"A Year Of Breaking the Silence" With Tim and Tommy

[00:00:00] It's been an interesting year. So I'm gonna focus more of it on the actual show itself. We've had lots of good episodes and the feedback I got from some of the people was just overwhelming.

[00:00:13] Like, love how, you know, people enjoy it and how they can relate to some of the stories that we've shared. It feels so good to not feel alone. I'm so grateful for the men we've had on this show who have been willing to share.

[00:00:25] We've had so many good episodes with men that are willing to dive deep or, as my wife would say, swim in the deep end. And like, that's really what we want to do here is like, we're here to swim in the deep end together and nobody's gonna drown.

[00:00:37] Like, we've had so many different subjects. We've had so many different things come up, different guests who have different perspectives on things.

[00:00:43] And like, if there's one thing I've taken from this last year, it's that like, I just feel so grateful that I've had the opportunity to speak to strangers so honestly and so sincerely.

[00:00:54] Yeah, there's people that the first time we met was just two minutes before we started recording. But it's been like such a gift and like it's such a blessing that like, and I hope the guests we've had feel the same.

[00:01:04] Uh, welcome back to the quiet ride show everybody. Yay, we're here. We're doing it. We're doing it. Yeah, we're celebrating. We are celebrating. It's uh, it's been a year. Actually, yeah, pretty much one year has it been here? This episode is based on what you tell me.

[00:01:45] It is. It's been one year. It's uh, it's Canada Day as well. So when this episode comes out, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We're kind of we're pre recording, but it's Canada Day today when you're listening to this.

[00:01:57] If you're listening to it after Canada Day, then that was yesterday or two days ago or whatever. Mom, and screw you for eating right by a day. Exactly. But yeah, so we're celebrating our guest two things.

[00:02:09] Um, it's so funny thing is, um, I know we had a little side chat about um, the training that I've taken. And so basically I just learned a little bit about indigenous, you know, culture

[00:02:21] and I don't want to get into too too much about that because this show is not about that. But the one thing that we talked about in the past, you know, uh, some people have spoken of that we shouldn't be celebrating Canada Day.

[00:02:35] And to me, Canada Day, it's it's so much like it's such an important holiday because I immigrated here and you know, I don't celebrate how Canada was created or what happened in the past.

[00:02:48] I celebrate for simple fact that I'm allowed to be here and this is your home. This is my new home and I've built a family and I'm, you know, I, I, I feel successful, you know, in life. Um, we're healthy.

[00:03:03] We have two great kids roof over our head, you know, good job. So I'm thankful that I can be in a safe country where they're really, I mean, I don't even know whatever the government's doing bullshit. You know, it sucks, but like there's no wars. There's no hunger.

[00:03:18] Like we're we're me and my family. Yeah, we're doing fine. You know, like I have the opportunities that I've created for myself or how it happened, you know, but um, I feel very happy and lucky that I'm here and that's why I celebrate Canada Day.

[00:03:33] So yeah, that's good. Yeah. I love that. Yeah. And so it was a good discussion that we had and then it was kind of, I actually got a nice response from some people to over, over my comments. So that was pretty cool.

[00:03:44] Um, but yeah, one year, holy shit. What a crazy year. Yeah. Like it started with a, it started you and I kind of just hanging out and you know, like the idea was like, Hey, I really want to do this

[00:03:57] and I needed somebody like a good co-host or somebody that stuck with me instead. Well, and I mean though, I think, I think you're, you're an excellent addition to this show because you've, you have struggles.

[00:04:08] You've had struggles and um, and you know how to deal with them with some of them. Sometimes you don't, but like you, you know, you're still here with us and you've managed to get through those struggles.

[00:04:21] So, um, and I feel comfortable opening up to you and you open up to me. So we've kind of clicked right there and I was like, Hey, like this would be a great opportunity to see each other.

[00:04:33] Everyone's a little more often, you know, like it's a good way for us to hang out. Like it's good for our mental health. It forces us to not get lost in the busyness of life, which it always is, but actually take time for each other and that's

[00:04:46] right to do this and because I think because of the way we speak on this show and it's kind of the subject matter. Like a lot of it is actually similar to what you and I would talk about if we were sitting around anyways. Exactly.

[00:04:57] It kind of feels sort of natural, especially when it's just the two of us. Yeah. And so it just feels like we're hanging out. Well, the last 10 minutes have been quite silent. We didn't say much to each other because it's like, wait for

[00:05:09] the show, wait for the show. I know. I, so it's so stupid, but it's just like if we're here to record them, like I'll just shut my fucking mouth until the mics are on. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. Because like it's, it feels so weird when you like talk

[00:05:23] about certain things like, Oh, this will be great for the show and then you try to do it, but it's not as natural. Yeah. The reaction isn't as like, you know, oh really? You know, it's like, I heard this story. Yeah. I don't like doing that. That's right.

[00:05:35] Yeah. So, yeah. So I like the 10 minutes like you're having a smoke and just like, Hey, how's things? Like just small talk, you know, it's like we first met for the first time, right? It's like, we have this awkward silence. That's our pre show routine. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:05:51] Make a drink. Don't say anything and then hit the mic. Hit the record button. Then let's go and I don't know. This is why this show I usually tell people that it's quite raw like there's no preparation. There's no script.

