"The Balance Dilemma" with Tim and Tommy

[00:00:00] We're gonna take three months off drinking.

[00:00:04] Woohoo!

[00:00:06] Is what my wife's saying.

[00:00:10] Yeah, I don't know why but we're doing it.

[00:00:13] So it's November, December, January.

[00:00:14] You get to pick a seven-day period in that three months where you get a break.

[00:00:18] Which is recommended Christmas to New Year.

[00:00:20] I mean most people will probably do Christmas to New Year.

[00:00:22] I might do the first week.

[00:00:25] No, don't do it.

[00:00:27] And we're all chipping in 200 bucks to do it.

[00:00:30] And 100 of it's gonna get donated.

[00:00:31] Through a charity?

[00:00:32] Through a charity or whatever.

[00:00:34] And then the other 100 is gonna go to split amongst whoever's left at the end.

[00:00:38] Yeah, so it's gonna be all based on honor system?

[00:00:41] Yeah, which...

[00:00:42] Yeah, you gotta put in your money and then I guess we should start right before it.

[00:00:46] We should start like a WhatsApp group or something.

[00:00:48] Yeah.

[00:00:49] And then there'll be a WhatsApp group for A-ripping on people.

[00:00:52] 100%.

[00:00:53] All kinds of...

[00:00:54] It'll be ridiculous, I'm sure.

[00:00:55] Have you thought of what charity to do?

[00:00:58] I've had some ideas, but I think what we can do is just like get the group going.

[00:01:04] Yeah.

[00:01:04] And once we have the WhatsApp group, like everybody's in there, the group can decide.

[00:01:08] Yeah.

[00:01:08] So everyone can contribute something or whatever and I think the group should decide.

[00:01:12] Sounds good.

[00:01:12] Yeah.

[00:01:13] That's what makes sense to me.

[00:01:37] Are we done yet?

[00:01:39] I'm not done sweating.

[00:01:41] That's for sure.

[00:01:42] Yeah, you're sweaty Betty.

[00:01:45] Just...

[00:01:46] Problem.

[00:01:47] Sickness and anxiety.

[00:01:49] Oh.

[00:01:49] Yeah.

[00:01:51] Which part makes you sweat?

[00:01:53] Both.

[00:01:53] Really?

[00:01:53] No, no it's both.

[00:01:55] This is how I am usually when I'm like when we're packing, traveling or something.

[00:02:01] Like okay, we have to do this and we're on a time limit.

[00:02:05] Yeah, okay.

[00:02:06] This, like this is me.

[00:02:08] Just wet?

[00:02:08] Just I start sweating from everywhere.

[00:02:11] I feel my belly button.

[00:02:13] No, not.

[00:02:15] It's absolutely not.

[00:02:18] No, I think this is still part of the sickness that I was like really sick last week so...

[00:02:23] You sound like shit.

[00:02:24] Yeah, you're welcome.

[00:02:28] But at least we need to record an episode because we haven't recorded anything so...

[00:02:34] I know and we didn't even like not do it wasn't like oh we're on summer break.

[00:02:38] Well I kind of made a couple posts that like hey we'll be back.

[00:02:41] Yeah.

[00:02:42] Just bear with us you know.

[00:02:43] Yeah, yeah.

[00:02:44] And...

[00:02:44] More about we're just really busy.

[00:02:47] Yeah and I guess that's what we're going to talk about today so...

[00:02:50] Oh sure.

[00:02:52] But yeah just how life you know throws us a curve ball and then another one and then

[00:02:59] another one and it just doesn't stop.

[00:03:02] Yeah.

[00:03:02] It feels that way.

[00:03:04] Yeah I guess like that's how life is normally.

[00:03:09] It must be.

[00:03:10] But sometimes you just have time to breathe in between and I just feel like I haven't had

[00:03:18] that time to take a...

[00:03:20] To get out of water and take a breath.

[00:03:23] You've been busy, you've had a busy like...

[00:03:26] Yeah like...

[00:03:26] I mean you're always busy but going for a vacation was fantastic but that just

[00:03:33] set me back like crazy.

[00:03:37] And so I'm still playing catch up from that and plus I mean in between I got sick

[00:03:42] and that knocked me on my ass completely so yeah good times but we're back.

[00:03:48] So yay!

[00:03:49] We're sort of one and a half, we're one and a half people today.

[00:03:52] Yeah exactly half of me is dying somewhere under the table so...

[00:04:00] That sucks man well I'm glad you're well enough to do this.

[00:04:03] But I'm off antibiotics so I can finally have a whiskey so I'm very happy.

[00:04:08] Is it actually Kate?

[00:04:09] So you're not supposed to.

[00:04:11] Yeah but you're not supposed to do a lot of things.

[00:04:14] Yeah but like...

[00:04:15] So the thing is I don't take antibiotics just on anything you know.

[00:04:21] Yeah okay.

[00:04:21] And so I kind of look at it this way that if I have to take antibiotics

[00:04:27] that means my body's fighting something.

[00:04:29] Yeah.

[00:04:30] And I'm trying to do everything to help it to help those meds kick in

[00:04:36] and I don't think alcohol...

[00:04:37] I think it makes them less effective.

[00:04:39] Yeah so whatever was in my body most of it was killed by the antibiotics

[00:04:46] but there's still something lingering so I'm not contagious

[00:04:51] because like my family hasn't gotten sick from me.

[00:04:53] I wouldn't be sitting here if you were.

[00:04:55] Yeah but yeah I think I had like a lung infection

[00:05:01] and that's just still lingering so like kind of like bronchitis

[00:05:05] but it wasn't necessarily bronchitis.

[00:05:07] Yeah so yeah no good times.

[00:05:10] Quit smoking.

[00:05:12] Yeah great.

[00:05:16] Quit drinking too.

[00:05:18] Yeah might as well but I'm at it right?

[00:05:20] Couple more months buddy.

[00:05:21] So okay so why don't we check in and then we have some news for everyone

[00:05:26] and we're gonna start promoting our...

[00:05:28] Tommy and I are getting married.

[00:05:30] Yay!

[00:05:36] Okay why don't you go with the check in?

[00:05:44] What number are you today?

[00:05:47] Timothy.

[00:05:48] Four.

[00:05:49] Four.

[00:05:49] Wow.

[00:05:51] Fuck that took a dive eh?

[00:05:53] Yeah it's...

[00:05:54] Okay.

[00:05:54] No it hasn't been fun.

[00:05:56] I'm having any fun.

[00:05:57] So why is that?

[00:05:59] Uh my wife is not feeling the greatest and hasn't for a while now.

[00:06:05] For a while now yeah.

[00:06:05] Yeah I'm not gonna get into it but like she's been sick

[00:06:09] and so that's frustrating.

