I think, I think Mike Mason was on the show as well.

[01:15:00] I think you're right.

[01:15:01] Yeah.

[01:15:01] So we had like a group of us like pounding back booze and talking about it on the show.

[01:15:06] And, uh, then four days later, my relationship ended then.

[01:15:11] And, uh, Tim and Dave were both like, what the hell just happened?

[01:15:14] Like we saw her drop you off at our place, pick you up.

[01:15:18] Yeah.

[01:15:19] Uh, so then I was also, uh, in a sad mood.

[01:15:21] Oh yeah.

[01:15:21] You and I were fast friends at that point.

[01:15:25] Yeah.

[01:15:26] We were already friends with, I think we leveled up our relationship after that part.

[01:15:30] Yeah.

[01:15:30] Cause we were like friends then we had played men's night together for a couple of years

[01:15:34] and then, but it was kind of just that.

[01:15:36] Yeah.

[01:15:36] And like we maybe partied a bit, but at that point is when everything changed and it was

[01:15:41] where we really had the daily talks and a lot of drinks.

[01:15:45] Yeah.

[01:15:45] No, we built, we built a deeper friendship through awful experience, but like that's often

[01:15:51] where that happens.

[01:15:53] Like I think for men, for sure.

[01:15:54] That's where that happens.

[01:15:55] I think so.

[01:15:56] Um, I think you need men need a reason to build a deep friendship and usually it's often

[01:16:02] sadness and it worked for us and struggle.

[01:16:06] And like, I do think that unless you've experienced darkness in life, you haven't experienced enough

[01:16:11] of life.

[01:16:11] Like, yeah, that was, that was a while ago cause it was like that.

[01:16:14] And then it was like very dark and then things were kind of getting better.

[01:16:17] And then COVID hit.

[01:16:19] Yeah.

[01:16:19] And then I was working on liquor.

[01:16:21] I got, I had an option to relocate in COVID or take the, take the layoff, which just went

[01:16:27] for that.

[01:16:28] So then it's like we went from sad and then not working.

[01:16:30] And like, it was, uh, that was, that was a journey.

[01:16:33] Keep on piling on more.

[01:16:35] It was like, just throw more on top.

[01:16:37] Yeah.

[01:16:37] Might as well.

[01:16:38] Yeah.

[01:16:38] But I've always been someone that's been so hopeful for everything where like everything

[01:16:42] happens for a reason.

[01:16:43] Yes.

[01:16:44] And, uh, and I really have believed that.

[01:16:46] And I've always just known that like things are going to work out eventually.

[01:16:50] Yeah.

[01:16:50] And that comes like full circle.

[01:16:52] I mean, relationships again, I'm on that reset and, you know, having to make that work,

[01:16:56] but on the work side, like we said, it's, I've gone through some struggles with work and

[01:17:00] I mean, I have a degree and I've used it for whatever I need.

[01:17:03] And, um, I've had some really good jobs, but now it's finally like everything's coming

[01:17:08] out how it's supposed to for me.

[01:17:09] Yeah.

[01:17:09] And I'm not saying that this would have happened, but let's say your relationship had gone

[01:17:15] on and then you, this opportunity presented to yourself, to you, would you have made the

[01:17:20] same decision if you're in a relationship now, uh, maybe, yeah, but maybe, you know, there's,

[01:17:27] there's like, you're making a decision now for yourself, but if you're in a relationship,

[01:17:32] you might be making the decision basing on like, well, I'm already, I'm in this relationship.

[01:17:37] Right.

[01:17:37] So like, again, like it, it sucks that it happened before, but then you got the great news

[01:17:41] and it looks like you're moving up.

[01:17:44] So, and before I was looking at this with her and it's a good thing we didn't go any further

[01:17:47] because it would have been terrible or maybe it would have changed things for the better.

[01:17:51] Like who knows?

[01:17:52] We don't know how anything would have been.

[01:17:54] Yeah.

[01:17:55] But I, and she is extremely smart and like, I'm not going to say a bad thing about her

[01:18:00] and like, she's very intelligent, uh, and very analytical when it comes to like numbers

[01:18:06] and these work things.

[01:18:07] Yeah.

[01:18:07] And I think finally was like less risk averse on this one.

[01:18:11] And when I was able to do it, I'm like, okay, what actually makes sense?

[01:18:14] Let's get a team to look over everything.