[00:06:07] No, we will plan a bit of a subject matter a little and then if we have guests, we kind of often focus on them. Obviously, yeah, here to do that. But like we may have a sort of, yeah, a subject in

[00:06:23] mind going into that, which also we're not stuck to like, no, if that doesn't come out, then if something else shows up, then something else shows up. Well, we've had guests that talked about like we invited them for one reason and they're like, oh, and I can talk

[00:06:36] about this and this and this. We're like, holy shit. Right? This is awesome. It just, we want it to be sort of as free flowing as it can. Yeah. Yeah. No, so that's yeah, we're going to, I guess this

[00:06:47] episode is going to be kind of reflecting maybe on some of our guests and just maybe some of some of the future plans we can talk about a little bit and but yeah. So before we dig into that.

[00:06:59] Let's do that in like the later half of the show. Yeah, because I want to hear this. You're fucking keeping me. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, so, so yeah, but let's do the check in first. Why don't you go first and I'll do my check in and

[00:07:18] now rolling to my weekend. Yeah. I think today. Let's just use today. I think today I'm a seven. Okay. Yeah. That's good. Yeah. That's a good one for you. It's good. Yeah. I yeah, for me that's it's good to get back into that. Those numbers.

[00:07:34] I think that like the last couple days actually have been a seven at a pretty chill weekend hung out with some friends hung out with my wife. My daughter was off at a sleepover so nice we had some time to ourselves.

[00:07:45] Um, I was a little fucking lazier than I should have been probably today. You need to have lazy days. I want all these intentions of doing things and just I woke up and I was just like, Nah, today.

[00:07:59] I'm sure your date doesn't end, you know, after the show. No, no, it ends when I fall asleep. But like it but still those things I wanted to tackle I did not do and I'm not going to do them today. So it'll be there tomorrow. That's exactly right.

[00:08:12] Like it's just yeah, I still have to do that. Okay. That's good. But in place of that like me and Rachel spent some time together and we talked a bunch and we like chatted about our house and our plans and our future.

[00:08:25] Like had we have both just been doing all those tasks we wanted to get done that wouldn't happen and so I'll take that all day long. Like yeah, my behind is she behind on some so what like fucking do it tomorrow? Like the work will wait for you.

[00:08:38] Yeah, it's not. No one's going to do that shit for me. So exactly. Yeah. Nice. I would say yeah, I would say today. I was seven and I'm hanging out with you now like a good day. Awesome. Yeah. How about you? I'm about to get the story.

[00:08:53] I'm going to go with six and a half. Okay. That's pretty good. Yeah. I mean compared to last time I was I think I was an eight. Yeah. Yeah, you were in the class last time so reality ever fails to show up.

[00:09:05] So we recorded that episode two weeks ago and I was like just off my my trip right like I was very happy and everything was great. The very next day I had such a shitty date it was just like I woke up in a miserable mood.

[00:09:22] You know and I'm like what the fuck like I was so so happy yesterday but I don't know what happened but whatever it's fine. Just kind of went on with my day and everything was good and you know later that week I'm taking a shower

[00:09:40] and you know I don't really necessarily check myself every time I take a shower but like check the boys and it kind of felt weird and I was fucking freaking out. So it was like 11 o'clock in the evening my wife's passed

[00:09:58] on like hey wake her up come here you got to check it out like you got to see and you know like she's like half asleep and like yeah trying to feel my testicles and all that and you know it's a weird way to get an action.

[00:10:12] But that's the thing like so she's like I don't know they seem fine. I'm like fuck I feel a lump. Yeah and so like that night was just a write off like I couldn't yeah we talked the next day.

[00:10:24] Yes there was a Tuesday and then I called you on Wednesday. Yeah we talked on Wednesday. Yeah and so I just had to talk to somebody about this right and they really shared that with my coworkers or nothing

[00:10:36] I didn't want to necessarily and yeah I was just like you know I did the horrible thing in Google shit. I told you not to and the thing is the first thing I googled was positive. I'm like OK let's see what else is there to stop there.

[00:10:54] But yeah so I'm like you know the next day fuck it I got to call a doctor and let's just go get checked out right. So it was it was a hell of a week like from to my appointment

[00:11:06] was on Friday so I found out Tuesday evening and Friday was my appointment so those three days were well yeah three days were just horrible like on the Wednesday I came home and it's miserable. I was just like worried and like trying to keep my mind busy

[00:11:23] but I wasn't really like doing anything useful or productive. Yeah well it's so like like it's so distracting like how yeah the Thursday I remember I just came home and I was just exhausted and tired because I haven't really slept for the last two days.

[00:11:41] And so I slept on the couch till like I think it was my wife got me up at like 637 and she's like can you cut the grass I'm like no like I'm just going to bed yeah like I slept

[00:11:55] passed on the couch and then I'm just like no I need to shower I need to go to bed. And then next day went to the doctors and how did that go because I have not had a doctor touch my junk

[00:12:10] okay except during my misactymies that was the first time like that I could remember yeah having someone do that so I mean it's as awkward as you can get right like the funniest the funniest part was they're like okay I like the rooms ready

[00:12:31] go to room blah blah blah right and then I walk in and and so my doctor is a male and then I walk in and I think I'd rather do yeah but I walk in and there's this really good

[00:12:43] looking female she's like and I'm like oh looking at the number is like hi like Tom I'm like yeah I'm helping out doctors so-and-so I'm like could you not and she was really good looking but not that not that I that would do

[00:13:04] anything at this point because you're there for a really shitty reason right but still I'm just like no like so right away like I think my anxiety like bumped up a little bit you know went up a notch and so she's like yeah I'm you know

[00:13:21] like finishing my residency blah blah and like helping out I'm like okay he's the guy might come in and like do the exam or if you're comfortable I can do the exam or like you know but let's just know let's let's talk what are you here for

[00:13:34] yeah okay great so I told her and everything she's like I hop on the table let's take your blood pressure she's like it's a little bit higher I'm like yeah like you think so my blood pressure probably what I saw that's a female doctor to