[00:06:11] I mean for her first and foremost I'm sure that's super frustrating

[00:06:15] but for me it's frustrating too and it's like has its own challenge

[00:06:18] and I have to do more stuff

[00:06:20] and I already don't feel like I have time to do the stuff I need to do anyways

[00:06:24] so it's just been...

[00:06:26] Yeah it's just tough.

[00:06:27] Yeah.

[00:06:28] Fuck.

[00:06:29] But I mean you know we've had some fun

[00:06:31] like we actually managed to have one night

[00:06:35] where you and I could like we ended up doing some work

[00:06:38] but then we ended up having some drinks.

[00:06:40] That's true.

[00:06:40] And that was fun.

[00:06:42] Actually I was just thinking about do you remember that we bought tickets?

[00:06:46] Yeah.

[00:06:47] Okay you just remembered didn't you?

[00:06:49] Yeah I just remember when you said that.

[00:06:51] Also who did we buy tickets to again?

[00:06:55] So we bought tickets to Apocalypse.

[00:06:58] Oh yeah they're doing the show in February or whatever.

[00:07:02] Yeah yeah yeah okay.

[00:07:03] Because I thought of it the other day I was like

[00:07:06] I bet Tim does not know or like he'll remember us.

[00:07:10] Now it all makes sense.

[00:07:11] But I love making those drunk decisions just yeah let's do it.

[00:07:15] Yeah of course.

[00:07:16] And then a week before that Tim will let me know

[00:07:19] he's like yeah I can make it.

[00:07:20] No I'll go I'll go.

[00:07:21] But we bought it for our wives too.

[00:07:24] Us and our wives yeah.

[00:07:24] Exactly so.

[00:07:25] It should be yeah I mean I love that band

[00:07:27] and I've ever seen them live so that would be awesome.

[00:07:33] You had unfair advantage on that one

[00:07:35] you have your credit card statement.

[00:07:37] Yeah that's right.

[00:07:38] Shit.

[00:07:41] But so I'm a six.

[00:07:45] Okay.

[00:07:46] And that's just being kind of like what I've talked about

[00:07:49] that you know sick behind work super busy

[00:07:53] doing some work for the Manitoba Loud Music Awards right now

[00:07:57] which I'm really happy to do because it's a fun project

[00:08:01] and it's an absolutely amazing event.

[00:08:05] I'm happy that Manitoba has something to kind of

[00:08:08] recognize the local musicians.

[00:08:10] They have different categories and one of them

[00:08:12] which I really like is the upcoming band of the year.

[00:08:17] So that's pretty good because like when you're a new band

[00:08:20] you know you kind of you know you try to get on the bill

[00:08:25] with your friends band you know or like people that you know

[00:08:28] and so this is another way of just kind of like

[00:08:31] showcase your music right and then especially if you win

[00:08:35] like and this is all fan based so is it all like fans

[00:08:40] for everything.

[00:08:42] Yeah.

[00:08:42] So if you submit your bands video album single guitarist

[00:08:49] whatever you are responsible to promote it for yourself

[00:08:52] and get people to vote for you right.

[00:08:54] And we kind of really wanted to do we don't need a panel

[00:08:57] like when I was part of it we talked about it like

[00:09:00] we don't need a panel to have somebody like judge

[00:09:03] like OK why is he a better guitar player.

[00:09:06] That's that's so stupid.

[00:09:07] No it's like you know bands that actually care will put in

[00:09:09] the effort and will actually win right.

[00:09:13] Yeah.

[00:09:13] And so if you have a fan base then you promote the

[00:09:16] shit out of it and you know that's how you get into

[00:09:19] the nominees and you can win right.

[00:09:23] So I really like it because bands actually put

[00:09:25] in some work into an effort right.

[00:09:28] So that's pretty cool.

[00:09:29] So anyway it's a little plug for them but it's coming

[00:09:31] up September 28th and have Voivod headlining.

[00:09:36] See like I it's not a band that I put on.

[00:09:39] Yeah.

[00:09:40] But I'm sure watching them live will be fucking awesome.

[00:09:43] Yeah that's true.

[00:09:44] There's another cool band from Calgary as well

[00:09:46] and then one of our lists or one of our guests

[00:09:49] that was on here Mike Deerman with Ramsco.

[00:09:52] Oh yeah.

[00:09:53] His band.

[00:09:54] I saw them on the poster or whatever.

[00:09:55] Yeah.

[00:09:56] Yeah and a couple other bands Haley Sansergritt

[00:09:58] and School of Rock that's another cool thing

[00:10:00] that what they do is so School of Rock is basically

[00:10:04] exactly what it sounds like.

[00:10:06] It's a school that teaches they have a bunch of like

[00:10:11] I guess kids that go there and like learn instruments

[00:10:14] right and they perform.

[00:10:16] And so they're sponsoring the event and they get

[00:10:19] the first slot like they get I think a 20 minute

[00:10:22] slot.

[00:10:22] So then the last year's kids that were in

[00:10:25] that school they kind of showcase their abilities

[00:10:27] right.

[00:10:28] So really cool like we last year we saw like you

[00:10:31] know little kids that are like 12 13 14 and teens

[00:10:35] if they suck.

[00:10:37] I mean I wanted to.

[00:10:38] No.

[00:10:40] Launching beers on.

[00:10:41] But I mean you know think about it like if you

[00:10:43] if you a little kid and you're trying to like

[00:10:46] you know learn this pretty cool opportunity

[00:10:48] and then you get to open up this awesome event.

[00:10:51] Why not right.

[00:10:51] So it's really really cool so I'm looking forward

[00:10:54] to it and it's going to be on my birthday.

[00:10:55] So come down to the Park Theater.

[00:10:58] Well you're going to have a great time.

[00:11:00] I'm going to be working.

[00:11:02] Yeah.

[00:11:03] Oh yeah.

[00:11:04] I told that who is who is the founder and

[00:11:08] organizer that you know what I'm just going

[00:11:11] to tell people to start buying me drinks.

[00:11:14] So my work might get sloppier towards the

[00:11:17] end of the night but like that's what you

[00:11:19] get for planning it on my birthday.

[00:11:21] It sounds like his problem.

[00:11:22] So yeah it's just been busy and you know

[00:11:26] playing catch up so that's why I say so.

[00:11:29] Okay.

[00:11:30] Why don't we talk about what we're planning

[00:11:32] on doing in November.

[00:11:34] Yeah.

[00:11:34] Oh okay.

[00:11:36] So yeah it's it's it's mid September so

[00:11:39] we let this gives us enough time to like

[00:11:41] kind of promote the shit out of this

[00:11:43] and then hopefully get more people on board

[00:11:45] right.

[00:11:46] I guess.