[01:18:15] Let's get other opinions on it.

[01:18:17] And when I started doing it myself, I really had that extreme focus because I knew I had

[01:18:20] to do this for me.

[01:18:21] Yeah.

[01:18:22] And that really changed things.

[01:18:23] Yeah.

[01:18:23] Yeah.

[01:18:24] Well, I'm super excited for you and congratulations.

[01:18:28] Thank you.

[01:18:28] I can't wait to know where it is and what it is and all those things that will come in

[01:18:33] time.

[01:18:33] All the secrets.

[01:18:34] I think I know which it is and where it is, but I don't know yet.

[01:18:37] So I'm going to write it down and then I'm going to be like, I fucking knew it.

[01:18:41] But, uh, no, I'm super happy for you.

[01:18:44] Um, everything for a reason.

[01:18:46] And like, I've been adjacent, I've been alongside you for this journey over a lot of years.

[01:18:51] And like, I'm just as your friend, I'm so fucking excited for you.

[01:18:55] And like, I know you're going to be great.

[01:18:56] I know you're going to do really great at this.

[01:18:59] Like you're meant for this.

[01:19:00] Thank you.

[01:19:00] And so, uh, I'm super excited to have you back here in six months or a year and like,

[01:19:06] get the follow up and, and hear how great everything's fucking going.

[01:19:11] Um, it's, I know that's going to happen.

[01:19:13] So I can't wait to give some good news.

[01:19:15] Yeah.

[01:19:16] So thanks for being on the show.

[01:19:17] And, uh, yeah, I don't know.

[01:19:20] We got a little, yeah, little prison for you.

[01:19:22] Sweet.

[01:19:23] Everyone gets a mug.

[01:19:24] Nice.

[01:19:24] You can put blues in it.

[01:19:26] And these are, these are new, these are new mugs now too.

[01:19:28] Yeah.

[01:19:28] You're the first, you're the first one with a new mug.

[01:19:30] Oh, I like it.

[01:19:31] Yeah.

[01:19:32] So thank you very much.

[01:19:33] Thank you for having me on the show.

[01:19:34] It's been a lot of fun.

[01:19:35] Yeah, it's great.

[01:19:36] Um, I'm just excited to hear your follow up and follow along this path with you and

[01:19:40] we'll keep people updated.

[01:19:41] And we would normally get you to plug your business and everything.

[01:19:45] We'll get there.

[01:19:45] We'll plug it for you once it's time.

[01:19:47] But, uh, can we tag you, your personal IG on the show?

[01:19:50] Okay.

[01:19:50] Yeah, we'll do that.

[01:19:51] Do you, what is it?

[01:19:53] Do you want to just throw it out there?

[01:19:54] Yeah.

[01:19:54] My Instagram is a jazz hands 37.

[01:19:56] Are you sure it's jazz hands?

[01:19:59] That's the other show.

[01:20:01] Okay.

[01:20:03] By the way, where did that come from?

[01:20:06] Uh, so when I was, when I was, that's how, that's how I, I got to know you first as

[01:20:11] jazz hands.

[01:20:11] Yeah.

[01:20:12] So when I was younger and like in high school and stuff, I played a lot of jazz.

[01:20:15] I played upright bass and guitar and a few other things played in a bunch of jazz bands.

[01:20:19] I did musicals where then you have jazz hands.

[01:20:22] Uh, and I was bartending at Earl's when I was, uh, 18.

[01:20:26] I was like the youngest bartender there.

[01:20:27] And I go to pick up my tips one day and I'm looking through the tips and like, okay,

[01:20:30] we got Zev, Danny, Jenny, jazz, Nicole, keep going through them.

[01:20:35] Like who the hell's jazz hands?

[01:20:38] So I go behind the bar and I asked one of the girls that closed the night before

[01:20:42] and she burst out laughing and left the bar.

[01:20:45] And I'm like, well, I guess I found out who it is.

[01:20:49] And, uh, it was my buddy Zev, uh, when I used to get caught in the weeds, uh, on a busy night,

[01:20:55] my hands got a bit shaky.

[01:20:57] Oh, that's hilarious.

[01:20:58] So mixing the musicals, the jazz, and then that together, it became jazz hands and it just,

[01:21:04] it's stuck.

[01:21:05] Yeah.

[01:21:05] Oh, that's hilarious.

[01:21:06] I love that.

[01:21:07] Awesome.

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