[00:13:46] so right that I don't help so she's like yeah just monitor it you know this is not and so she's like so do you feel comfortable and like look it's awkward already just tell me what to do you know she's like well you can do it standing up

[00:14:00] or you can sit down lie down like on it I was like just tell me what to do okay drop your pants I'm like just like when for it you know I'm just like just like right do you want to take

[00:14:12] them off or just like you know like just out to the knees or like what are we doing here just like I just down to your ankle just it's fine you know so yeah so then you know

[00:14:20] she so she obviously went in right away like checked for like there's I guess there's a couple tubes they kind of go in that area where between your groin and your leg okay and she pressed on it she she told me to cough and that's she was

[00:14:35] checking for her knee because it could be related to her knee right so that was what she was checking first so she's not everything's good so then she went into like you know yeah obviously touching everything and then she's every time

[00:14:47] like she had to squeeze it a little bit she's like sorry sorry I'm like oh it's fine it's fine it's fine like I think I had to say it five times like it's fine it's fine she was very professional obviously like checked it out she's like yeah

[00:14:59] I feel the lump it's soft and so they she kind of made some notes and I was just like okay so you want to tell me something now and that's when the doctor walks in okay okay

[00:15:12] so he comes in and my pants were already up and so they're talking you know and they're using these fucking terms that I have no clue what they're saying probably better that way it probably is and then but yeah so my doctor was like do you

[00:15:26] mind if I check on the go for it everybody next you guys want to take a look and then so he actually wanted me to lie down and he did the test that way and before I continue does one of your testicle hang lower than the other one

[00:15:44] yeah so and I already have one that's bigger than the other okay so I already forgot why is why it's not but like apparently that's a normal thing okay everybody I've always had one that's bigger yeah yeah well and like I always mind the left

[00:15:58] one is always lower than the heart the right one yeah and he said they wish I had remembered I think I'm going to ask him next time when he calls and just just for shits and giggles yeah but yeah there's a reason apparently

[00:16:12] most men have their left not lower than the right one so if you guys are listening to the show check your Nazi if the left I got a check and let us know like I'm I'm just really curious curious last one's lower yeah the left one's

[00:16:25] supposed to be lower than the right one and there's a reason for it oh interesting yeah yeah so I'm gonna check so he was one of those like his check is like oh do you know why what are the testicles is lower she's like no I don't

[00:16:35] know and then he said it's like I'm like I actually wanted I thought I was the only one yeah my nuts fuck tell me I thought I was the only one but apparently it's very common interesting yeah so okay so so he checked it and yeah he says

[00:16:50] yeah there's a lump and then he's like fine put your pants back on and so he explained to me so there's there's three types of tumors that could be like it's a benign to tumor basically that I have thank fucking yeah so he said if it was cancer

[00:17:05] it would be hard and it would be very painful okay to touch to press to whatever basically anything you would hand try to touch it and it would hurt and it would be hard so the way

[00:17:18] I described it to them the way it feels I was like if you had like you know those udon noodles yeah and like you take like a small handful and you kind of just bunch them up okay and that's what that's what this felt like and then

[00:17:31] he's like yeah that you describe it very well like so it is a little growth basically they're still going to send me for ultrasound I'm waiting for them to call me when the appointment is so I don't know yet but he says I shouldn't be

[00:17:43] worried about but just to be safe they even kind of they didn't add many details into the request for ultrasound they just said they need to ultrasound the testicles and then they kind of push that forward yeah fast I would assume

[00:17:56] that's a urgency yeah yeah and so but yeah he says it's there's three types and the one that I have I forget the terms says this is probably what you have which is very common it's no no issues you have to keep checking and making sure that

[00:18:10] it doesn't get painful or harder but like it's it's it's does it get bigger he said it shouldn't like okay yeah but you have to we have to keep checking it and I never actually asked him if it's something that needs to be

[00:18:26] removed or not but that's something we're gonna go over it just get rid of the net yeah right give me some give me we're actually joking about it like get me fake one something that vibrates I hook it up to my phone right

[00:18:41] no but I think like I don't know it's not like you intend to use your nuts like I got it just active already so yeah we've done that so like just take what matter a couple fake ones

[00:18:51] because I mean I think that would be weird not to have like fake one would you want to so I think so I like I don't know how the penis would look like remember remember like we had

[00:18:59] Brandon early on the show did he get a fake one I can't believe so I think he got I can't remember sorry we shouldn't say fake one it's a prosthetic nut it's a fake nut it's a fake ball yeah yeah I yeah I'm not sure well that's something

[00:19:17] that yeah we should ask him and for our year in review that's right but yeah like so that was how I feel now like obviously it's not so settled it's not settled but he's sorry he settled you a

[00:19:31] little bit with his comments and his exam but like it's not over it's not over but definitely felt good and right after the doctor's appointment I went out to auto falls and hung out with my buddy and we can when fishing it was just

[00:19:47] fucking fantastic do any fishing yeah when I talk to you it didn't look like any fishing was happening no fishing is always Saturday morning Friday we go out usually we go out and do some boating but my buddy had just a fucking ACL

[00:20:00] surgery and so he's literally headed on Wednesday and like we're just crushing beers now is that the guy saw on the camera could be the guy owns the place yes yeah yeah yeah the place is awesome shout out to Mark yeah like fucking

[00:20:15] he's got he built this giant shop and he's got like a second layer of he built a ramp where he can drive up all the snow mobiles I think there was five or six no one was up there

[00:20:23] like crazy and he still has a loft on top that's awesome so fantastic shop yeah so yeah it was a great weekend it's just what I needed and then you know Sunday was really nice Father's Day we went to basketball game with the