[00:11:46] Yeah.

[00:11:47] It's awful.

[00:11:49] Why don't you why don't you buy your

[00:11:50] first remorse about this decision.

[00:11:51] You didn't start yet right.

[00:11:54] We're going to take three months off

[00:11:57] drinking.

[00:11:59] Woo hoo.

[00:12:02] Is what my wife's saying.

[00:12:05] Yeah I don't know why but we're doing it.

[00:12:09] But we're not just stopping drinking.

[00:12:12] What do you mean.

[00:12:13] Well we're going to have some fun right.

[00:12:16] Like what kind of fun.

[00:12:17] With the money and all that.

[00:12:19] Well I guess.

[00:12:19] Yeah yeah.

[00:12:20] Mine as well.

[00:12:21] So we're not fun for us.

[00:12:22] Me and a group of people or whatever

[00:12:24] are doing a three month off booze thing.

[00:12:27] Now so it's November December January

[00:12:31] you get to pick a seven day period

[00:12:34] in that three months where you get

[00:12:35] a break.

[00:12:36] Which is recommended Christmas to

[00:12:37] New Year.

[00:12:38] I mean most people will probably

[00:12:39] do Christmas New Year's.

[00:12:40] I might do the first week.

[00:12:42] No don't do it.

[00:12:44] No you can do it.

[00:12:45] But

[00:12:45] and we're all chipping in 200 bucks to do it

[00:12:49] and a hundred of it's going to get donated.

[00:12:52] Through charity.

[00:12:53] Through a charity or whatever and then

[00:12:55] the other hundred is going to go to

[00:12:58] split amongst whoever's left at the end.

[00:13:00] Yeah so it's going to be all based on

[00:13:02] honor system.

[00:13:03] Yeah.

[00:13:03] So you know if your piece of shit

[00:13:06] and you want to line that's fine.

[00:13:08] Yeah you've got to live with yourself.

[00:13:10] Exactly yeah.

[00:13:11] But yeah it's going to be fun.

[00:13:13] So I told a few people about it too.

[00:13:15] So we have to we're going to have to figure out

[00:13:18] how we're going to do the like because

[00:13:22] there's like I think it's one of those

[00:13:24] things that saying that yeah man is

[00:13:26] different than where you got to pay.

[00:13:27] You got to bring the physical money put

[00:13:30] it down and get rid of it right and

[00:13:32] then you get it back at the end.

[00:13:33] So yeah you got to put in your money

[00:13:35] and then I guess we should start

[00:13:37] right before we should start like a

[00:13:38] WhatsApp group or something.

[00:13:40] Yeah and then there'll be a WhatsApp

[00:13:41] group for A rip it on people.

[00:13:43] 100% yeah.

[00:13:44] All kinds of it'll be ridiculous I'm sure.

[00:13:47] It's only for people that can handle it.

[00:13:50] But it's going to be awful.

[00:13:52] Three months is going to be a long time.

[00:13:54] I know I can do it.

[00:13:55] I've never done three months.

[00:13:57] No way.

[00:13:57] I've done four the most.

[00:13:59] Really?

[00:13:59] And even then like I started drinking

[00:14:01] only because I was like we had a show

[00:14:03] and I'm like yeah I'm doing it.

[00:14:05] Okay.

[00:14:05] You know like but I could have kept

[00:14:06] going probably.

[00:14:07] I don't remember the last time

[00:14:09] I went four months.

[00:14:11] Wow.

[00:14:11] I've done a month a few times.

[00:14:12] Well I'm going to say

[00:14:15] I'm going to tell you this very honestly

[00:14:17] that I think you probably need it

[00:14:21] since you can't remember

[00:14:22] and you're so worried.

[00:14:24] You definitely need the three months off.

[00:14:27] Like I don't drink on a daily basis.

[00:14:29] Yeah.

[00:14:30] I really only have drinks when you're

[00:14:32] over or when I have like friends over

[00:14:34] or like me and my wife will decide

[00:14:36] to have like one drink you know

[00:14:38] here and there but.

[00:14:39] That's the same thing that I do.

[00:14:43] Sure.

[00:14:46] But yeah so I think you can do it.

[00:14:49] It's just.

[00:14:50] I can do it.

[00:14:50] I know I can.

[00:14:51] Yeah.

[00:14:51] It's going to suck.

[00:14:52] I'm not going to.

[00:14:53] I don't know what.

[00:14:54] I'm trying to find purpose in it.

[00:14:56] Like what am I going to do?

[00:14:58] Why am I doing this?

[00:14:59] Aside from just like

[00:15:01] because it sounds torturous to myself

[00:15:04] which I do enjoy.

[00:15:05] Yeah.

[00:15:06] Just look at the negative.

[00:15:07] And so that's fine.

[00:15:08] Like maybe that's the purpose.

[00:15:10] I don't know but like

[00:15:10] I guess it's good to take a break

[00:15:12] from things like that.

[00:15:14] Like just to know you can

[00:15:16] and not that I don't think I can.

[00:15:18] I know I can.

[00:15:19] Well and you're functioning

[00:15:23] alcoholic right?

[00:15:26] we I mean we joke about it

[00:15:27] but you can have drinks.

[00:15:29] You can function on it

[00:15:30] whereas like the reason I took

[00:15:31] those months off is

[00:15:34] so I did like just a sober October

[00:15:36] and that's kind of just to prove

[00:15:37] myself that I can

[00:15:40] go without booze because like my

[00:15:42] my dad used to be an alcoholic.

[00:15:44] You know just overall

[00:15:46] my culture is very heavy drinking.

[00:15:49] Yep.

[00:15:50] So you know I don't want to fall

[00:15:52] into that pit.

[00:15:55] That's fair.

[00:15:55] And so I was like well

[00:15:57] I did one month.

[00:15:58] I did one month.

[00:15:59] I'm like well let's see

[00:16:00] how long I can go in there.

[00:16:02] And next thing you know

[00:16:02] it was like three months

[00:16:03] and then four months

[00:16:04] and I was like oh we have

[00:16:05] a show coming up.

[00:16:06] Fuck it I'm going to have

[00:16:06] some drinks.

[00:16:07] Now I didn't need

[00:16:09] a lot of drinks to get drunk that day

[00:16:10] because after four months

[00:16:12] yeah it was actually really nice

[00:16:13] and I didn't have to you know like build

[00:16:15] like I didn't have that tolerance built up

[00:16:17] so like you know few

[00:16:19] I think three four beers

[00:16:20] and then few whiskies

[00:16:22] I was like already really feeling very happy

[00:16:24] yeah whereas like normally

[00:16:26] that's like just a startup right.

[00:16:28] Yeah it's an appetizer.