[00:20:39] family it was really nice and just a good and to like a really shitty week yeah and so yeah like then work just got busy whatever and then so this weekend went out to the lake

[00:20:51] sweet you know I had so I got flooded while I was in Slovakia so I'm still working on it okay and is all is the water stop it yeah water is good like it fucking rained like it's been raining all the time so it's dry now anything ever

[00:21:04] which is really nice and so I'm fixing it on inside we still needed to putty up bunch of bunch of things and so I ran out of putty okay so I'm going to go drive to Stonewall that was the closest hardware store so they had a check

[00:21:19] to they had in store and look perfect it's like a half an hour drive yeah driving back the road I took the back roads like the dirt roads because it's just a little bit closer than going back out to the highway fucking deer jumps out oh

[00:21:33] fuck that's what five feet five your head five feet in front of my fucking truck jumps out I was driving maybe six I thought I was driving about 80 yeah but the guy that saw it he's like no like if you're driving 80 the damage would

[00:21:50] be way oh yeah okay so I'm thinking probably 60 said the road was shitty so he couldn't drive any faster anyways and so what happened because the road was so bad on the left so I was heading north so I was driving on the left

[00:22:02] side of the road yeah because the there was two tracks oh yeah okay smooth right vehicles approaching so I moved over to the right side where there was rats and fucking just you know great Manitoba roads yeah and as I moved or I must

[00:22:16] have startled the deer and just fucking jumps out fucking right away see the legs fell I ran it over yeah and just kind of rolled to the side into the ditch and like I felt horrible for the deer because I was like man oh yeah I

[00:22:32] was twitching leg was broken like I have pictures and everything okay but it was dead yeah okay it was like it was twitching I saw it twitching and then like five minutes later like you can see like it was yeah so it didn't I

[00:22:46] was worried about that I'm like if I ever hit a deer but it didn't die like yeah right what the fuck am I gonna kill it with yeah run it over back I guess I don't know this

[00:22:55] was dead and oh yeah like so I'm in the middle of nowhere like there's no south service yeah so this guy that was approaching he saw me so I'm like ah shit you know I'm looking

[00:23:08] at the front of the vehicle I can see like I hit the rad oh yeah shot I'm like oh fuck great I can't drive there yeah and behind him there was a guy with a tractor that was coming and he's like hey I'm just like the next

[00:23:23] driveway to the left come on in use my phone you know thank God super nice guy I've got to bring up next week I'm gonna stop by and bring him like a gas car because he drove me back to the lake awesome good they also had to

[00:23:36] call the towing company so here's my Saturday where I'm supposed to be I was just like oh perfect I'll get back start to smoke or I'll start wings finish up the putty you know drink now three or three four hours later

[00:23:49] I'm back you know so that was my weekend and so the vehicle is now in fucking I don't know Warren and got a call and get it all figured out and just like that sucks you know yeah just like that's why that's why I'm like a six

[00:24:05] and a half hey at least that was a long check in Easter six yeah right and that's the check in geez that's crazy well I mean at least that's all that happened yeah like erect vehicles fine you're fine so at the end of the day

[00:24:24] it's just the vehicle exactly nowhere bags went off like I said it wasn't driving fast and it's shitty but whatever hopefully I just really hope it's not gonna take like two three months to get it fixed because yeah shit's going

[00:24:37] in Manitoba yeah that hopefully it doesn't I mean they'll just have to tow it somewhere yeah I know I already have a couple a couple places that I have a couple connections there where they can cool they can yeah

[00:24:49] hopefully they can kind of push that forward a little bit yeah that's good I'm definitely not taking it back to a virtue at collision center I don't give a shit about saying it because they did a horrible job so no fucking

[00:25:01] give you I can give you some suggestions cuz yeah yeah yeah that world very very very well like I said I have couple so one is yeah you know who and the second one is you there so I'm gonna go to school find a good spot

[00:25:13] for it yeah crazy I don't mean I did holy jeez that's so and I was I actually took my laptop out to the lake cuz I was gonna do some work and I'm like yeah

[00:25:23] I just over I came back I sat down I'm like I need a drink and like I just had some drinks and like you know what I just need to not think about did you at least have two

[00:25:31] I guess you had the other car out there as well. Nope we had to call my in-laws like you up. Don't even the morning like why why do you guys want to come out and bring two vehicles and we leave one here so they did awesome.

[00:25:46] Yeah that's good now so luckily they have two vehicles and they don't necessarily need to vehicles all the time so that helps yeah good for sure so yeah so take a little yeah let's take a little break and we're gonna talk about our one year in review.

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[00:28:27] So it's been a year. It's been an interesting year so I'm going to focus more of it on the actual show itself yeah like my year because like I don't want to do a year in review of my life so like let's talk about the show.

[00:28:44] We've had we've had lots of good episodes and the feedback I got from some of the people was just overwhelming like love how you know people enjoy it and how they can relate to some of the stories that we've shared yeah we get so like

[00:29:02] every nobody's ever told me anything bad no no and I've I've gotten some I've gotten some constructive criticism yeah that's fine and and that was that's very good because obviously we're not we're not professional podcasters we're not professional health at this point. I mean semi professional podcaster.

[00:29:26] Yeah yeah well I mean you have history of being in front of the mic lot longer than myself so sure maybe call yourself whatever you want. Yeah I don't know I just want people to keep listening.

[00:29:39] Yeah no but but at the end of the day I'm not doing this for fame I'm not doing this for for any anything that like to make money or anything it's these episodes that we've done is a therapy itself for myself and for you and for me

[00:29:56] I say it every episode so and that's that's that's amazing like I know when we pre-record bunch of episodes and we don't record for a long time like I already need to get together and just do this because at the end of the day

[00:30:07] that's what therapy is that's what you go and talk about your problems right yeah and you know we've told you've mentioned how like doing a group therapy is something that helps you realize sometimes that well I'm not

[00:30:20] the only one or like my situation isn't as bad it feels so good to not feel alone yeah and that's just it like having guests whether in person or on zoom it was just so nice to hear like holy shit like you know I was always

[00:30:36] picturing myself okay what would I have done if I went through that yeah or what did I do when it was something similar when I think like I'm so I'm so grateful for the men we've had on this show who have been willing to

[00:30:49] share like we've you know we've we've had so many good episodes with men that like are willing to dive deep or as my wife would say swim in the deep end yeah and like that's really what we want to do here is like we're here

[00:31:03] to swim in the deep end together and nobody's going to drown like no okay and like we've we've had so many different subjects we've had so many different things come up different guests who have different perspectives on things and like I'm just I if there's one thing

[00:31:18] I've taken from this last year it's that like I just feel so grateful that I've had the opportunity to speak to not just you all the time you're my friend so like we're going to talk anyways but like I've had the opportunity

[00:31:31] to speak to strangers so honestly and so like sincerely yeah there's people that first time we met was two minutes before we started recording well 10 because you're never ready but but no it's been but it's been like such a gift and like

[00:31:50] it's such a blessing that like and I hope the guests we've had feel the same like and I think they do because they always say nice things coming out of here and yeah and then we actually keep in touch yeah well we're we're

[00:32:03] supposed to be going back on the men's health unscripted now I fucking love those yeah yeah so I hold sometimes in July hopefully so what are some of your highlights from the last year if you want to call them high

[00:32:16] yeah let's call yeah let's go through it mine was I really enjoyed the episode with Tyler Carr Tyler is such a first of all he's such a nice guy to be around I love that guy and that was that was a really good episode because

[00:32:34] I don't know anyone that talked about similar situation that he was in from growing up from being a teenager you know like so it was just a nice eye-opening and just new information to hear his story from his perspective right because there's a lot of stigma

[00:32:55] I guess not now but there used to be a lot of stigma against gay men yeah so that was that was a really good episode still men yeah exactly in fact it sometimes I wonder if they're not manlier than we are

[00:33:11] I mean they love men so much they do and they're all in great shape they work out like man I'm struggling to hit the gym Tyler's episode was great I mean it was nice to have an opportunity like I've known Tyler for years yeah and for

[00:33:30] me it was great sitting in that room having a different type of conversation that's right than I ever had yeah hearing more about his life and his his story and his journey and like it's just what we're doing is hearing

[00:33:42] about people's journey that's right like I really enjoyed Brandon Brandon was great he was that was that was more focused on so Brandon was early on yeah and it was a lot about we talked a lot about his battle with testicular

[00:34:00] cancer and family family family they're doing amazing by the way yeah I so actually he was one of them that I've reached out to him as well when I found a little lump on my testicle because I'm just like I talk a little bit

[00:34:15] yeah we had it so and then also also kind of followed up like hey how you doing what else is doing he says great I mean they were going through some rainy season now but yeah he says they're doing great so it's amazing

[00:34:26] I'm happy for them yeah he that he him and his wife had a mission to move their family down to Florida and and they did it and they it took them years of diligent planning manifesting that and like working towards that

[00:34:40] and they did it like I was just so fucking proud as a friend as another man as a father like I'm so proud of him for what he's accomplished and like that was like his episode a lot it was very eye-opening to me he did the other podcast

[00:34:58] I used to do that's how I met him the first okay yeah but I was way too enabrowated and don't remember any of it that show was not a serious show for no no no so yeah but I I remembered having met people people try to make it

[00:35:12] serious and then you always ruined it yeah I think I probably there would be some truth there that was a fun show Brandon's was great Lee Goren was a highlight for me that was yeah he is hearing a pro hockey player

[00:35:29] talked away Lee does is I think it's very rare yeah and I think it was just cool to me it was so interesting because he's he's quite a bit older than us and we haven't had a ton of guests on that are that much older than us

[00:35:44] so we've had like and we've had Lee and like really that's the majority of the older crowd that's right and it's so interesting to me as a man to hear the wisdom of an older man because they just they've experienced more

[00:35:59] you just have had more experience so like everything you know and say comes from a more experienced point of view and so like I love Lee's at least I think I hate picking favorites yeah it's like such a weird they were all good

[00:36:15] but yeah it was a highlight for you that one for me was a bit of a highlight yeah and that was interesting and so I enjoyed that Glenn was super early on Glenn Damon yeah he came on it's actually probably time to get him back

[00:36:28] probably a year he was so at our first was your first guest one of you was one of the first ones for it might have been the first couple he might have been the first guest and he actually so he was here the other day and he's like

[00:36:42] hey you do some like work with him outside of yeah and he's like hey do you still want to coach you I'm like yeah he's like alright buddy you're putting some weight on like I know and like and he's and that's why I love about him

[00:36:54] yeah honest and like I need people like that in my life right well if one man can't tell another man to get a shit together like exactly yeah for sure so Glenn was great Terrence was amazing what a like Uncle Terry is great

[00:37:10] Uncle Terry I love him so much to the depths of my soul he's such a great friend of mine but he's went through some shit hard time so he's had a really he's had a hard life yeah and like continues to have a life that is

[00:37:24] challenging so that episode was inspiring heartbreaking yeah it really was a roller coaster that one that was a tough one for sure some of them I come out feeling like I just ran a marathon that was one of them it's definitely