[00:16:31] Yeah I don't know

[00:16:32] like I feel I don't

[00:16:35] feel excited about it by any means

[00:16:36] but I'm actually

[00:16:38] am because of the charity part.

[00:16:41] Oh my god yeah that's great

[00:16:42] but as a friend of mine

[00:16:44] he texts me when I tell him about it

[00:16:46] and he says can I just donate a hundred bucks

[00:16:49] and not do the fucking thing

[00:16:50] and I was like yeah that's nice.

[00:16:51] I mean I mean he can

[00:16:53] yeah really go for it.

[00:16:54] He just has to do

[00:16:56] well he has to put two hundred bucks in right.

[00:16:58] Yeah yeah that's the cost.

[00:17:00] Yeah it's hundred bucks

[00:17:02] donation hundred bucks donation

[00:17:03] and then hundred dollars to

[00:17:05] to be able to drink right away.

[00:17:07] That's fair that's fair and then

[00:17:08] because then it counts.

[00:17:10] So you're gonna like so I'm trying to think about it

[00:17:12] I'm like okay well am I just gonna like

[00:17:13] should I take the money I spend on booze

[00:17:16] now and like set it aside

[00:17:18] and like see how much I have when it's over

[00:17:21] or like

[00:17:22] what am I gonna do with my

[00:17:24] what do I want to accomplish out of this

[00:17:26] and I haven't found that yet.

[00:17:27] I haven't figured that out yet

[00:17:29] mostly because I'm trying not to think about it.

[00:17:32] See the thing is

[00:17:34] I never like that when

[00:17:35] like you know people quit smoking like oh how much

[00:17:37] money you save you know and like

[00:17:39] there's that joke where like oh if you stop

[00:17:41] drinking beer you know like

[00:17:43] you can buy yourself

[00:17:45] a Ferrari or whatever and then

[00:17:47] and the husband's like well

[00:17:49] you don't drink beer where is your fucking Ferrari

[00:17:51] you know. Right exactly.

[00:17:52] So you never save that money

[00:17:54] you never put that money aside you know so that's why

[00:17:57] I think like you have to just remember like

[00:17:58] if you quit smoking or quit drinking or whatever

[00:18:01] you quit spending that

[00:18:03] unnecessary money let's call it

[00:18:06] well

[00:18:07] that's why I had quotations

[00:18:09] on because I mean

[00:18:10] I know it's necessary sometimes

[00:18:14] but

[00:18:15] you know you just have to remember it

[00:18:17] to treat yourself

[00:18:18] for something you know that makes you happy

[00:18:22] whatever that thing is.

[00:18:23] Maybe skin and bones when this thing's done

[00:18:25] cause there's nothing left of me.

[00:18:27] I know right just shaking in the corner

[00:18:29] all my calories are boots

[00:18:31] like. Well you're going to have to start

[00:18:33] eating.

[00:18:35] So much more work.

[00:18:39] But

[00:18:41] have you thought

[00:18:41] of what charity to

[00:18:43] do? I've had some ideas but I think

[00:18:46] what we can do is just

[00:18:47] like get the group going. Yeah.

[00:18:49] And once we have the WhatsApp group like everybody's

[00:18:52] in there the group can decide.

[00:18:53] Everyone can contribute something or whatever

[00:18:55] and I think the group should decide. Sounds good.

[00:18:57] Yeah. That's what makes sense to me.

[00:19:00] This isn't like my thing.

[00:19:02] It's just like everybody's thing

[00:19:03] whoever wants. So

[00:19:05] that being said if you want to torture yourself

[00:19:07] for three months you're welcome to join in.

[00:19:10] 100%

[00:19:11] You should be a drinker.

[00:19:14] I don't know how we set rules around

[00:19:16] that but like

[00:19:17] no but like I don't want someone coming

[00:19:19] in here who has one beer a week.

[00:19:22] Yeah but so what?

[00:19:23] That doesn't count.

[00:19:26] So Bratsky.

[00:19:28] Someone who's

[00:19:29] you have to be

[00:19:30] unlikely to succeed is what I'm saying.

[00:19:35] No I guess it shouldn't matter

[00:19:36] if you just want to do it but you have to

[00:19:37] like drink.

[00:19:39] Yeah.

[00:19:41] Like I'm not saying you're going to be a drunk

[00:19:42] but like

[00:19:44] But you are.

[00:19:45] Kind of saying it without saying it but no.

[00:19:48] Anyway.

[00:19:49] You have to be able, yeah you have to be a part

[00:19:52] of this and you think it's something that would be good

[00:19:53] for you and you want to do it then like

[00:19:55] you can email or Instagram

[00:19:57] or whatever us. Yeah she does a message

[00:19:59] and then we'll get you set up.

[00:20:01] But yeah it's not like a thing we're doing for the show

[00:20:04] it's just like a thing we're doing.

[00:20:05] We're going to just promote it here.

[00:20:07] Yeah. But yeah so

[00:20:09] if you guys want to join in let us know.

[00:20:11] Hey Tommy among all the episodes we've

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[00:22:10] so we're busy we kind of started talking

[00:22:12] with that a little bit

[00:22:13] I guess this is just like

[00:22:19] life? Yeah

[00:22:21] for everybody? I don't know

[00:22:23] um like I can

[00:22:25] definitely not everybody because

[00:22:26] part of me gets really

[00:22:29] pissed off and

[00:22:31] angry when I hear

[00:22:33] some of my coworkers like oh yeah I played

[00:22:35] like three hours of video games

[00:22:37] I hear people talk about that

[00:22:38] how the fuck do you have time?

[00:22:39] I get it if you're in your 20s or something like that

[00:22:42] well he's not but they have no kids

[00:22:43] oh yeah okay so

[00:22:46] oh yeah it's a different life right

[00:22:48] I can't still be just as busy but

[00:22:50] yeah you would be

[00:22:52] because you have your own business

[00:22:54] when you have your own business like you're busy right

[00:22:56] that's a big yeah that's a thing

[00:22:58] for me I don't think people aren't busy

[00:23:00] that don't have their own businesses but

[00:23:02] like it's definitely a

[00:23:03] driver in how busy I am

[00:23:05] like in a big way

[00:23:07] you're actually at a point where you're

[00:23:09] like you have your own business and you have

[00:23:11] a job and so like

[00:23:13] and you have

[00:23:15] two kids and a home

[00:23:17] and a family and a wife and like

[00:23:20] people are just fucking busy

[00:23:21] yeah well and the thing is like

[00:23:23] you know when I went to the doctor

[00:23:25] and like oh you

[00:23:27] know gonna eat healthy

[00:23:29] and do this and that and I'm just like I don't

[00:23:31] know how I'm gonna try to squeeze

[00:23:33] all that in like to eat healthy like

[00:23:35] eating healthy is such a

[00:23:37] like it's so time consuming

[00:23:39] it's more work for sure yeah

[00:23:41] because like you have to prep your

[00:23:43] your food you know and like

[00:23:45] you actually have to think about what you're doing

[00:23:47] you can't just like oh I'm gonna

[00:23:49] run to McDonald's and grab

[00:23:51] you know Big Mac or whatever

[00:23:53] and um and and so

[00:23:55] that's that's so I find like

[00:23:57] literally a little bit of a panic attack

[00:23:59] uh happened when I heard

[00:24:01] that you know I have to do this and I haven't been doing it really

[00:24:04] I mean

[00:24:05] trying to eat healthier but like

[00:24:07] I'm not doing the

[00:24:09] Mediterranean diet and

[00:24:11] was that the thing? yeah it was okay

[00:24:13] yeah I looked at the menu and I'm like

[00:24:15] there's no way I can do this

[00:24:17] I have to prep a fresh

[00:24:19] meal every day and I don't have the time for that

[00:24:21] you know like

[00:24:23] every day like Monday there's gymnastics

[00:24:25] Tuesday take window and drumming

[00:24:28] Wednesday we have nothing

[00:24:29] Thursday there's take window and gymnastics

[00:24:32] Friday I'm gonna have hockey

[00:24:33] starting Saturday

[00:24:35] Jacob's gonna have sparring and

[00:24:37] flag football Sunday gymnastics

[00:24:39] like so there's like all this

[00:24:42] shit that's happening you know

[00:24:43] while I'm going to work

[00:24:45] and trying to do my own business trying to

[00:24:48] do the podcast right like it's just so much

[00:24:50] and and like sometimes

[00:24:51] like I said like I just feel like I'm just

[00:24:53] drinking water and drowning yeah

[00:24:56] but what like what Kasey what

[00:24:57] what do you do like how do you

[00:25:00] just power through

[00:25:01] I know that's what we do but

[00:25:04] yeah is that the thing

[00:25:05] is that what you're supposed to do

[00:25:07] I mean I mean luckily

[00:25:08] my wife is

[00:25:11] fucking amazing support and

[00:25:13] like you know she

[00:25:15] she's able to help me out but like

[00:25:17] even it's too much for her

[00:25:19] you know like I put that pressure

[00:25:21] on her too and

[00:25:23] and part of me is

[00:25:25] thankful but part of me feels like a piece

[00:25:27] of shit right because like I'm doing that

[00:25:29] to her yeah

[00:25:31] yeah I don't know what to do about it like

[00:25:33] I like to be busy

[00:25:35] but then like when I don't want

[00:25:37] to be busy

[00:25:38] you can just stop I'm pissed off that I'm so busy

[00:25:41] yeah like it's

[00:25:43] weird sort of I don't know

[00:25:47] it's conflicting well exactly like sometimes

[00:25:49] like I sit down and relax and

[00:25:51] then I feel awful I suck

[00:25:53] at being bored like I'm not

[00:25:55] good at being oh I'm see I'm good

[00:25:57] at being are you I suck

[00:25:59] I'm really good at being bored but

[00:26:01] then the guilt kicks in

[00:26:03] right so

[00:26:05] that's yeah like I have no idea

[00:26:07] how to fix it and well

[00:26:09] I guess part of it

[00:26:11] when I did the

[00:26:13] better help therapy

[00:26:17] part of it was

[00:26:18] routine like you have to

[00:26:20] establish a routine yeah and

[00:26:25] it's

[00:26:25] somewhat doable

[00:26:26] but like you know with

[00:26:28] with my side job

[00:26:30] well I don't always have

[00:26:32] that work you know

[00:26:34] sometimes I have more like right now

[00:26:37] I'm working on

[00:26:39] three things you know at the same time

[00:26:41] and then meanwhile you know

[00:26:43] I get a message like hey can you do this

[00:26:45] oh sure okay can you do that

[00:26:46] yeah okay but like that's what you say to people

[00:26:49] yeah I don't get that from you

[00:26:51] no

[00:26:51] I never get it yeah okay sure

[00:26:54] what the fuck is that

[00:26:59] what do you mean no but I guess like

[00:27:01] I I guess if we're

[00:27:04] talking about how like if you're busy

[00:27:06] and it makes you feel good

[00:27:08] that's a good thing

[00:27:09] like I mean when I but what do you do when

[00:27:12] you're busy and you don't feel good

[00:27:14] it's not even it's not even that like

[00:27:16] when I'm busy I feel good

[00:27:18] it's more just like the accomplishment

[00:27:20] like once I'm I finish a certain job

[00:27:22] like that that feeling of

[00:27:24] finishing and getting it done it's very

[00:27:26] rewarding right so like

[00:27:28] I might be stressing and

[00:27:30] you know doing

[00:27:33] freaking out a little bit

[00:27:34] you know but like once I finish it I'm like

[00:27:36] oh yeah this is good this is done this looks awesome

[00:27:38] I'm happy with it

[00:27:41] but it's more just like

[00:27:43] when I

[00:27:44] when I'm working on something

[00:27:47] oh shit now I have to stop because I have

[00:27:50] something else like taking the kid to

[00:27:52] an activity right

[00:27:54] that that I absolutely

[00:27:56] hate because I get frustrated

[00:27:58] because like sometimes like especially with

[00:27:59] like doing some designs

[00:28:01] or working on some videos

[00:28:03] you know like when you're in this zone like

[00:28:06] work is flowing and that's

[00:28:07] awesome yeah that feels fucking

[00:28:10] great oh shit I got so much done

[00:28:12] in you know an hour but then

[00:28:14] when you're where you want to keep going and it's like

[00:28:15] oh fuck now I gotta stop this

[00:28:17] and then you know go do something

[00:28:19] come back and restart it and that's

[00:28:21] where I struggle with getting back

[00:28:23] into it or almost like yeah like I feel

[00:28:25] like I don't feel like doing this anymore