[00:37:40] draining yeah for sure when you well when you leave it all out to speak honestly that comes that comes down it's hard there is an after effect for sure that one I felt for days after some of them it's an hour some of them

[00:37:57] actually come out feeling better what's his name from New York there no Carlo Carlo yeah I came out of that one feeling fucking yeah all damped up and excited no actually like another story like what a beautiful story that's another

[00:38:13] thing is like this fucking guy who's in New York and he reached out to us like it's amazing that that somebody found our podcast and found it interesting enough to hey reach out like saying hey you know I'd love to be a guest

[00:38:28] to tell you my story yeah and like he had a cool fucking story really knew how to tell it and like it's part of what he does and so like he's refined that he's gotten good at that but so much honesty and so much like

[00:38:42] so much optimism yeah and I think I struggle with optimism that's a hard thing for me it is I think it's hard it's hard for a lot of people and including me I do try to look at the positive side of of shit that happens around around us

[00:38:59] yeah but it's just just like the news it's hard it's always hard easier to watch follow the negative than the positive right so and it really have to force yourself talking to him was really inspiring for me I've seen some

[00:39:14] message go back and forth with him yeah yeah I don't know I don't read them very often yeah so we just kind of reached out again and you know he's looking to do other shows you know just basically we're just trying to done men's

[00:39:27] health unscripted yet I don't think so but that's one thing that we've he's yeah and and I reach out to the guys as well and fucking cam you know trying to get them connected but yeah basically he's he wants to he that's that's his

[00:39:40] mission to like carlo wants to share as much as he can with other people right and and he actually told us that he has told me that he has some other podcast or guest that we could probably connect with so so we'll definitely do that

[00:39:55] I mean I don't care where anybody we're all going through the same shit exactly all of us as men are going through the same thing whether you live halfway across the world down fucking hypnotist Kevin Kevin yeah

[00:40:09] that was such a fun episode so interesting like I can't wait to go back to Vegas and you know I was yeah I hope we can do that yeah like where like I haven't been to Vegas in a

[00:40:20] while so I'm probably do I would love to go see a show like that be super fun right person and give him a hug that's right I love that he was a great his story is different like we've had so many people share so many

[00:40:34] different stories and like we did yeah it was it's just so beautiful I mean like having the intergalactic sauces guys on like that was a fun episode there was yeah we super interesting and who is the the comedian teacher oh Pat yeah

[00:40:51] that was super fun he was a father but episode like it we've really covered and I think because it's you and I like we're gonna cover the things that you and I relate to yeah can relate to well sort of easier easier seek out those

[00:41:06] things that's right so there's topics but like I think they're all the same and everyone's feeling the same absolutely I'm that was a fun one. I your buddy Brandon Brandon Brandon was good yeah he was like he did great and he was super he was super nervous

[00:41:23] about it coming in here he was like his story was also very heavy and yeah that was that was a heavy one I like I know I remember throughout the show when he was talking about his past and when how he was like selling selling stuff to

[00:41:39] you know to have less hassle for his family yeah man I wanted to get up and just go give him a hug because it's it's just I'm so happy that he didn't follow through with it and

[00:41:51] you know when we got past the that darkness yeah we had Mike talked about his his co musician taking his own life right that was that was a dark one that was it that one took me a couple days and I

[00:42:12] know I know we're gonna get him back again because after after we finished recording and we released it he's like man like there's so much more I wanted to talk about yeah we'll definitely have him back yeah for sure well and I think like

[00:42:22] we've we've actually said on the show a few times like hey try to follow up now we should do a follow-up so like maybe we'll do those in between we'll do short follow-up yeah or just do follow-ups and then just release it all together

[00:42:34] and so like I think that if anybody listening to this feels like I do after having that experience with somebody because really like whether you're doing the show you're one of us or you're listening to the show when people are

[00:42:48] being honest and vulnerable like you feel attached to that and so I want to follow up with some of these people and like I think others probably think about like I think about the people we've had on this show not just like when they leave

[00:43:01] in the show is done I don't stop thinking about them no no absolutely not and like we've been through something together we've we've open we've opened it up together and so it I feel like I feel a responsibility in doing that

[00:43:16] for sure hundred percent hundred percent and I didn't know like I didn't I didn't think about that when we first started doing the show well I didn't think about the weight of I didn't think about the weight of it because that's not

[00:43:31] something you don't go into starting something looking at oh how can what how much how hard is it going to be how yeah like I think for us it was easy to start the podcast because well had the equipment and we were doing

[00:43:47] podcast podcast yeah exactly so it was easy for us to just start it right and we didn't think of the heaviness that comes with it yeah we just like said now okay let's do it and didn't think about all the details I mean like you know

[00:44:03] I told you off the mics that I do want to focus on more marketing right now because as a podcast like you need to do that right yeah just to grow the numbers not for and again I

[00:44:13] don't want to grow the numbers for our gain or people to hear it that's right more people to hear it if I mention it to somebody that I have a men's mental health podcast and they're like oh that's a cool topic like you know I don't

[00:44:28] think it's as common out there like I know there are there are podcasts but there's not a lot and there's not a lot that and this isn't a brag or anything it's just honesty but like there's not a lot that do it the way we do

[00:44:40] it no no I don't think so yeah they and I and not saying that the way we do it is the way to do it yeah there's a bunch of ways to do it I love this is our way and this is

[00:44:51] what we can this is to us I think I can speak for both of us this is the way we would like to do it I think so yeah we have comfortable but like this is what we want

[00:45:02] um Dags episode which is the last one yeah unreal like I was that second last thing as well whatever it was and like oh yeah we yeah so like I've been on a show with Dag before I'd met him before but I don't know him and like