[00:28:27] you know and then sometimes

[00:28:29] I push things to the next day and then

[00:28:31] shit happens well their piles up

[00:28:33] and there's just more and like that's yeah

[00:28:35] it it's tough

[00:28:37] no and I think

[00:28:39] eventually if I just do this

[00:28:41] on the side

[00:28:43] or like as a full time

[00:28:45] what I'm doing on the side right now

[00:28:46] that might be a little bit different because then I'll have

[00:28:49] during the day while my family

[00:28:50] and kids are gone

[00:28:53] wife and kids are gone then I'm working

[00:28:55] right and then I can

[00:28:57] kind of have that period

[00:28:59] of time where I'm like in the zone

[00:29:01] and working but right now

[00:29:03] like it's really hard

[00:29:05] and draining yeah I believe

[00:29:07] it and like yeah I just yeah I don't know how

[00:29:09] to I don't know if there's a fix for it other

[00:29:11] than just keep fucking

[00:29:13] doing it right

[00:29:15] yeah it's it's

[00:29:17] I don't know who is that I've never been in

[00:29:19] your position in that sense and so

[00:29:21] like I don't know

[00:29:23] I don't know what you do was that Andy

[00:29:25] Sandberg movie never stop never stopping

[00:29:27] and it would be so funny

[00:29:31] I mean you have to

[00:29:33] just manage it because it can't

[00:29:35] get out of control to a point where

[00:29:37] you know again like you don't

[00:29:39] see your family like like we've

[00:29:41] talked on the show before about very early

[00:29:43] on about like when you went to school

[00:29:45] to get your training like how hard

[00:29:47] that was and how like

[00:29:49] how difficult how hard that was on your family

[00:29:51] and your relationship with your kids and like

[00:29:53] so you know your priority

[00:29:56] so your priorities

[00:29:57] my priority

[00:29:59] should be my family and it

[00:30:01] is I'm not saying it's not but

[00:30:04] it's tough well

[00:30:05] like I think I think from from your

[00:30:07] perspective it's

[00:30:08] I don't want to say easier

[00:30:10] but I think it's more

[00:30:12] tolerable because

[00:30:13] your wife is an entrepreneur

[00:30:15] like you're both you both have that

[00:30:18] mindset so true when you

[00:30:20] need to push through then she understands

[00:30:22] that why you're doing that

[00:30:24] and why you need to do that or at least

[00:30:26] she's patient with it that's right

[00:30:28] whereas like in my situation

[00:30:30] you know like it's a little bit different

[00:30:32] and

[00:30:34] sometimes that creates conflict

[00:30:36] between us and it's not that we're

[00:30:38] fighting over anything but

[00:30:40] it's more frustration

[00:30:41] like I know again like I said

[00:30:44] she's my wife's a great

[00:30:45] supporter of mine

[00:30:48] and

[00:30:50] when I tell her like look

[00:30:52] I need you to take the kid right now she'll take

[00:30:54] him and do it but

[00:30:56] I can see that she's frustrated

[00:30:58] and rightfully so

[00:31:00] for sure because she was

[00:31:02] not planning but she was

[00:31:03] counting on me taking her

[00:31:05] the kid and then you know

[00:31:07] if I need to do something or

[00:31:09] you know then she's now

[00:31:11] her plan is changing right so

[00:31:13] yeah that's never good

[00:31:15] no so it's tough it's tough

[00:31:17] for us luckily like we

[00:31:19] are very good at communicating right now

[00:31:21] me and my wife after

[00:31:23] our marriage counseling and everything

[00:31:25] we went through

[00:31:27] that's one thing that we've

[00:31:29] I have to say knock on wood

[00:31:34] we've we're talking

[00:31:35] and we've always

[00:31:37] even if we had like misunderstanding

[00:31:39] or miscommunication or

[00:31:41] just you know as Piff

[00:31:43] we always

[00:31:45] talked it out and like

[00:31:48] came up with a solution yeah that's good

[00:31:49] you're getting along yeah yeah

[00:31:51] so our relationship is really good right now

[00:31:54] we are and we're having fun to you

[00:31:55] well and you've worked hard at it

[00:31:56] like it hasn't been that way

[00:31:59] a year ago

[00:32:01] right yeah

[00:32:02] you know and so and not to

[00:32:04] harping on that yeah yeah you come a long way

[00:32:07] for sure you to say that

[00:32:08] go back and listen to the first two or three episodes

[00:32:10] we did one where you talked about it

[00:32:12] it has not been that way

[00:32:14] and so that's awesome that's good

[00:32:16] it's been really good but yeah it's tough

[00:32:18] and I can see

[00:32:20] I can see wearing on my wife

[00:32:22] and on me too

[00:32:24] you know part of me wants

[00:32:28] to do more work

[00:32:31] because I see opportunities

[00:32:34] well and that's the hard part

[00:32:35] right now with the position you're in

[00:32:37] I have to say no yeah

[00:32:38] because um I just

[00:32:40] I just know like it's

[00:32:41] you know we're not there yeah

[00:32:44] yeah um

[00:32:46] I think for me the big thing that I learned

[00:32:49] is just

[00:32:50] it's not that my wife expects me to

[00:32:52] make a lot of commitments

[00:32:54] with my current work life

[00:32:56] how busy it is like

[00:32:58] she doesn't expect a lot of commitments

[00:33:00] from me outside of

[00:33:02] the ones I make to my work

[00:33:04] but the ones I make I keep

[00:33:06] no matter what I keep them

[00:33:08] like I just I have to adjust

[00:33:10] and okay this thing just

[00:33:13] everything's like

[00:33:14] pending that the building was literally on fire

[00:33:16] like yeah yeah unless it's like sorry

[00:33:18] I gotta do this and like I'm fortunate

[00:33:20] also to have a business partner

[00:33:22] who feels the same

[00:33:24] and has a sort of similar situation

[00:33:26] and so at least there's two of us

[00:33:29] like when you're the only one

[00:33:30] if it's burning down you're the only one

[00:33:32] but there's two of us and so we

[00:33:34] it does help lighten the load a little bit

[00:33:36] when it needs to

[00:33:38] it allows us to keep those

[00:33:40] commitments that we make even though we make

[00:33:42] very few to our

[00:33:44] families or our wives

[00:33:45] we do make some but we keep them

[00:33:48] the value of it is greater

[00:33:50] that's the hope well that's how I feel about it

[00:33:52] and I hope my wife feels the same

[00:33:54] but she does

[00:33:56] I'm sure it's frustrating

[00:33:57] sure for her that's frustrating sometimes

[00:34:00] but she powers through

[00:34:02] and it's all for the greater good of the family

[00:34:04] so it's okay but

[00:34:07] I just wonder like is this just

[00:34:08] like I think about my childhood

[00:34:10] and it's just like okay

[00:34:11] so my dad like I grew up

[00:34:14] in a entrepreneurial home