[00:45:18] that was again one of those situations of different setting focused on humor yeah not on reality like having Dagon here especially with my friend who's going through such a similar struggle to what he's been through at the time

[00:45:34] that Dag came on like it almost seemed very like it was very convenient that those were happening it was meant to be all select meant to be right yeah on a way like and I love having Dagon this show he's great Tommy was great yeah

[00:45:49] Tommy's episode is so cool like it was he's awesome yeah he's such a chill guy yeah he's just he's just a good man like he just wants to be a good dad and a good partner and like yeah yeah it was interesting to talk to him and

[00:46:04] we've done a lot of episodes yeah yeah I think this is episode 30 so we had so I think out of those we had at least 20 guests on for sure like 40 hours of had yeah recording yeah that's a lot of hours it is behind a

[00:46:20] microphone talking to different people a lot of editing and a lot of yeah you take on the 40 hours is my 40 years is like 60 or 70 but hey that's up thank you for that no no I and I enjoyed your host I appreciate you do that thank

[00:46:35] you welcome yeah cheers I'll drink to that yeah no it's another thing it's done is it's brought me and you closer together 100% our relationship has changed dramatically since we started doing this show well and just a fact like how you know like some of my best

[00:46:57] friends are people that I was celebrating we're celebrating okay some of my best friends are people that I've met like randomly like my yeah forget about me like I'll pour for you that's fine I'll pour for you any day you know I've met you

[00:47:21] through another show and it was you were part of that show and I was just a listener yeah and we just ended up like you know hanging out and started pretty much our relationship started on as a joke that's true yeah yeah

[00:47:37] we kind of went back and forth like you know calling each other's names and whatever and like but it was just all fun and games any good male friendship exactly abuse yeah one of my best friends that I was in a band with

[00:47:51] Chris like we've met on back in 2005 when I barely knew anybody here on you might remember this winnipeg bands dot com forum okay so it was it was literally I didn't know that was a thing okay so it was a forum for musicians to like

[00:48:06] hey like you put an ad or you know how forums are you have different rooms and like you can post pictures of the gear also used to be like it's like the newer version of the little pull a tab at the yeah yeah yeah exactly for a

[00:48:20] guitar player for a little band yeah but this was but this was also like you had literally like you could find like looking for musicians and then you had the genre okay and then you had just just gear chat and then we had different

[00:48:33] rooms that you could go in and like kind of comment post pictures and stuff right and so that's you know I'm just like looking for a band and he had a buddy that he played drums and he had a guitar show up at his house we had

[00:48:46] the exact same amp and we're like oh man like okay I want to see your settings like almost to like the number really like we love the same sound crunchy guitar sound we have the same influences like we are all agnostic mad ball of

[00:49:01] fans you know like we love the same music so we're like holy shit and we've become best friends you know like he was in my wedding party I wouldn't I was in his wedding party like it's just yeah like a complete stranger yeah

[00:49:16] that wasn't through my wife or through somebody you know it's just like hey what's up we kind of yeah that's kind of where ours and so yeah that's exactly how we've developed and yeah this show like in a year like yeah we have grown

[00:49:28] because I've learned a lot from you and about you me too and and I think yeah goes the other way around so it's it was yeah it's I'm very thankful for this year and I really hope that we continue doing this show for long

[00:49:41] time yeah me too I think like I look back at the the path of our friendship take the show out of yeah and like where we're at his friends today and where we were a year ago before starting the show is totally different yeah

[00:49:56] like just totally different and I'm grateful for it I'm so grateful for it yeah it's weird cuz like I don't have too many friends where like if I don't get a message from you like in two days I feel like what the fuck man like

[00:50:10] what's going on you talk quite a bit with you yeah sometimes it's just like hey man like a boner or hey asshole asshole yeah but good it's just a picture in a picture of your drink you

[00:50:22] know I love that yeah it's it's just one I think that we like we've we have we live the way we talk on this show so like this isn't we're not fake like this is not an act

[00:50:32] this is just who we are yeah like it or don't take it or leave it I don't I don't give a shit no like and nothing I have to say I think is any better than anything

[00:50:42] anyone else has to say it's just yeah I'm in front of the microphone so I'm saying it and like that's why I love when we have guests I like going to do shows together just the two of us too but I love when we have guests because

[00:50:53] it's just like oh it's not just me talking now that's right now I love to hear other people talk I love to ask questions yeah and you're really good at it too like you're really good at listening and asking the

[00:51:05] right questions I know I need to improve on that part because I tend to use a kind of just listen and you get super what I love about it is this innocence about the way you do it like you get so enthralled with the guests

[00:51:19] that you're just in it yeah and like someone's got to steer the ship so I'm happy to do it naturally it just kind of worked out that way but like I love that about you like you you get so involved in the story that's

[00:51:33] happening that like you just bury yourself in it and it's like we've done shows and you I don't even think I said anything you fucking basically didn't you love that episode and you love that show and like which one was there was one

[00:51:47] in particular where you were just like so into it. Kevin's episode it might have been because history was super interesting it might have been Kevin's but I remember afterwards you're like I don't even think I said anything I'm like you fucking didn't I'm just looking at

[00:52:03] like I'm just looking at like the list of guests we had. But yeah I think it might have been Kevin's one of them afterwards you're just like who's that listener we had on that was super interesting yes his name was Keith yeah yeah

[00:52:19] Keith was really good we also had Brett's everybody Brett's like and his story was like he wore a towel for a shirt. Aside from that and his story actually is again inspiring and heartbreaking oh we had my buddy chicken man Steve

[00:52:36] the play hockey with yeah so that was a great episode. Yeah and I know we had Scotty Scotty dangerously we did have Scotty right he talked about the ADHD talked about his ADHD a lot that was actually really eye opening yeah

[00:52:52] and I knew fucking nothing about ADHD before we did that episode I knew what it was or at least I thought I knew what it was I thought I had a J and that episode confirmed that I probably have ADHD.