[00:34:16] so like all of this is just kind of normal to me

[00:34:18] like it's just like

[00:34:20] ah yeah it's normal like

[00:34:22] when I was a kid we ate dinner when dad got home

[00:34:24] and dad might not have gotten

[00:34:26] home till 6.30 or 7.00

[00:34:28] and all my friends ate dinner at like

[00:34:30] 5.00 and 5.30 because

[00:34:31] their parents were

[00:34:33] teachers or union workers or whatever

[00:34:35] where it was like no they had jobs

[00:34:37] and it was just different so

[00:34:39] this is not unfamiliar to me any of this

[00:34:42] and I have to remind myself that like

[00:34:44] oh this is an adjustment for

[00:34:46] other people who didn't do this for their entire life

[00:34:48] like see like for

[00:34:51] for my wife like her dad

[00:34:53] when they moved here

[00:34:55] from Slovakia

[00:34:56] first he went to school

[00:34:58] because he was a dentist back there

[00:35:00] as well but when he moved here

[00:35:02] he had to get accredited right so like

[00:35:05] yeah so had to make sure

[00:35:06] that he studied then

[00:35:08] he had to also have go to

[00:35:10] work right so I think

[00:35:12] I believe he worked nights but then eventually

[00:35:14] he became a dentist and then he

[00:35:16] he used to fly up north

[00:35:19] for a weekly thing so

[00:35:20] Monday he would leave come back on Friday

[00:35:22] so like she wouldn't see

[00:35:24] him all week right and then when he had

[00:35:26] his own practice here well it's his own business

[00:35:28] so he had to fucking keep working

[00:35:30] so yeah same thing he would leave in the morning

[00:35:32] come home sometimes at 6.00

[00:35:34] sometimes at 7.30 because he had to finish

[00:35:36] the paperwork and then he had to work on Saturday

[00:35:38] so like you know my wife

[00:35:40] saw this and then she didn't like

[00:35:42] it right and now

[00:35:44] you're doing and I'm just like

[00:35:47] shit

[00:35:50] but

[00:35:50] don't women marry their fathers isn't that

[00:35:54] jeez

[00:35:55] you're a lot like him

[00:35:56] no I won't say that

[00:35:59] you can add that out if you want

[00:36:00] no no no actually my father

[00:36:02] was pretty awesome I like him he's a nice guy

[00:36:04] I've only met him like three times but

[00:36:06] um but you know

[00:36:08] the one thing is and she was

[00:36:10] very adamant about it like we've talked

[00:36:12] about like yeah what like the value

[00:36:14] of family right yeah what's

[00:36:16] what's important to her what's important to me

[00:36:18] and like we're on the same page with that

[00:36:20] so you definitely share that value

[00:36:22] the value like the foundation

[00:36:24] of that is the same for the two of you

[00:36:27] and same for me in rage too

[00:36:28] like it's our foundation is very

[00:36:30] very much the same like I love

[00:36:32] I love having fun with friends and stuff

[00:36:34] but like my family comes first

[00:36:36] and you know like

[00:36:37] um

[00:36:40] uh like just this past

[00:36:41] weekend you know we've talked about it a little bit

[00:36:44] on the chat like I had to cancel

[00:36:45] a big event that I was looking forward

[00:36:47] to you know and like and then

[00:36:50] even my wife kind of like

[00:36:51] she's like oh shit you really are

[00:36:53] not feeling good if you're cancelling this

[00:36:56] and and she understood

[00:36:57] like how not

[00:36:59] heartbroken I was but like

[00:37:01] yeah but yeah this is like

[00:37:03] this is one one thing for you

[00:37:06] this is one big event that I do every year

[00:37:08] and you know I didn't

[00:37:10] get to do it now because I was like but I was like

[00:37:11] okay no I my my thought

[00:37:14] process was like well

[00:37:15] I still I'm still not 100% if I

[00:37:18] go I'm gonna prolong

[00:37:19] that you know and now my wife has

[00:37:22] to do more work so I was like no

[00:37:24] I have to stay home to get better so I can get back

[00:37:26] to yeah our regular life right

[00:37:28] and and so

[00:37:30] the thought behind it was to make sure that

[00:37:32] my family's taking care of me

[00:37:33] which is I think

[00:37:35] like that's

[00:37:36] our job exactly

[00:37:39] it's our responsibility so

[00:37:40] you know just yeah like

[00:37:42] it's again like the powering through like

[00:37:47] you know when I hear

[00:37:49] that all people are busy oh

[00:37:51] I'm so busy doing and I'm just

[00:37:53] like

[00:37:55] you don't

[00:37:57] have kids

[00:37:59] nobody without kids

[00:38:01] can tell me they're busy yeah exactly

[00:38:03] you just trying to understand

[00:38:05] I get it you're your version of busy

[00:38:07] but like you don't yeah like you don't

[00:38:09] know what and like never mind that

[00:38:11] like I have one you have two

[00:38:12] and I think about like how busy I feel

[00:38:15] with it's like oh fuck that guy's

[00:38:17] fucking busy like you don't get it until you're

[00:38:19] in it yeah for sure yeah and like

[00:38:21] I get it if you think you're busy and you

[00:38:23] know like my don't have kids you're

[00:38:25] wrong you're not busy yet my

[00:38:26] core says like wow you just like to

[00:38:28] have you decided to have kids you know

[00:38:30] I'm like you're right absolutely I

[00:38:32] like we're not complaining yeah this

[00:38:34] isn't a complaining thing it's just

[00:38:36] the reality yeah and

[00:38:38] you know I but I love

[00:38:40] every minute of like my son

[00:38:42] saying something funny or stupid

[00:38:44] or like you know what she does

[00:38:46] all the time he's fast

[00:38:50] he's awesome so

[00:38:52] you know with my daughter like it's

[00:38:54] it's different thing right now because

[00:38:56] she's a teenager and like

[00:38:58] our relationship is very

[00:39:04] stagnant a little bit like

[00:39:06] we talk

[00:39:08] a little bit and then we don't

[00:39:10] because she just has no interest

[00:39:12] right exactly

[00:39:14] and I'm accepting it it's like whenever

[00:39:16] I can have a moment with her

[00:39:18] I take it right and

[00:39:21] and

[00:39:22] the other day I just like

[00:39:24] she was singing something

[00:39:26] I'm like oh you know what that band is

[00:39:28] and like this it's a band from like the

[00:39:30] 70s like from Germany and

[00:39:31] I'm showing her videos and I could just

[00:39:33] see that she's like rolling her eyes

[00:39:36] you know and I'm like

[00:39:38] I know this is not very interesting

[00:39:40] too but like just you know like

[00:39:41] humor me for just give me five minutes

[00:39:44] exactly so

[00:39:46] so she did and then I was like okay

[00:39:48] you can go ahead and like leave now

[00:39:52] that's pretty funny pretty hilarious

[00:39:54] but that's just the age

[00:39:56] exactly so and then

[00:39:58] like it'll be like that for a while

[00:40:00] and then it'll change again and then it'll

[00:40:02] change into something else that's right

[00:40:04] my own relationship with my dad

[00:40:06] like it's totally different

[00:40:08] it's changed so many times over

[00:40:10] the years of my life yeah I did

[00:40:12] yeah and in like huge ways

[00:40:14] hmm it's great it's good

[00:40:16] you're just in that middle part

[00:40:18] yeah yeah see like

[00:40:20] I don't have that right because like

[00:40:21] I see my parents

[00:40:23] you know I mean yeah we talk

[00:40:25] like over the internet but like

[00:40:27] I don't talk to my dad really because

[00:40:29] my mom doesn't really let him

[00:40:32] we kind of chat

[00:40:33] just you know I chat with my mom

[00:40:35] and then there's times where like

[00:40:37] my dad picks up the phone and my mom's

[00:40:39] like whatever taking a bath or like

[00:40:41] the neighbors and then hey dad how's

[00:40:44] going he's like good what's new

[00:40:45] with you guys nothing alright

[00:40:49] yeah I just kind of like

[00:40:50] there's nothing else to say but like

[00:40:52] we're not saying we have a bad

[00:40:54] relationship it's just like

[00:40:55] my dad's not that chitty chatty guy

[00:40:58] right more in person different

[00:41:00] yeah but yeah like I mean

[00:41:01] you know he we do have good

[00:41:03] conversations when I'm visiting or when

[00:41:05] he's here so

[00:41:08] but yeah that's

[00:41:10] that's another thing too like

[00:41:11] like my parents don't aren't

[00:41:14] really understanding

[00:41:15] how busy we are

[00:41:18] and

[00:41:19] even like my in-laws a little bit

[00:41:21] like I feel like

[00:41:22] you know like now they're retired and they're

[00:41:24] like how are you guys what's new

[00:41:26] you know we're like same fucking

[00:41:29] thing yeah like busy

[00:41:31] just you know we're doing

[00:41:32] the what do you call it like

[00:41:34] the hamster wheel you know like this

[00:41:37] is what I'm doing for the next year

[00:41:38] yeah it starts Monday and and Sunday

[00:41:41] and I'm doing it again forever

[00:41:43] until somebody

[00:41:45] changes and they just want to talk

[00:41:46] you know and I'm just like

[00:41:49] cool

[00:41:51] but like I'm

[00:41:52] busy and like there's times where like

[00:41:54] they would come over and like we

[00:41:56] would have like either someone's

[00:41:58] birthday or just you know come over

[00:42:01] and like hey guys

[00:42:02] I need to go do some work like I literally

[00:42:04] say that yeah because after like

[00:42:06] two hours of hanging out like

[00:42:09] it's time for me

[00:42:10] like fuck off I got work to do

[00:42:12] so and they're really good

[00:42:14] at that like understanding that

[00:42:16] that like hey I'm

[00:42:18] on this new journey and

[00:42:20] like I need to go do some work right now

[00:42:22] so it's pretty good like

[00:42:24] I don't think they like it but they

[00:42:27] respect it or they respect it

[00:42:29] that's good if they respect it that's

[00:42:30] good yeah they do yeah they don't

[00:42:32] make me feel bad or

[00:42:34] my wife at all

[00:42:36] about me doing it or anything it's

[00:42:38] just

[00:42:39] I think they just like they miss us

[00:42:42] yeah and that's okay

[00:42:44] and it's fair like that's totally fair

[00:42:46] but also like I got to do my fucking

[00:42:48] thing like yeah exactly

[00:42:50] I miss family stuff these days more than

[00:42:52] not and it's just

[00:42:53] I can't do like oh last

[00:42:56] minute we're gonna do this like I'm out

[00:42:58] I'm not like sorry

[00:43:00] I love you but no no yeah the last

[00:43:02] minute things is like last minute

[00:43:04] no no for us yeah like

[00:43:05] plan it ahead I'll put in a calendar

[00:43:08] work around you want to do last minute

[00:43:10] like you can get me and you can text me

[00:43:12] at 10 p.m. and be like

[00:43:13] going to the bar you will last minute

[00:43:16] you want to go for a beer like yeah I'll

[00:43:17] come here that's the time to ask me to

[00:43:20] do that exactly but like don't ask me

[00:43:22] to commit my entire evening

[00:43:23] or whatever like it's just

[00:43:25] that's hard to do yeah exactly or

[00:43:28] I mean it sometimes happens

[00:43:31] reminder that's my calendar

[00:43:32] there you go notifications you know

[00:43:35] here I thought you were getting a phone call

[00:43:37] just you know like I'm not sure if

[00:43:40] whoa

[00:43:42] that's right if you guys can see it

[00:43:43] I'm gonna take a screenshot

[00:43:45] and just like this is my September

[00:43:47] and October does not look

[00:43:49] any better

[00:43:51] and November

[00:43:52] if I actually put stuff in my calendar

[00:43:54] it would look like that yeah you should

[00:43:56] I mean it's a life fucking

[00:43:58] saver for sure I don't do it

[00:44:00] but I get notifications because like I

[00:44:02] do I have forgotten like

[00:44:04] you know

[00:44:06] massage appointments

[00:44:08] that's stuff I put in

[00:44:09] I forgot stuff like that

[00:44:12] because I didn't have that right so now

[00:44:14] everything goes in there

[00:44:16] is that a shared calendar

[00:44:19] not there yet

[00:44:20] oh yeah I know

[00:44:22] I married her fine

[00:44:24] shared calendar seems like a lot of

[00:44:26] come in I'd rather share my bank account

[00:44:29] than the calendar

[00:44:32] so

[00:44:34] let us know like

[00:44:35] if you guys are busy as well

[00:44:38] like this you know where you have

[00:44:39] what's your busy

[00:44:40] I actually I would love to hear that

[00:44:43] what is your busy let us know

[00:44:45] in email or comments on

[00:44:47] YouTube if you're watching

[00:44:49] or shoot us a message on Instagram

[00:44:52] or yeah any of those things

[00:44:53] anywhere TikTok or Facebook

[00:44:56] oh yeah we do we talk about that

[00:44:58] and just yeah let us know

[00:45:00] like what is your busy and how you deal

[00:45:02] with it like I'm just curious to hear

[00:45:04] other suggestions I'd love to hear like

[00:45:06] positive suggestions or outcomes

[00:45:08] or things that did or didn't work for you

[00:45:10] or what have you tried to like

[00:45:12] manage life like it's just managing

[00:45:14] your life yeah I would

[00:45:16] yeah I'd love to hear from anybody

[00:45:18] about what they do and how they do it

[00:45:19] some people without kids

[00:45:22] keep your fucking comments to yourself

[00:45:24] joking

[00:45:26] prove me wrong tell me you're busy

[00:45:28] but yeah I think

[00:45:30] it's time to wrap it up that's good enough

[00:45:32] it may be a little bit shorter

[00:45:34] episode but we're back

[00:45:37] we'll be back now

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[00:45:42] yeah it is nice it is nice

[00:45:43] I get my therapy back

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