[00:53:08] And so that was actually super interesting like it was again this person we kind of knew yeah. Yeah like we like maybe few times but like you go from like casual acquaintances or strangers to like really I know like I know what's buried deep inside you and it's

[00:53:27] just it and we do that in an hour and like I feel a lot of pressure about that sometimes and then we had Westwood. Yeah so and with Troy's Troy's episode was really interesting and I've heard some feedback from from that

[00:53:42] episode and I speak openly about that episode yeah I think with that's what we got to be honest and hated it. We're just we're doing and it's because I open up as much as they want to and we can't force anyone to open over.

[00:53:59] I do always feel like I put that on myself if we have an episode where I where I don't think somebody felt comfortable enough to swim in the deep end. I feel like I didn't do a good enough job as a host to

[00:54:17] bring that out or create an atmosphere in environment where they wanted to now I could blame myself for that forever. Yeah we've also done a ton of episodes where people have and so it's probably not and that was early on yeah I would

[00:54:30] handle the Troy Westwood interview differently if we did it again today maybe we can have him on again if we had him on today I would handle it very differently and we can play him this bit. I'd be just like dude I wish we never released that

[00:54:44] episode honestly but but that's but it's an interesting thing it's another thing to think about like we as men don't not all men are ready to swim in the deep end ready to open up or ready to be vulnerable and like Troy actually does

[00:55:01] some amazing things he just didn't talk about and so maybe it's a level of humility that he hasn't within itself that could be he doesn't want it to come off like a brag and I understand because people in Winnipeg know him as he

[00:55:13] is he is Troy Westwood from the blue bomb. So like I know he does these amazing things for his community for people for the city and he just didn't talk about those and we didn't and then we didn't we didn't

[00:55:27] really get into those no maybe that's my fault maybe he didn't want to go there he had never met us like who knows right but if I had him here today I would do it very differently yeah and so maybe I learned some lessons

[00:55:40] over this year to like about talking to people and how to interview people and I think we're gonna have Troy Westwood on again because so he's really good friends with Glenn yeah and I chatted with Glenn about that

[00:55:51] episode and even he kind of suggests is like well maybe we can come together on the show and then and then just kind of go from there because Glenn is also he loves talking and he knows him so you'll know how to get it

[00:56:04] out of him. Yeah for sure so yeah maybe Troy has a really interesting story they just didn't get it yeah and that's okay yeah and also like we're learned we're learning we we learned to I think you know if we go let's say 10

[00:56:18] years from now yeah we'll probably be able to extract that information easier and better if we continued yeah to do what we do right now. I think we're well and I always feel like our episodes are we're growing like we

[00:56:32] are growing as podcasters as interviewers as as men we're all growing together in this and so we've had a year now to grow and like it's changed our last five or six episodes are very different from our first five or six

[00:56:46] hundred percent yeah so and it's not about the people we have in here to talk with us it's just about our ability to we've learned we've grown and so I've been so grateful to have that have this as an outlet and have this

[00:57:01] as something we do and I really just want to keep doing this so like we're going to have another year ahead of us. Oh yeah like no question. No and like we're not we're not going to take a break or anything we're just

[00:57:14] no we're just gonna keep going. We might skip in the week week or two in the summer but whatever we've mentioned that last show so yeah but yeah I'm looking forward to this year it's going to be challenge challenging just like

[00:57:28] everything is you know if it was easy then everyone would be doing it and everyone would be successful and that just doesn't make sense. Yeah that's right but yeah so we will go from go from here we'll see what happens and

[00:57:41] I already have a couple guests lined up and they're those are gonna be interesting stories especially one of them yeah it's gonna be it's gonna have to do it's I'm just gonna give a little teaser abuse. Oh okay on the man

[00:57:58] from a woman okay yeah and that's that's something had any no we haven't so that's something that barely hear about that. Yeah well nobody fucking talks about it interesting that'll be an episode but but yeah I little teaser for you

[00:58:14] guys. So yeah we got another year ahead of us yeah and I think this is a good time to wrap it up this might be a little bit shorter episode but before we go because it's our one-year anniversary we're gonna give away some

[00:58:27] surprises so we'll do a mug in a book we'll do a mug in a book and a book so yeah. So for those of you who heard our Glenn Damon episode he actually is an author he's written

[00:58:46] the book he's working on another one I would tend to ask him fucking when is it coming out Glenn because it's called when right now. But this is his first book we're gonna give away one of those and a mug to somebody

[00:59:01] so what do they have to do. You know what when you message yeah when when this when this episode comes out and you guys hear this send us a email to quiet ride show at gmail dot com sweet that you want to book and the cup or the

[00:59:20] mug I love it and then when we receive the emails we will do a do a draw and we'll for the second we'll do this draw a second person and we'll get it just a book we have an extra

[00:59:34] one so I love it and it's they're all signed by Mr. Glenn Damon and yeah so just follow us on Instagram and Facebook the quiet ride at quiet ride show send us a message you know share it with your friends and family if you

[00:59:46] like please share it actually one thing I wanted to come up that bring up that one of my highlights of this year was a lot of females actually reached out yeah saying how much I love your show and I will tell my husband about it

[01:00:01] yeah and that's that's great and should listen to the absolutely women should listen to the show yeah so that's I kind of love love it so love it that that's what is for the coming year if you have topics you want covered

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